Darcy vs. Bingley: On indirect boasting and showing off before the ladies.

I honestly didn't appreciate the Netherfield interactions enough when I first read Pride and Prejudice; but they are a great example of Austen's ability to reveal character traits without stating them directly. I'm thinking of one exchange in particular, where Bingley is being naturally charming and accidentally interesting, while Darcy is likely performing for Elizabeth and indirectly boasting.

>"Whatever I do is done in a hurry," replied [Bingley]; "and therefore if I should resolve to quit Netherfield, I should probably be off in five minutes. At present, however, I consider myself as quite fixed here."
"That is exactly what I should have supposed of you," said Elizabeth.
"You begin to comprehend me, do you?" cried he, turning towards her.
"Oh yes—I understand you perfectly."
"I wish I might take this for a compliment; but to be so easily seen through, I am afraid, is pitiful."
"That is as it happens. It does not necessarily follow that a deep, intricate character is more or less estimable than such a one as yours."
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"I did not know before," continued Bingley, immediately, "that you were a studier of character. It must be an amusing study."
"Yes; but intricate characters are the most amusing. They have at least that advantage."
"The country," said Darcy, "can in general supply but few subjects for such a study. In a country neighbourhood you move in a very confined and unvarying society." (ch. 9)

On the morning when Mrs. Bennet visits Netherfield, Elizabeth and Bingley fall into the type of easy banter Darcy can't navigate.

On one hand, Bingley is effortlessly friendly. He's not trying to impress Elizabeth; he simply converses in a manner that makes him pleasant to be around. When Elizabeth says that she has been studying him, he turns it into a joke about being too easily understood. He unintentionally does something Darcy struggles with throughout the novel: he makes his flaws socially attractive by owning them without ego, which causes Elizabeth to treat his impulsiveness as endearing.

On the other hand, Darcy reacts very differently in this situation. The moment Elizabeth reveals that Bingley has captured her attention (by admitting she's been observing him) AND mentions that she enjoys studying "intricate characters," Darcy abruptly inserts himself into a conversation he was previously not participating in. It's a strange shift. Bingley and Elizabeth were in a playful mood, and suddenly Darcy turns the discussion into something more serious and abstract. There's an element of jealousy here; I don't mean romantic jealousy, but a jealous impulse on the basis of competence. Bingley can easily entertain Elizabeth, the woman Darcy is attracted to, while Darcy can't match his friend's sociability. With Elizabeth's comment about complex people, Darcy suddenly has an advantage over Bingley. He is precisely that sort of difficult-to-know person she claims to enjoy studying, and he instantly tries to establish himself as the deep thinker in the room.

>"That will not do for a compliment to Darcy, Caroline," cried [Bingley], "because he does not write with ease. He studies too much for words of four syllables. Do not you, Darcy?"
"My style of writing is very different from yours."
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"My ideas flow so rapidly that I have not time to express them; by which means my letters sometimes convey no ideas at all to my correspondents."
"Your humility, Mr. Bingley," said Elizabeth, "must disarm reproof."
"Nothing is more deceitful," said Darcy, "than the appearance of humility. It is often only carelessness of opinion, and sometimes an indirect boast."
"And which of the two do you call my little recent piece of modesty?"
"The indirect boast; for you are really proud of your defects in writing, because you consider them as proceeding from a rapidity of thought and carelessness of execution, which, if not estimable, you think at least highly interesting. The power of doing anything with quickness is always much prized by the possessor, and often without any attention to the imperfection of the performance. When you told Mrs. Bennet this morning, that if you ever resolved on quitting Netherfield you should be gone in five minutes, you meant it to be a sort of panegyric, of compliment to yourself; and yet what is there so very laudable in a precipitance which must leave very necessary business undone, and can be of no real advantage to yourself or anyone else?"
"Nay," cried Bingley, "this is too much, to remember at night all the foolish things that were said in the morning. And yet, upon my honour, I believed what I said of myself to be true, and I believe it at this moment. At least, therefore, I did not assume the character of needless precipitance merely to show off before the ladies." (ch. 10)

Later that evening, Bingley makes a joke at Darcy's expense, which paints him as overly pretentious and formal. At first, Darcy reacts dismissively, but once Elizabeth joins in to praise Bingley's humility, Darcy seems to become more self-conscious about his own stiffness and launches into a lecture to compensate with intellect. He simply can't let Bingley win points for being both charmingly flawed and humble.

Provoked by Elizabeth's earlier comment that "intricate characters" are fascinating, as well as that she enjoys studying people, Darcy almost seems to begin dissecting Bingley's behavior in order to present himself as the better reader of character. Essentially, he hijacks the spotlight from his friend in an attempt to prove to Elizabeth that he's the one worth studying. Of course, I'm not sure how much of this is conscious. That's part of what makes it interesting: Darcy may not even realize what he's doing at this point in the narrative.

Notably, Bingley doesn't respond by turning the same analytical lens on Darcy, even though Darcy has clearly escalated things; he does make a comment about Darcy's brooding on Sunday evenings though (but with the intention of putting an end to it). Rather than defending himself further or competing for more attention, he eventually asks Elizabeth and Darcy to postpone their argument until he leaves the room, which reveals a great deal about his personality. If he was petty and prideful, he would have responded with a counterattack, but his instinct is to smooth things over rather than win the argument.

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Thinking about this made me realize that Bingley and Darcy are literally the male versions of Serena and Blair from Gossip Girl and now I'm laughing.

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u/raysmia — 6 hours ago

Best P&P retellings from Darcy’s POV?

I know it’s a bit cliche, but I love retellings from the POV of the other protagonist (e.g. Twilight and Midnight Sun); which is why I’m currently looking for such from Darcy’s perspective.

I currently bought Stanley Michael Hurd’s Darcy’s Tale trilogy (they’re looking promising from what I’ve read so far—the first half of Book I). But I need more. However, I’m very fastidious (like Darcy himself I guess), and if there’s many inconsistencies with canon, they bother me to no end. For instance, I tried that one book which is meant to be Darcy’s journal, but noticed so many inconsistencies with the canon timeline that I abandoned it. Please, I’d appreciate any recommendations, especially if you have some niche ones.

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u/raysmia — 4 days ago

How to participate in the ticket draw for the upcoming Bundesliga season?

So I just got a membership; and I see that the Bundesliga schedule will be published tomorrow, on July 2nd. Now, what? When can I expect for ticket draws to be available (on the Ticket Request Portal) so I can participate?

