hello!
I’m a breastfeeding mother to a 1 year old and I’ve come down to Plymouth to visit MY mum for the weekend. in the rush of leaving the house I’ve forgotten my breast pump…and my son isn’t with me.
I wondered if anyone has a breast pump I can borrow or can point me in the direction of a WhatsApp group or something where I could borrow one.
many thanks
Mums who haven’t sleep trained their children….and don’t have unicorn babies that just somehow mastered sleeping…can I ask where you’re at now?! Is your toddler/child still sleeping in the bed? Or did they eventually just work it out?
We tried a very slow chair method with my 13 mo. He’s never been a deep sleeper but I wanted to graduate him from co-sleeping at the buffet breast bar. He has slept through the night about 10x in his life and it doesn’t seem to matter if he’s fed to sleep, has no naps, 2 naps, lots of food, no food.
Managed to get him into the cot and asleep with lots of patting. Worked up to reducing touch and just as we planned to try actually “moving the chair”… then one night he screamed and cried so much that we retreated. And now he’s back in the bed and still waking up loads 😭 and he’s absolutrly hating the cot now. He’s a big boy with a very loud cry who started walking a couple of weeks ago. hes always been very attached and “clingy”. He has settled into nursery but still cries when we leave. He thrashes about in the cot and bed and moves around a lot At night.
I just wonder if there’s an alternative route between co-sleeping or sleep training. Or if we’re sleep training wrong.
for further context he currently wakes around 7am and naps 2x a day (generally). His night time always entails 2+ wake ups and he’s tired and dropping off by 9:30/10am. His second nap is around 12:30. At nursery he’ll sleep for 2 hours but that’s because they pat him to sleep and pat him if he stirs so he came be on schedule with the other kids.
he currently sleeps in our room. Goes to bed with the same routine around 7:30pm. We wanted to sleep train him in the cot in our room and then progress him to a cot bunk bed in his sisters room but we never got that far. There is my office/ the box room he could have but this added an extra step.
he’s breastfed but takes a bottle and I’m planning to give up breastfeeding this week. If my partner sleeps with him, baby would sometimes wake up at 10/11pm and my partner would give him milk in a bottle around 10pm with the hope he’d sleep for a longer stretch. for the rest of the night he’s only offered water. We’re planning to stop milk at night altogether. I’m exhausted and so is the whole family.
Mums who haven’t sleep trained their children….and don’t have unicorn babies that just somehow mastered sleeping…can I ask where you’re at now?! Is your toddler/child still sleeping in the bed? Or did they eventually just work it out?
We tried a very slow chair method with my 13 mo. He’s never been a deep sleeper but I wanted to graduate him from co-sleeping at the buffet breast bar. He has slept through the night about 10x in his life and it doesn’t seem to matter if he’s fed to sleep, has no naps, 2 naps, lots of food, no food.
Managed to get him into the cot and asleep with lots of patting. Worked up to reducing touch and just as we planned to try actually “moving the chair”… then one night he screamed and cried so much that we retreated. And now he’s back in the bed and still waking up loads 😭 and he’s absolutrly hating the cot now. He’s a big boy with a very loud cry who started walking a couple of weeks ago. hes always been very attached and “clingy”. He has settled into nursery but still cries when we leave. He thrashes about in the cot and bed and moves around a lot At night.
I just wonder if there’s an alternative route between co-sleeping or sleep training. Or if we’re sleep training wrong.
for further context he currently wakes around 7am and naps 2x a day (generally). His night time always entails 2+ wake ups and he’s tired and dropping off by 9:30/10am. His second nap is around 12:30. At nursery he’ll sleep for 2 hours but that’s because they pat him to sleep and pat him if he stirs so he came be on schedule with the other kids.
he currently sleeps in our room. Goes to bed with the same routine around 7:30pm. We wanted to sleep train him in the cot in our room and then progress him to a cot bunk bed in his sisters room but we never got that far. There is my office/ the box room he could have but this added an extra step.
he’s breastfed but takes a bottle and I’m planning to give up breastfeeding this week. If my partner sleeps with him, baby would sometimes wake up at 10/11pm and my partner would give him milk in a bottle around 10pm with the hope he’d sleep for a longer stretch. for the rest of the night he’s only offered water. We’re planning to stop milk at night altogether. I’m exhausted and so is the whole family.
Hello,
I’ve just returned to work from Mat leave and I’ve found myself in a difficult situation that is making me wish I listened to my instinct of becoming a product manager a couple of years ago.
I’m a career switcher. I spent almost 10 years working in content marketing: managing social media accounts, managing teams, building communities, pitching ideas and presenting analytics to management. in 2019 I was pregnant with my first child, the pandemic hit and I was made redundant. Having worked at start-ups throughout my career, I’d always observed tech teams and their way of working and I liked the idea of building and creating products that look nice and are user friendly.
There was a big pus in the UK for tech skills and everyone was saying “learn to code”. So in 2022 I started teaching myself, I completed a full stack bootcamp and then started a Software Engineering apprenticeship at my present company.
I always struggled with coding. I just find it hard to understand the technical stuff and preferred front-end JavaScript but still found it hard. Because of this I was sort of ignored as my skill level wasn’t useful to the team.
Last year I was moved to the iOS team as part of my apprenticeship and I felt like I’d finally found my groove. still challenging but I understood the problem and the constraints of Apple development made it easier for me to grasp. So my manager at the time trained me to be an iOs dev and I was able to complete tickets independently. it felt good!
I’ve now had my second child and have returned to work from Mat leave. the new manager has placed me on the backend mobile team due to “business need” and there is no plan to put me back on iOS. I’m struggling on no sleep with nursery settling and my partner away and having to understand a new team and tech stack. I’m really struggling.
i spoke to my manager about returning to iOS, obviously it woudl be easier for me to relearn a language I’m familiar with rather than having to deal with a whole new tech stack. but there’s no chance of that.
I always felt like being a product manager would better suit my natural skills of communicating, understanding user problems, translating them into ideas etc. And now I’m thinking that this team move is the universe telling me to jump. but how
ive started working on my own iOS app, and id like to build publicly whilst documenting it from a pm perspective with the aim of getting a new job.
I wondered if anyone else has made the switch from dev to pm and any advice for making that move. are you happier now?
would I be too niche if I’m looking for junior iOS pm roles…would it be better if I broaden my scope and relearn some web stuff too. not sure how I would with everything on my plate but id like to be aware.
I think I have a few transferable skills from marketing and being a dev, but what skills do I need to learn to make the move.
there is something about the autonomy of engineering that I like. the deep work, the problem solving the research. I’m away that being a pm is more email and calls and management and fire fighting. but I dont see another path forward really. it would be cool to find a pm role that includes some coding.