u/rasberryteapot

Hi everyone, I’m feeling incredibly overwhelmed, isolated, and honestly heartbroken right now. I really need some advice or just some words of comfort from anyone who has been through something similar.

I am currently 36 weeks and 2 days pregnant. I had my first C-section in August 2024 due to low AFI. For this pregnancy, I have been desperately hoping and planning for a VBAC. My baby is currently in the cephalic (head-down) position, and I have no scar tenderness. For the past week, I've been experiencing severe pubic bone and lower back pain with a ton of downward pressure. I was really hoping this meant the baby was engaging and that my cervix might be starting to dilate!

However, at my appointment today, my doctor didn't even perform a cervical check. Instead, she strongly pushed for an elective C-section and basically told me a VBAC is out of the question for me.

She cited three reasons:

Short gap between kids: It will be about a 23-24 month gap between my deliveries.

Baby's weight: Baby is currently tracking on the higher side (estimated 3kgs \pm 450g).

Higher BMI: My BMI is on the higher side.

She told me that if we try for a VBAC and something goes wrong, they "only have 2-3 minutes to save the baby" and that my uterus might never heal properly. She completely shut me down when I asked to at least wait for spontaneous labor, telling me "it’s not safe, don't even think about trying."

To make things harder, she said the exact same things to my husband. Now he is terrified and is echoing her, saying we shouldn't risk my life or the baby's life. She told me to come in and get admitted on Saturday, July 11th for a scheduled delivery (I will only be about 37 weeks and 3 days then).

I feel like absolutely nobody is listening to me, my body, or my wishes. I feel completely cornered into a major surgery that I don't want, and I'm devastated that my husband isn't on my side because he's acting out of pure fear.

Has anyone with a 2-year birth gap, higher BMI, or a bigger baby successfully had a VBAC? Is it normal for a doctor to schedule an elective C-section so early at 37 weeks without giving spontaneous labor a chance? How do I handle this with my husband and doctor over the next week?

Thank you so much for reading. ❤️

I am currently 35 weeks pregnant. I had a C-section in August 2024 due to low AFI. At my 34-week scan, my LUS (lower uterine segment) scar measured 4mm. I also have borderline high blood pressure and am taking Lobet thrice a day, but it is currently well-maintained. Surprisingly, I have lost 7 kg during this pregnancy!

​My baby is currently weighing 2.15 kg. My doctor is now advising a scheduled C-section at 37 weeks to avoid any end-moment risks, even though she says my scar is holding up well and my blood pressure is stable. In the beginning, she said we could try for a VBAC, but now she is completely denying it and won't really listen to me. I have been planning for a TOLAC from the start and asked if we could wait for spontaneous labor, but she isn't open to that window. If the baby's weight is on the lower side, why force an early delivery? She says the gap between my kids is too short (23–24 months) and worries about uterine rupture or my blood pressure shooting up during labor.

​Also, my early ultrasounds showed a due date of July 29th, but my recent scan says July 18th. My doctor won't confirm which date she is using and avoids answering when I ask.

​I would love to hear any successful birth stories or advice from anyone who has been through something similar!

AC measuring behind.

Hii..

As per the EDD I had was 29th of July. I had an ultrasound on 15th may it showed 13th of July as baby was measuring ahead. Today on 12th i had another ultrasound in which GA by USG is 34 weeks 6 days baby's measurements are all good but the AC is measuring 31 weeks. As per current USG EDD is 18th July now but my concern is the radiologist said baby is under weight (2.15kgs) and there is a note written in bold "IUGR IS SEEN. AC=31 WEEKS."

I HAD CONVERSATION WITH MY DOCTOR. POSTING THIS FOR GENERAL ADVICE!!!!!

Rest biophysical profile score is 10/10.

Internal OS is closed. No cord around neck.

Scar thickness is 3.9mm.

Hii..

As per the EDD I had was 29th of July. I had an ultrasound on 15th may it showed 13th of July as baby was measuring ahead. Today on 12th i had another ultrasound in which GA by USG is 34 weeks 6 days baby's measurements are all good but the AC is measuring 31 weeks. As per current USG EDD is 18th July now but my concern is the radiologist said baby is under weight (2.15kgs) and there is a note written in bold "IUGR IS SEEN. AC=31 WEEKS."

Rest biophysical profile score is 10/10.

Internal OS is closed. No cord around neck.

Scar thickness is 3.9mm.

Does anybody has successfully VBAC with 2.9mm of scar thickness??

I have 2.9mm of scar thickness at 29 weeks 3 days!!!

Hii I am currently 29 weeks pregnant and today in my scan my baby was measuring 31 weeks 1 day.

Is this normal??? I mean in my previous ultrasounds I was lagging for 7-8 days and now I am 2 weeks ahead.

Even my EDD changed.

Hii I am currently 29 weeks pregnant and LSCS thickness IS 2.9mm.

Is it possible that I can opt for VBAC. Please I need advice. I know this thing should be discussed with my doctor but I just want to get the opinion.

Hii I am currently 27 weeks 3 days pregnant.

I had a c section with my first born in August 2024. Before current pregnancy I had a missed abortion which was initially treated by mifepristone at home as advised by doctor and after 2 days i was admitted to hospital for further procedure (this was 14 months after c-section). In hospital they gave 4 Misoprostol vaginally (200 mcg each) and was discharged after 24 hours after it expelled.

As I have heard Misoprostol was used to induce labour pain like early labour pain. What I was thinking is given the scenario I am a suitable candidate for VBAC as after 14 months of c-section I have had successfull expulsion??