And how does it work; on the website, it says that tickets for all requests will be allocated by drawing lots approx. 4-6 weeks before the respective match and will be sent out digitally by e-mail. Does that mean I can participate in as many draws as I want and hope to get tickets for one? Do they give you a timeframe in which you need to respond (=buy) after getting an email?

And finally, can I get 2 tickets?

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u/raysmia — 5 days ago

Has anyone else noticed how fixated Darcy and Elizabeth are on each other's marital destiny before the first proposal?

Long before the Hunsford proposal, Jane Austen has both Elizabeth and Darcy fixated on each other's marital destiny; and she beautifully builds this up to Elizabeth's scathing "the last man in the world whom I could ever be prevailed on to marry" (ch. 34) declaration and Darcy's disastrous confession of love, which focuses too much on class, reason and obligation.

I believe that, as usual, Austen is making a brilliant observation about human nature through their personal struggles: before we are mature enough to admit that something makes us vulnerable, we tend to engage with it in hypothetical terms to manage the feelings we aren't ready to face yet.

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Elizabeth's obsession with who Darcy will marry and, especially, what kind of husband he will be is a running theme throughout the first part of the novel. Being the vulnerable party (a woman at a time when women had to depend on the kindness of men; and a woman, who has been insulted by Darcy), she uses cynicism and contempt to protect her pride.

She repeatedly envisions Darcy in loveless unions (whether with Anne and Caroline, or the more general idea of a submissive wife), turning marriage into a sort of punishment for him. It could be argued that, after being slighted by him, she's reassuring herself that she isn't missing out on anything worth having.

>"I like her appearance," said Elizabeth, struck with other ideas. "[Anne] looks sickly and cross. Yes, she will do for him very well. She will make him a very proper wife." (ch. 28)

She takes great comfort in pairing him with a "sickly and cross" wife—a marriage bound to be unhappy and emasculating even. In her mind, he deserves a physically weak (= undesirable, unable to participate in social life or fulfill her responsibilities as a wife; it sounds very cruel when stated like this, but this is essentially a revenge fantasy), ill-tempered (like her mother, Lady Catherine) wife, who would make him just as miserable as he would make her.

>Elizabeth looked at Darcy, to see how cordially he assented to [Anne]'s praise: but neither at that moment nor at any other could she discern any symptom of love; and from the whole of his behaviour to Miss De Bourgh she derived this comfort for Miss Bingley, that he might have been just as likely to marry her, had she been his relation. (ch. 31)

Elizabeth is convinced that Darcy is cold and immune to sentimentality, and assumes that he is likely to marry just about anyone if he would have sufficient material gain from the union. She reduces his marriage to one of convenience and duty only, entirely devoid of passion.

>"I imagine [Darcy] brought you down with him chiefly for the sake of having somebody at his disposal. I wonder he does not marry, to secure a lasting convenience of that kind." (ch. 33)

This seemingly casual comment to Colonel Fitzwilliam is actually very dark. She projects onto Darcy the worst possible motives; painting him as a domestic tyrant, who would only ever marry so he can have someone available 24/7 to order about.

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The idea of Elizabeth being his wife dominates Darcy's thoughts long before he consciously admits to himself that he wants to marry her. Being the privileged party (in contrast to Elizabeth; he is a powerful, wealthy man at a time when men have significant influence over women and in society), he uses logic, rank and irony to protect both his heart and pride.

>"That is exactly the question which I expected you to ask. A lady's imagination is very rapid; it jumps from admiration to love, from love to matrimony, in a moment. I knew you would be wishing me joy." (ch. 6)

When Darcy complimented Elizabeth's eyes, he's already lowkey crossing a line. His instinct then is to distance himself from the fact that he publicly admired a woman beneath his station, which is why he tries to frame it as predicting what "a lady" would imagine. But by twice saying that he "expected" and "knew" Caroline's mind would jump to matrimony, he accidentally exposes his own thoughts, revealing that his own mind had already mapped out that exact trajectory. He wants to dismiss his own feelings of attraction in an 'I'm just admiring her appearance' sort of way, using Caroline's words to police his boundaries.

>"If they had uncles enough to fill all Cheapside," cried Bingley, "it would not make them one jot less agreeable."
"But it must very materially lessen their chance of marrying men of any consideration in the world," replied Darcy. (ch. 8)

When Darcy speaks of "men of any consideration in the world," he is quite literally talking about himself. This isn't just a general sociological observation; he has already assessed Elizabeth's suitability as a potential wife for a man of his stature, and found her wanting by his own standards. But he's attracted to her, so he actively tries to build a wall between inclination and his worldview, hoping that reason would win in the end.

>[Caroline] often tried to provoke Darcy into disliking her guest, by talking of their supposed marriage, and planning his happiness in such an alliance.
"I hope [...] you will give your mother-in-law a few hints, when this desirable event takes place, as to the advantage of holding her tongue; and if you can compass it, to cure the younger girls of running after the officers. And, if I may mention so delicate a subject, endeavour to check that little something, bordering on conceit and impertinence, which your lady possesses."
"Have you anything else to propose for my domestic felicity?"
"Oh yes. Do let the portraits of your uncle and aunt Philips be placed in the gallery at Pemberley. Put them next to your great-uncle the judge. They are in the same profession, you know, only in different lines. As for your Elizabeth's picture, you must not attempt to have it taken, for what painter could do justice to those beautiful eyes?"
"It would not be easy, indeed, to catch their expression; but their colour and shape, and the eyelashes, so remarkably fine, might be copied." (ch. 10)

Here, Darcy is playing a dangerous game. On the one hand, he is perversely enjoying this conversation. Caroline is desperately trying to disgust him with the prospect of marrying Elizabeth by listing all the possible objections to such a match. But he doesn't react with disgust; instead, he engages with the fantasy, as it allows him to visualize a future with her under the safe guise of humor. On the other hand, he pretends that the concept of marrying Elizabeth is so absurd that he can joke about it with ease to protect himself...

>"To Mr. Darcy it was welcome intelligence: Elizabeth had been at Netherfield long enough. She attracted him more than he liked; and Miss Bingley was uncivil to her and more teasing than usual to himself. He wisely resolved to be particularly careful that no sign of admiration should now escape him—nothing that could elevate her with the hope of influencing his felicity; sensible that, if such an idea had been suggested, his behaviour during the last day must have material weight in confirming or crushing it." (ch. 12)

This quote is also about marriage. Darcy assumes that if Elizabeth realizes how much he admires her, she will immediately start hoping that he will propose. But he's currently trying to convince himself that he will never make such an offer, which is why he resolves to act in a way that would discourage her.

