My handsome boy Ollie just turned over a year old! He's still an absolute menace but he's too precious so he gets away with it 😅
Edit: I just noticed my calico staring in the background of the 3rd pic 😂
I've been with my (34F) pwBPD boyfriend (27M) for almost 6 months exactly. He was open and told me he was diagnosed with BPD and went through intensive DBT for years and is also on medications at the beginning of our relationship.
I recently got out of a 13 year relationship (8 year marriage) with a narcissistic husband before meeting my boyfriend. I know it probably wasn't the smartest idea to get in a relationship so soon after my divorce but it kind of just happened.
I met my boyfriend and he was everything my husband wasn't. We had a great connection (but wasn't that explosive immediate connection like I had with my narc ex), we were able to talk about our feelings and emotions openly in a way I never experienced. He stopped to listen to me and vice versa. It worried me when he told me that he had BPD, especially after what I had just gone through, but it seemed like through therapy and medications it was well under control so I allowed myself to fall in love.
I have my own mental health and medical conditions but I've been going to therapy and working on myself and he has been my biggest support. I don't know how I would have gotten through these past 6 months without him. He's helped encourage me to work towards my dreams when my work decided to not take me back after being on medical leave, kept my head up when doctor after doctor kept telling me there's nothing they can do to help me with my medical conditions.
Well I guess today I teased him in front of one of my friends too much and he went into this spiral. It was extremely shocking I never meant any malice or pick on him.
Also due to one of my medical conditions taking a huge toll on me, I ended up in a behavioral health center for a week back in April. He finally told me that week destroyed him and he hasn't been able to process it.
I'll be honest and haven't even thought much about his BPD because I felt like our relationship was going well and it seemed like he had it well under control. Other than being emotional sometimes and asking what I see in him/why I love him (these conversations are usually when we're being lovey dovey though). We had one of these conversations last night so when he asked me why I loved him again today I asked why he needed to be reassured as I already told him all this last night.
He then said he doesn't want to hurt me, he never felt like this with someone, and then broke up with me.
When he was leaving he said that I was an amazing person. I told him to just leave.
I'm so confused since everything seemed to be going well. He did lower his medication dosage a while ago because he seemed to be doing so well.
I guess I was completely wrong and am now absolutely heartbroken.
After already spending a decade in an abusive relationship maybe he's doing me a favor by breaking up with me.
Should I just appreciate the time we had before things potentially started going south? Is it even possible to have a successful relationship with someone with BPD?
I know this is reddit so please try to be kind to me and not ridicule me in the comments.
Thank you ❤️