First time anybody’s reached out to me in over 8 years. I decided to be open minded. Boy, did I make a mistake.
No contact with mother since 2018. No contact with the rest of the family since around that same time. Never has anybody tried to reach out to me. I receive a text today from my sisters husband who texts that he misses me and wanted to have a phone call. Against my better judgment I tell him I’ll accept a call. When he calls I give him an update that my first grandchild has been born and have about 2 minute of small talk. He tells me that my mother has had a tree fall on her house with some recent storms and that his son has her at his house. He tells me my mother is mentally ill (no kidding) and she is not taking care of herself and smells and all the other not so surprising surprises (hard eye roll). Tells me my sister “has changed” whatever the hell that means and that he knows I have a tough personality so he thinks it would be a good idea if I call my mother to tell her to start bathing herself etc etc. he then asked me how my now 10+year ex husband is doing? I say it sounds like she needs some social services and I will not be giving her any type of personal phone call. He makes a weak attempt at asking why and would calling her make me angry, and then basically lets me go. I’m just flabbergasted and wish like hell I wouldn’t have opened myself up to this today. I’m just looking for opinions and support I suppose.