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I honestly find these instances very interesting and think they deserve to be discussed properly.

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u/raysmia — 11 days ago

Did the Gardiners think Darcy and Lizzy had a secret understanding, or merely that something was growing between them?

This might be a rather obvious question... But I've read Pride and Prejudice twice now, and both times I interpreted it that while Mr. and Mrs. Gardiner suspected that there was secretly more going on between Elizabeth and Darcy than openly stated, they never thought that an actual confession of feelings/marriage proposal had taken place.

Their suppositions come from observing Darcy: to them it's "evident that he was very much in love with her" (ch. 44); they have "the full conviction that [he] at least knew what it was to love" (ch. 44); to them it's "evident enough" that he is "overflowing with admiration" (ch. 44). But they are unsure about Elizabeth's feelings: "of [her] sensations they remained a little in doubt" (ch. 44); and Mrs. Gardiner can't help but notice that "[Darcy's] name had never been voluntarily mentioned before them by [her]" (ch. 48). There's no reason, I believe, to analyze any of this as the Gardiners being under the impression that there's a secret understanding/engagement.

BUT what if, after Darcy's involvement with the Lydia/Wickham scandal, they actually start thinking Darcy and Elizabeth are, in fact, engaged or very close to it. This line could be suggesting just that:

>"[...] my dear Lizzy, you may rest perfectly assured that your uncle would never have yielded, if we had not given him credit for another interest in the affair." (ch. 52)

This is from Mrs. Gardiner's explanatory letter to Elizabeth; and, until now, I always assumed that by "another interest in the affair," Mrs. Gardiner meant Darcy being in love with her and planning to propose soon. But maybe she's saying that his "[other] interest in the affair" is him practically being family with the Bennets at this point, only waiting to be approved by Mr. Bennet and announced.

>"I thought him very sly; he hardly ever mentioned your name. But slyness seems the fashion. Pray forgive me, if I have been very presuming, or at least do not punish me so far as to exclude me from P." (ch. 52)

Of course, the implication here is super obvious once you start reading it in this way.

However, going further back, there is another interesting quote that is very enlightening.

>"Mrs. Gardiner went away [from Longbourn] in all the perplexity about Elizabeth and her Derbyshire friend, that had attended her from that part of the world. [...] the kind of half-expectation which Mrs. Gardiner had formed, of their being followed by a letter from him, had ended in nothing." (ch. 48)

She actually half-expected that he would write to Elizabeth, or maybe even to her father to ask for her hand (I guess that would also make sense for what is going through Mrs. Gardiner's mind). Would it not have been slightly uncommon for Darcy to send a letter to Elizabeth, or anyone at Longbourn for that matter, unless they are quite serious?

And then this can be further supported by Elizabeth's response to her aunt:

>"You supposed more than really existed. But now suppose as much as you choose; [...], and unless you believe me actually married, you cannot greatly err." (ch. 60)

Before I read this as: 'you assumed that we were secretly courting, but that wasn't the case.' But what if it is: 'you assumed that we were secretly engaged, but that wasn't the case?'

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Would the simple explanation be that before the Lydia/Wickham crisis, the Gardiners strongly believe Darcy is in love, and likely planning to propose; but after his eager involvement in the family affair, they begin to suspect an understanding/engagement already took place, since his behaviour crosses the line from 'a man in love' to 'a man acting with the rights of a fiancé'? And she does call him "sly."

So which interpretation is it? I love discussing such nuances.

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u/raysmia — 17 days ago
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Darcy's letter is actually SO FUNNY.

I don't know if it's just me, but I've always found Darcy's letter so charmingly petty! One can easily see that it was indeed "written in a dreadful bitterness of spirit." I can 100% envision him fuming while composing it! Not to mention that it's approx. 2600 words!!! That's a whole essay, sir!

Let's dissect (and, most importantly, laugh)!

>"Be not alarmed, madam, on receiving this letter, by the apprehension of its containing any repetition of those sentiments, or renewal of those offers, which were last night so disgusting to you."

He doesn't even start with the proper "Dear Miss Bennet" opening. And he's so dramatic, too! Beginning with a "be not alarmed" reassurance; then insinuating that she must feel "apprehension" of him renewing his proposal; and my favorite—"so disgusting to you"!!! He's determined to pretend he's above caring!

>"I write without any intention of paining you, or humbling myself, by dwelling on wishes, which, for the happiness of both, cannot be too soon forgotten..."

He's basically saying 'just so you know I don't plan to grovel, so don't flatter yourself.'

>"You must, therefore, pardon the freedom with which I demand your attention; your feelings, I know, will bestow it unwillingly..."

Now, this is positively hysterical! Her feelings, HE KNOWS, will bestow her attention UNWILLINGLY... Brilliant! In the introductory paragraph, he keeps framing her reactions as predictable, almost dismissively so, likely in an attempt to appear nonchalant. He states that he's simply writing to defend his honor (which he certainly is... in part), but the sheer commitment to detail and the several emotional slips scream that he's also hurt and disappointed.

>"But from the severity of that blame which was last night so liberally bestowed..."

Oh, he's MAD mad! Peak passive-aggressiveness!

>"I had often seen him in love before."

Not Bingley catching strays!😭 Casually dragging his friend's perceived fickleness in the middle of this mess...

>"If you have not been mistaken here, I must have been in an error. Your superior knowledge of your sister must make the latter probable."

He still lowkey thinks he's right. The audacity! The possibility of Elizabeth being right is framed as hypothetical.

>"But amidst your concern for the defects of your nearest relations, and your displeasure at this representation of them, let it give you consolation to consider that to have conducted yourselves so as to avoid any share of the like censure is praise no less generally bestowed on you and your eldest sister than it is honourable to the sense and disposition of both."

The backhanded compliment! Translation: 'your family is embarrassing; but you and Jane are not; so you should feel... grateful I guess.' Hmmmm???

>"There is but one part of my conduct, in the whole affair, on which I do not reflect with satisfaction; it is that I condescended to adopt the measures of art so far as to conceal from him your sister’s being in town. [...] Perhaps this concealment, this disguise, was beneath me. It is done, however, and it was done for the best."

The "perhaps" kills me. Just say sorry, man!

>"Here again I shall give you pain—to what degree you only can tell. But whatever may be the sentiments which Mr. Wickham has created, a suspicion of their nature shall not prevent me from unfolding his real character. It adds even another motive."

