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TL;DR I (28F) want to be a good big sister to a brother (15M) I have never met. We have the same interests, and I want to provide guidance for his future. So, how do I ensure a bond where there is none?

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I (28F) have a brother that I have never met. He was a result of my father's (58M) cheater lifestyle that he hid from my mother (58M) for 14 years while they were married. I logically know the kid is not at fault for anything at all. And yet, I had never bothered to meet him because of it. I didn't even consider him my "brother", just my dad's other kid.

My dad has changed for the better in the last few years. He probably finally matured or maybe he realized he's past the time to keep laying around. As such, he's been spending more time with his son (before, he was a deadbeat father, and now he's... trying, in his own way), and he's been a more present and supportive father with me. I hope he's been like that with my brother too.

He talks to me about my brother, because sometimes I get curious and ask. Apparently he speaks just like me (and dad), and he has the exact same interests as I do--mainly, aviation and meteorology. My brother wants to become a pilot, and I'm working to get my private pilot license. I'm also in the aerospace industry, and I regularly work with planes of all kinds. I think I could be a good source of guidance for him, and he's at the perfect pre-college age to listen. He seems very interested in his future at this age, which is excellent.

However, I've never been a sister before, since I was raised as an only child. Logically, I know I won't see the kid often as he lives 2 hours away. I don't have any "sisterly" responsibility over him since I wasn't raised with him. But that's the kind of "sisterly" behavior I've seen in my friends who have siblings. That's what I have for reference, which doesn't fit this situation.

The way I see it, I'm trying to become friends with a 15 year old kid... But I also suck at making friends. And I want to be a /good/ sister, not just see him once and that's it. I'd like to follow up with him, show him the planes I work on, teach him the basics of meteorology, provide education/career guidance for what he wants to achieve in life, etc.

I was thinking of digging up my old private pilot books, just to hand him a few when we first meet. I think that's a good introduction for us to part from. But then what? How do I treat him, what do I say? How do I ensure a bond where there is none? The kid has sometimes asked about me too, so I guess that's good? I think I need help from professional, full-time big sisters and big brothers. I don't want to fuck this up, lol.

So, los dueños de la casa fallecieron, y quién está manejando la casa es la hija de ellos. El agua y la luz están a nombre de los difuntos. La hija tiene que darle de baja al servicio para yo darle de alta y ponerlos a mi nombre? O eso ya es automático con mi solicitud de darle alta al servicio?

Edit: Al fin me contestaron de AAA. Dejo el post aquí para que otros con mi misma duda puedan leer. Para el servicio de alta de agua, ya con la solicitud de uno basta. El dueño de la casa no tiene que darle de baja al servicio, ya que eso es automático con el procesamiento de la solicitud de alta.