u/rach1e

if you saw my last post, you’d know i was struggling with gaining independence as a 22 year old indian woman with controlling parents. ever since that post, i’ve had really a tough conversation with my parents, and am ultimately living away from home in my university apartment for the entire summer since i renewed my lease. i feel that distance always tends to mend my parents’ and i’s relationship, so i’m hoping the distance helps this time.

i’m starting my research internship with a hospital on tuesday and i’m excited to start accomplishing things there! i’ve also applied to a bunch of part time jobs so i can earn more money and rely less on my parents. i felt really hopeless last night after i talked to them, but i’m slowly taking steps in (hopefully) the right direction this summer. i’m starting my senior year of college this fall, and i really want to prioritize gaining independence. hopefully this post motivates others to take the same steps if you’re in a similar situation to mine.

thank you to everyone that told me to do the hard thing. also, any other advice for how to slowly gain independence would be super appreciated!

Ever since I told my parents that I want to be a psychologist instead of a physician they've expressed so much disdain towards me that I feel guilty for even being in the same house as them. I'm moving back to my university apartment in a few days, and I wanted to ask what steps I can take to start my financial independence journey (secretly) over the summer so that I can feel less guilty about being a burden to them.

This is the summer before my senior year of college, and I am doing an unpaid research position with a neuropsychology center. But based off of what my finalized work schedule looks like, I was thinking of getting a part time job near my apartment.

I'm kind of starting from scratch when it comes to being financially independent, so any advice would be appreciated.

this summer i (22F) acquired an internship with a hospital (yay). i’m super excited about it and my parents were too when i first got the job. now we’re talking about logistics and they’re upset that i have to drive 40 minutes to my internship. this is information that they knew from the get go when i was applying, so idk why they’re suddenly deciding to be upset about it. i suggested that i could stay at my university apartment because it’s closer to the hospital, and then my mother got mad and called me rebellious for wanting to stay away from home during the summer. it feels like i can never win. i’m crying in my bedroom because this is the one thing i genuinely thought they’d be happy about and support me fully in, but it still feels like they don’t. how do i advocate for my independence and either get them to not necessarily support, but at least be on board with me driving to the job or staying away from home for the summer?