He's totally dying to know how deep Elizabeth is in with Wickham. Even the way he phrases it... He doesn't say 'the sentiments you have for Mr. Wickham,' instead he says "the sentiments which Mr. Wickham has created." This is straight-up coping. By framing the attraction he suspects she has as something Wickham inflicted on her, Darcy preserves his view of her as intelligent and good. At the same time, he doesn't scruple to expose Wickham—in fact, his suspicion of her feelings "adds even another motive." I'd say he's being mostly protective (because Wickham is a literal predator), but also petty jealous (in a 'since you like him so much, I'll show you what he is' type of way).

>"[Mr. Wickham's] circumstances, he assured me, and I had no difficulty in believing it, were exceedingly bad."

HAHA, yes, roast that scoundrel!

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And to think that he believed himself "perfectly calm and cool" while writing this!

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u/raysmia — 19 days ago

About John Lucas (Pride and Prejudice).

Much like how Colonel Fitzwilliam is universally "Richard" in fanon, I’ve noticed that many Pride and Prejudice fanfics feature an OC by the name of “John Lucas,” who is, of course, a member of the Lucas household—usually younger than Charlotte, and around Lizzy’s age, often described as a childhood friend of hers.

Is there a specific story or author who popularized this? Or did it just happen on its own somehow?

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u/raysmia — 23 days ago

What’s your opinion on original characters in JAFF?

I honestly feel like some authors overdo it. Especially in P&P stories.There’s enough of characters to work with, including even characters that are mentioned by Austen, but not properly sketched out (Colonel Fitzwilliam’s older brother and parents, Darcy’s judge uncle, etc). In light of this, I’d love recommendations for stories without OCs.

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u/raysmia — 30 days ago

Did Darcy hope/intend to marry Georgiana to Bingley?

A comment on a recent post of mine made me wonder about this. In the following paragraph, is the omniscient narrator presenting us reality as it is OR is the omniscient narrator telling us what Elizabeth's assessment of the situation is? Maybe even both?

>Not a syllable had ever reached [Caroline] of [Georgiana]'s meditated elopement. To no creature had it been revealed, where secrecy was possible, except to Elizabeth; and from all Bingley's connections [Darcy] was particularly anxious to conceal it, from that very wish which Elizabeth had long ago attributed to him, of their becoming hereafter her own. [Darcy] had certainly formed such a plan; and without meaning that it should affect his endeavour to separate [Bingley] from [Jane], it is probable that it might add something to his lively concern for the welfare of his friend. (ch. 45)

The first time I read the novel I glossed over this detail, not giving it much importance. But, upon further reflection, perhaps Darcy was indeed partial to this match.

He's protective, fastidious, private and doesn't easily trust people, especially when it comes to Georgiana. Colonel Fitzwilliam and Bingley are the only close friends he is shown to have—and since the former is his sister's co-guardian, that leaves only the latter as a potential candidate for her husband. It would explain why Darcy is so intent on advising his friend as well as meddling in his affairs. As we know that he genuinely admires Bingley, he probably thought he would be a perfectly kind and respectful husband. He also finds his position in society to be acceptable, and maybe considered that by matchmaking them, he would always be on good terms with his sister's husband, which is preferable to having her marry someone distant. Also, Bingley is 22/23, Georgiana is 15/16 throughout the novel. In a modern context, it's an absolute no-no for a brother to encourage such a relationship, yes, but the novel is set in the early 19th century AND I assume Darcy would've waited at least 2-3 more years before subtly suggesting it (I'm also sure he wouldn't have pushed Georgiana if she was opposed to it; but it was an option he liked to have).

It must be noted that in her letter to Jane, Caroline also hints at Darcy's interest, not just her own. Maybe she's not so delusional on this matter after all, and the fact that it helps her own prospects is only a bigger incentive to be in support of it. Darcy has repeatedly expressed his high regard for Bingley, welcomed him and his family warmly to Pemberley, and allowed Caroline and Louisa to openly dote on Georgiana. Perhaps Caroline picked up on his very real compliance... and, of course, weaponized it to serve her own agenda.

>I really do not think [Georgiana] has her equal for beauty, elegance, and accomplishments; and the affection she inspires in Louisa and myself is heightened into something still more interesting from the hope we dare to entertain of her being hereafter our sister. [...] My brother admires her greatly already; he will have frequent opportunity now of seeing her on the most intimate footing; her relations all wish the connection as much as his own; and a sister's partiality is not misleading me, I think, when I call Charles most capable of engaging any woman's heart. With all these circumstances to favour an attachment, and nothing to prevent it, am I wrong, my dearest Jane, in indulging the hope of an event which will secure the happiness of so many? (ch. 21)

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u/raysmia — 1 month ago

Darcy's views on marriage prior to meeting Elizabeth?

I'm interested in discussing Darcy's conception of marriage prior to meeting Elizabeth.

At the start of the novel, he can neither be described as a romantic idealist (like Bingley), nor as a cold pragmatist (like Lady Catherine); which is why he's such an intriguing male lead. But I suspect that he leans more towards the romantic idealist without actually realizing it: it's likely that he tells himself that both practical and emotional considerations matter to him (as I simply can't see him consciously settling for a woman he doesn't esteem), but he puts more emphasis on the practical, until falling in love with Elizabeth forces him to realize how greatly he values affection and compatibility.

>"If they had uncles enough to fill all Cheapside," cried Bingley, "it would not make them one jot less agreeable."
"But it must very materially lessen their chance of marrying men of any consideration in the world," replied Darcy. (ch. 8)

He's very responsible and proud, meaning he definitely planned on eventually honoring his duty of producing an heir, and precisely because of his position in society, he likely convinced himself that rank and connections were a decisive factor in the selection of a wife. This thought process is revealed on several occasions throughout the story, and especially in his first proposal–when he confesses to Elizabeth that he loves her "against [his] will, against [his] reason, and even against [his] character," (ch. 34) he's basically expressing that until now he was guided by practical considerations.

HOWEVER, I wonder if that is truly the case? He has never admitted it to himself or maybe never stopped to dwell on it long enough to properly realize it, but I think that, in his heart, he has always cared about feelings when it comes to marriage. The ultimate proof of this is his attitude towards Anne de Bourgh. Darcy's a dutiful man, he's not a rebel by temperament; he fulfilled his father's wishes regarding Wickham, despite it costing him dearly and him not approving of the man. Similarly, his mother was partial to the idea of her son marrying her sister's daughter; but Darcy never addresses this as an obligation he has. In fact, he never even speaks of it. It's a pretty big deal because even Wickham is aware of this expectation, it's not just Lady Catherine's fantasy, yet Darcy dismisses it entirely and not even once acts like a man breaking a promise. This is striking because it confirms that, even if he wouldn't own up to it, he has always seen marriage as a personal choice and parental wishes cannot compel him to go against the desires of his heart. If he genuinely championed practical considerations as much as he claims to, he would've simply offered for Anne. She's the perfect candidate for his wife.

Another thing to be taken into account is his main argument in his interference in Bingley and Jane's relationship–that being his assumption that Jane is indifferent to his friend. This both shows that Darcy is wary of fortune-hunters, but also that he expects spouses to share mutual regard for one another. A marriage of unequal affections, or no affection at all, doesn't seem very appealing to him, which is perfect for the massive irony of his first proposal to Elizabeth. When he comes to her, he hopes to be rewarded precisely because he finally reached the realization that his pride and prejudices don't govern him and dared to act on it; he also mistakenly thinks that they are on the same page more or less–they match well, and there is, in his mind, a clear unacknowledged thing going on between them.

Realistically, I believe that had Elizabeth (or another woman he could love in a similar way) not entered his life, Darcy would've remained a bachelor until his early/mid-30s, delayed and delayed, and then, when pressured by time, he would've suffered quite a bit–that is, I can't imagine him being as content as Charlotte in a practical arrangement. I'm not insinuating that he would be deliberately cruel to his wife, but that he would probably be extremely dissatisfied. He's too principled and intense to comfortably enter into a purely strategic alliance. He thinks he's a practical man, yet much of his behavior suggests that he's very romantic by nature. Someone like Bingley could perhaps be happy with many pleasant, attractive women. His requirements for domestic felicity are relatively simple. While Darcy appears capable of loving only a very particular kind of person; not because he's fastidious, but because he's deeply emotional.

What are your thoughts?

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u/raysmia — 1 month ago

P&P recs set in the modern age?

But at the same time keeping the characters not too OOC. Please. And, ideally, without too many original characters.

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u/raysmia — 1 month ago

Mr. Bingley's agency and why did he return to Netherfield Park in 1812?

I've always wondered if Bingley's return to Hertfordshire reveals more about his agency than is discussed.

The narrator informs us that, according to rumors, the Netherfield housekeeper "had received orders to prepare for the arrival of her master, who was coming down in a day or two, to shoot there for several weeks" (ch. 54). In terms of historical context, it makes perfect sense, because from my understanding after the London season wrapped up in August, gentlemen headed to their country estates for shooting parties. However, I can't help but wonder if there is more to Bingley's return.

We know that by this point in the story, Darcy still hasn't confessed his interference to Bingley: he does it "on the evening before" his trip to London, after the two men had been to Longbourn several times, giving Darcy enough time to "narrowly observe" Jane and become fully "convinced of her affection" (ch. 58).

This means that Bingley returned to Hertfordshire on his own initiative, supposedly "to shoot," in mid September, still operating under the assumption that Jane is indifferent to him.

What makes me think that there is more going on with Bingley behind the scenes is that just a month and a half before his return to Netherfield, he met Elizabeth in Derbyshire, and I suspect that the unexpected reunion affected him strongly. It perhaps made him regret not following his heart and allowing his friends and family to influence him the previous year.

>In seeing Bingley, her thoughts naturally flew to her sister; and oh! how ardently did she long to know whether any of his were directed in a like manner. Sometimes she could fancy that [Bingley] talked less than on former occasions, and once or twice pleased herself with the notion that, as he looked at her, he was trying to trace a resemblance. [...]; and two or three little circumstances occurred ere they parted, which, in her anxious interpretation, denoted a recollection of Jane, not untinctured by tenderness, and a wish of saying more that might lead to the mention of her, had he dared. He observed to her, at a moment when the others were talking together, and in a tone which had something of real regret, that it "was a very long time since he had had the pleasure of seeing her;" and, before she could reply, he added, "It is above eight months. We have not met since the 26th of November, when we were all dancing together at Netherfield."
Elizabeth was pleased to find his memory so exact; and he afterwards took occasion to ask her, when unattended to by any of the rest, whether all her sisters were at Longbourn. There was not much in the question, nor in the preceding remark; but there was a look and a manner which gave them meaning. (ch. 44)

Bingley is clearly very eager to learn more about Jane, and deliberately makes his more obvious inquiries privately to Elizabeth when the others are distracted ("at a moment when the others were talking together," "when unattended to by any of the rest"), likely to avoid Darcy's potential censure. His love for Jane is such that even being told that she doesn't care for him has not lessened his feelings. I think this interaction is very important as it probably makes him start questioning if there is still any hope of winning Jane's heart. It would fit very well narratively if here Bingley was inspired to act, because then the meeting in Derbyshire becomes significant for both couples (and both are equally crucial thematically; Austen is not just criticizing what happens when you have too much pride and prejudice, she's also exposing what happens when you have too little pride and prejudice; I guess the message is that happiness is somewhere in the middle).

And, in this excerpt, as soon as Bingley and Darcy are back at Longbourn, Bingley can't resist Jane's presence, and he's even throwing Darcy glances of "half-laughing alarm" almost as if to say "look what I'm doing":

>On Tuesday there was a large party assembled at Longbourn; and [Bingley and Darcy] who were most anxiously expected, to the credit of their punctuality as sportsmen, were in very good time. When they repaired to the dining-room, Elizabeth eagerly watched to see whether Bingley would take the place which, in all their former parties, had belonged to him, by her sister. [...] On entering the room, he seemed to hesitate; but Jane happened to look round, and happened to smile: it was decided. He placed himself by her. Elizabeth, with a triumphant sensation, looked towards his friend. He bore it with noble indifference; and she would have imagined that Bingley had received his sanction to be happy, had she not seen his eyes likewise turned towards Mr. Darcy, with an expression of half-laughing alarm. His behaviour to her sister was such during dinnertime as showed an admiration of her, which, though more guarded than formerly, persuaded Elizabeth, that, if left wholly to himself, Jane’s happiness, and his own, would be speedily secured. (ch. 54)

I feel like fanfiction/variations and discussions often paint him as a bit too passive and without any agency of his own. He was, indeed, very discouraged by everyone telling him that Jane doesn't return his feelings (anyone would be), but by the end, I think that he has made a conscious decision, even if cautious, to try again and Darcy's confirmation only alleviated his anxiety. Jane, too, had her little growth moment of realizing and acknowledging the duplicity of Caroline and Louisa, so it's not too far-fetched to assume Austen intended the same for Bingley.

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u/raysmia — 1 month ago

Is Mr. Darcy exaggerating the social gap between himself and Elizabeth due to his pride?

Well, yes, there is certainly a social gap between them. The difference in wealth is astronomical; and Mr. Darcy has connections to the aristocracy, while some of Elizabeth's relatives aren't even part of the landed gentry. It's certainly a bit of a mismatch, but I can't help but wonder, if we were to look at the context realistically (and ignore potential fictional dramatization for plot purposes), how much of Mr. Darcy's original perception of the divide between himself and Elizabeth is exaggerated as a result of his pride, and how much could be accepted as a very real concern that reflects Regency attitudes? Would many people in Mr. Darcy's circles have truly been very critical?

As Elizabeth says in response to Lady Catherine, she and Mr. Darcy are "equal," she is the daughter of a gentleman, after all (ch. 56). She isn't a working-class girl, this isn't a Cinderella story, or the fourth season of Bridgerton.

Yet, Lady Catherine (also guilty of pride) strongly believes that marriage to Elizabeth would "disgrace" Mr. Darcy "in the eyes of everybody," and "ruin him in the opinion of all his friends, and make him the contempt of the world" (ch. 56).

But then Colonel Fitzwilliam (not prideful, simply realistic) implies that if younger sons could afford the luxury of marrying without paying "attention to money" (ch. 33), he possibly would've considered pursuing a love match (though he would definitely never dare to think of marrying anyone outside of the gentry/aristocracy, but he would perhaps be fine with the woman being poorer than him and not having grand connections if he genuinely liked her).

In the end, Mr. Darcy is not said to be grievously injured by marrying Elizabeth; his friends don't abandon him, he doesn't suffer financially, neither does his marriage affect the future prospects of his sister; even Lady Catherine eventually succumbs (and I'm sure that if he had married an actress, for example, she would've never forgiven him). So my question is, especially for those familiar with Regency reality and perhaps even real-life similar cases, is Mr. Darcy exaggerating how much the world would be against such a match due to his own pride and prejudices, or did Austen carefully omit the negative aspects that would've plagued this union in order not to spoil the romantic conclusion for the reader?

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u/raysmia — 2 months ago

Regency era etiquette question: morning calls vs. visits between fiancés [P&P]

I've been wondering for quite some time about Regency etiquette when it comes to morning calls and visits between fiancés. I'd love some context if anyone here is familiar with this topic.

From my understanding and brief research, morning calls (held between 12PM and 3PM despite the name) were approximately 15-30 minutes long and anything more was considered a major social faux pas and even an imposition on the host. But then, as I was reading Pride and Prejudice, I couldn't help but notice that once Mr. Bingley and Jane are engaged, he is pretty much free to spend full days at Longbourn.

>"Bingley, from this time, was of course a daily visitor at Longbourn; coming frequently before breakfast, and always remaining till after supper" (ch. 55)

If I'm not mistaken, it was the custom to have breakfast between 9AM and 11AM, while supper would take place at around 10PM-11PM (though it depended on the household). Austen tells us that Mr. Bingley stays with the Bennets "till after supper," which would mean that his visit lasts at least 10-11 hours. How did society reason this drastic shift from barely seeing one another during morning calls to being together for the whole day? Was it because the engagement elevated Mr. Bingley's status to future son-in-law and therefore made it okay for him to not worry about bothering the family? Was it to allow engaged couples to get to know each other better (with chaperones, of course)? Or was Mr. Bingley pushing the limits of politeness a bit? Could women visit their fiancés for the whole day as long as there was a female hostess (like Mrs. Hurst and Miss Bingley)? I doubt it. I assume Jane's stay at Netherfield early in the novel was only acceptable because she was the particular guest of Caroline and Louisa, originally going there for a dinner invitation, and because she developed an illness. Am I missing something?

AND what puzzles me even further is Mr. Darcy tagging along with his friend on these long visits. When he comes to Longbourn "early" (ch. 58) on the day of his second proposal (when him and Elizabeth lose track of time and wander around while discussing their feelings), he isn't tied to the family in any way, apart from being Mr. Bingley's friend, but still stays for dinner (ch. 59). How acceptable was this? I'm assuming it definitely wasn't scandalous, as I doubt he would be so bold as to cross any boundaries of propriety, but Mrs. Bennet was certainly annoyed by him on his subsequent visit with Mr. Bingley:

>"Good gracious! [...] if that disagreeable Mr. Darcy is not coming here again with our dear Bingley! What can he mean by being so tiresome as to be always coming here? I had no notion but he would go a-shooting, or something or other, and not disturb us with his company" (ch. 59)

And how would his extended presence be perceived by the neighbors (if no formal engagement was announced soon)?

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u/raysmia — 2 months ago

Jane/Mr. Bingley variations/fanfiction recommendations?

As the title suggests, I’m looking for stories where the main focus is on Mr. Bingley and Jane, set in Regency England, with both of them characterised as in canon?

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u/raysmia — 2 months ago

What if Mr. Wickham suspected that there was something going on between Mr. Darcy and Elizabeth?

My question was inspired by a very interesting observation from Dr. Octavia Cox's video on why Mr. Wickham 'eloped' with Lydia: at the very end of her analysis, she speculates that apart from seducing Lydia for fun, Mr. Wickham could've also had another motive.

In ch. 41, after Elizabeth tells him that Mr. Darcy 'improves on acquaintance,' Mr. Wickham is discomposed at first, but then goes on collect himself and probe further. As Dr. Cox brilliantly points out, he brings up Anne de Bourgh almost as if to test the waters; that is, to see how Elizabeth would react to the idea of Mr. Darcy marrying someone other than herself. In view of this, 'eloping' with Lydia becomes a strategic move that would possibly enable him to leech off Mr. Darcy (which is exactly what happens eventually). After all, he could've easily chosen another woman if he was simply seeking pleasure. Why Lydia in particular?

>"[Colonel Fitzwilliam's] manners are very different from his cousin's."
"Yes, very different; but I think Mr. Darcy improves on acquaintance."
"Indeed!" cried Wickham, with a look which did not escape her. "And pray may I ask—" but checking himself, he added, in a gayer tone, "Is it in address that he improves? Has he deigned to add aught of civility to his ordinary style? for I dare not hope," he continued, in a lower and more serious tone, "that he is improved in essentials."
"Oh, no!" said Elizabeth. "In essentials, I believe, he is very much what he ever was."
While she spoke, Wickham looked as if scarcely knowing whether to rejoice over her words or to distrust their meaning. There was a something in her countenance which made him listen with an apprehensive and anxious attention, while she added,—"When I said that he improved on acquaintance, I did not mean that either his mind or manners were in a state of improvement; but that, from knowing him better, his disposition was better understood."
Wickham's alarm now appeared in a heightened complexion and agitated look; for a few minutes he was silent; till, shaking off his embarrassment, he turned to her again, and said in the gentlest of accents,—"[...] I only fear that the sort of cautiousness to which you, I imagine, have been alluding, is merely adopted on his visits to his aunt, of whose good opinion and judgment he stands much in awe. His fear of her has always operated, I know, when they were together; and a good deal is to be imputed to his wish of forwarding the match with Miss de Bourgh, which I am certain he has very much at heart."
Elizabeth could not repress a smile at this, but she answered only by a slight inclination of the head. She saw that he wanted to engage her on the old subject of his grievances, and she was in no humour to indulge him. (ch. 41)

I must say that I really like Dr. Cox's interpretation. It wouldn't be too far-fetched to assume that someone as cunning as Mr. Wickham would not fail to seize every opportunity. Plus, I would like to add that here Elizabeth once again shows us how naive and blind she is when it comes to reading characters: as she thinks that he's trying to 'engage her on the old subject of his grievances,' when, in reality, he is scheming and storing up information for future use.

Not to mention that he appears very intrigued by this topic later when he has been successfully bribed by Mr. Darcy, undoubtedly wondering if he can extend his influence over him through Elizabeth and also determining how careful he should be in such endeavors:

>"I was surprised to see Darcy in town last month. We passed each other several times. I wonder what he can be doing there."
"Perhaps preparing for his marriage with Miss de Bourgh," said Elizabeth. "It must be something particular to take him there at this time of year."
"Undoubtedly. Did you see him while you were at Lambton? I thought I understood from the Gardiners that you had." (ch. 52)

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It's very annoying how this man got off so easy in the end. It also makes me wonder how he would've acted had he been aware of Mr. Darcy's feelings for Elizabeth earlier. I can totally imagine him subtly engineering situations that would humiliate Mr. Darcy socially by making him appear rude, possessive, jealous, or ridiculous. Though, perhaps, if he had done something like this early on, Mr. Darcy wouldn't have reacted that strongly.

u/raysmia — 2 months ago

The meaning behind this line by Mr. Darcy: "You cannot have been always at Longbourn." (Let's compare translations.)

>“You cannot have a right to such very strong local attachment. You cannot have been always at Longbourn.” (ch. 32)

Mr. Darcy says this when he visits Elizabeth at the Parsonage and finds her alone, and they begin talking about how important distance from home/family is in a marriage. In another post, I interpret this as him trying to compliment her while at the same time (either unconsciously or maybe quite deliberately) insulting her family. I'll just copy-paste from my other post for the sake of brevity: "Mr. Darcy has spent the better part of the novel being horrified by the lack of decorum of [the Bennets]. In light of that, we can infer that apart from testing the waters on her willingness to live away from home, he is also trying to express that she is too intelligent and too refined to be a product of that environment."

I was strongly convinced (and still am) that this analysis is correct; but yesterday I bought a Bulgarian translation (Hermes, 2023) of Pride and Prejudice, which renders Mr. Darcy's implications in a completely different light.

>"Точно вие не бива да сте толкова силно привързана към Лонгборн. Не може точно вие да останете завинаги там." (ch. 32)

This is basically saying "someone (as lovely) as you should not be so attached to your home/family, because someone like you will never have to remain there forever," or more humorously "don't worry you'll never be a spinster, because someone (me) will certainly want to marry you." I wonder if the translation is just bad or if I'm misreading the original Austen line? Still, even if it is wrong, it's not wildly off the mark—if anything, it's more romantic as there is no hidden dig at her family and it fits with him hinting that she would be staying at Rosings Park, rather than the Parsonage, when visiting Kent in the future (ch. 33).

So my question is: What do you think is the correct interpretation of this line? I'm more inclined towards my original understanding of it as it's more in line with Mr. Darcy still being plagued by pride at this point. Can anyone provide further insights with other translations? I'm curious to hear.

* Edit! The literal translation of the Bulgarian would be something along these lines: "You precisely (=of all people) should not be so strongly attached to Longbourn. It cannot be that you precisely (=of all people) would remain there forever."

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u/raysmia — 2 months ago

The P&P works of Lin Mei Wei and Lara S. Ormiston

Wow, I must say I'm quite fastidious when it comes to characterization in fanfiction/variations (or whatever they are called), but I have to admit that these two authors really impressed me with how they portray Elizabeth and Mr. Darcy. I believe they really manage to capture their essence as close to canon as possible, considering it's a fanwork. The stories I'm referencing are:

Lin Mei Wei: Stranded with Mr Darcy and Mr Darcy and the Murder at Rosings. Despite the unconventional narratives (she's SO good at making complex plots feel exciting and should highkey consider writing an original novel), Elizabeth and Mr. Darcy are exactly as Austen would've written them in these circumstances I would say.

Lara S. Ormiston: Yielding to Persuasion (I just loved this one!!!), Unequal Affections and Adventures at Morecastle.

I will continue with Lin Mei Wei's other stories, and then Elizabeth Adams is next on my list. But wow, these two impressed me. Does anyone know if they plan on/are in the process of writing more?

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u/raysmia — 2 months ago

While much is said and written about Mr. Darcy's pining, I feel like we, as readers, rarely focus on Elizabeth's own longing once she begins to fall in love. Honestly, it's a very overlooked aspect of Pride and Prejudice, and certainly deserves more attention, as Austen is (like usual) brilliant at in her portrayals. Let's unpack and discuss in the comments.

>As soon as they were gone, Elizabeth walked out to recover her spirits; or, in other words, to dwell without interruption on those subjects which must deaden them more. Mr. Darcy’s behaviour astonished and vexed her.
Why, if he came only to be silent, grave, and indifferent,” said she, “did he come at all?
She could settle it in no way that gave her pleasure.
He could be still amiable, still pleasing to my uncle and aunt, when he was in town; and why not to me? If he fears me, why come hither? If he no longer cares for me, why silent? Teasing, teasing man! I will think no more about him.”
Her resolution was for a short time involuntarily kept by the approach of her sister. (Ch. 54)

After Mr. Darcy and Mr. Bingley's visit to Longbourn towards the end of the novel, Elizabeth goes outside for some fresh air to supposedly 'recover her spirits,' or that is what she tells herself—because Austen promptly clarifies that she is, in fact, simply going to continue to 'dwell without interruption' on whether Mr. Darcy is still partial to her or not after the whole Mr. Wickham/Lydia incident. This is a proof of how strong her fixation has grown: she is unable to think about anything else, even when the thoughts are painful.

She compares his behavior to her aunt and uncle ('amiable') to his behavior to her ('silent, grave, and indifferent'). This contradiction and the suspense it gives her make her irritated. By labeling him 'teasing,' she is sort of framing his behavior as a provocation aimed at her (though we are well-aware that he was simply embarrassed and nervous); Elizabeth creates a narrative where his coolness is a challenge to be solved rather than a final rejection, because she now loves him and does not want this romance to end.

And then, she vows to not think about him anymore. She is extremely affected by how much power he now has over her; though, as every person who has ever been in love knows, such resolutions are often short-lived and 'involuntarily kept' by other distractions (in this case, Jane). She is now so emotionally dependent on his regard that the only way to protect her ego is to pretend she has the power to end it.

Elizabeth is a creature of wit and liveliness. For her, silence is a vacuum that she anxiously feels compelled to fill. In their early acquaintance, his silence was 'pride' (he was, indeed, prideful; but his silence around her was definitely not because of pride). In this scene, she fears his silence is now a sign of him being 'indifferent,' just when she has finally began to return his feelings and it scares her.

>She was in hopes that the evening would afford some opportunity of bringing them together; that the whole of the visit would not pass away without enabling them to enter into something more of conversation, than the mere ceremonious salutation attending his entrance. Anxious and uneasy, the period which passed in the drawing-room before the gentlemen came, was wearisome and dull to a degree that almost made her uncivil. She looked forward to their entrance as the point on which all her chance of pleasure for the evening must depend.
If he does not come to me, then,” said she, “I shall give him up for ever.” (Ch. 54)

The first thing that stands out in this passage is the fact that she is so 'anxious and uneasy' about whether they will get a chance to talk that evening or ever, that she has become 'uncivil'—something very uncharacteristic for someone as spirited as her. This is also a direct reference to an opinion she herself professes earlier in the story. When Mrs. Gardiner asks her how 'violent' Mr. Bingley's love for Jane was, Elizabeth says: "I never saw a more promising inclination; he was growing quite inattentive to other people, and wholly engrossed by her. Every time they met, it was more decided and remarkable. At his own ball he offended two or three young ladies by not asking them to dance; and I spoke to him twice myself without receiving an answer. Could there be finer symptoms? Is not general incivility the very essence of love?" (Ch. 25)

What is more, her yearning is so strong that 'all her chance of pleasure for the evening' depends on them having a moment. Again, she does the same thing as in the previous passage—in an attempt to regain control of her emotions (a classic defense mechanism), she again decides to 'give him up for ever' unless he approaches her then and there, giving him a deadline of sorts, which she, of course, does not intend to hold him to meet. You don't threaten to 'give up' someone you don't desperately want to keep.

>“Dearest Jane! who could have done less for her? But make a virtue of it by all means. My good qualities are under your protection, and you are to exaggerate them as much as possible; and, in return, it belongs to me to find occasions for teasing and quarrelling with you as often as may be; and I shall begin directly, by asking you what made you so unwilling to come to the point at last? What made you so shy of me, when you first called, and afterwards dined here? Why, especially, when you called, did you look as if you did not care about me?”
“Because you were grave and silent, and gave me no encouragement.”
“But I was embarrassed.”
“And so was I.”
“You might have talked to me more when you came to dinner.”
“A man who had felt less might.”
“How unlucky that you should have a reasonable answer to give, and that I should be so reasonable as to admit it!" (Ch. 60)

Being the very direct person that she is and having finally returned to her true cheerful and playful self, Elizabeth plainly asks him about his seemingly indifferent behavior on his return. She is no longer 'wearisome and dull,' because the anxiety of the unknown has been alleviated. Her love has found its safe harbor, allowing her to tease him about her past doubts from a place of security.

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Can I just add that Mr. Darcy's line here—'a man who had felt less might [have talked more]—is perhaps the most romantic admission in the book!!! It recontextualizes his earlier perceived coldness (on his return to Hertfordshire) as a symptom of overwhelming emotion. And the cherry on top? This line serves as the ultimate proof of Elizabeth’s earlier theory about incivility. It confirms that true passion is paralyzing.

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u/raysmia — 2 months ago

Pop culture has, more or less, solidified the image of Mr. Darcy as someone who is always serious, brooding; and while it is true that he is a reserved person, who rarely shows his emotions, throughout the novel, Austen often describes him as smiling, especially when interacting with Elizabeth. I believe that there is a very interesting case to be made that his smiles show his character growth.

1. Falling in Love

In the early days of their acquaintance* (very Love Island-like phrasing; sorry, I had to share, I made myself laugh thinking of Austen romance vs. Love Island romance), Mr. Darcy is said to smile whenever Elizabeth does something surprising/charming.

>“I have been used to consider poetry as the food of love,” said Darcy.
“Of a fine, stout, healthy love it may. Everything nourishes what is strong already. But if it be only a slight, thin sort of inclination, I am convinced that one good sonnet will starve it entirely away.”
Darcy only smiled. (Ch. 9)

His first smile in the novel: a quiet, internal moment. He is amused by Elizabeth's cynical take on poetry. This shows the reader that apart from appreciating her "fine eyes," he is also impressed by her sharp mind and independent thinking.

>“By all means,” cried Bingley; “let us hear all the particulars, not forgetting their comparative height and size, for that will have more weight in the argument, Miss Bennet, than you may be aware of. I assure you that if Darcy were not such a great tall fellow, in comparison with myself, I should not pay him half so much deference. I declare I do not know a more awful object than Darcy on particular occasions, and in particular places; at his own house especially, and of a Sunday evening, when he has nothing to do.”
Mr. Darcy smiled; but Elizabeth thought she could perceive that he was rather offended, and therefore checked her laugh. (Ch. 10)

This is a crucial distinction. It shows that Mr. Darcy has a sense of humor and can withstand some teasing, but is still plagued by pride. He can take a joke or two from Mr. Bingley but he feels the weight of his own dignity.

This smile is not directed at Elizabeth, but does occur in a conversation with her (another one of their intellectual sparrings, which tend to delight him) and a third party, and is important for reading his character, and even for Elizabeth's understanding of him. Even later, once they are engaged, she thinks something similar: "Elizabeth longed to observe that Mr. Bingley had been a most delightful friend; so easily guided that his worth was invaluable; but she checked herself. She remembered that he had yet to learn to be laughed at, and it was rather too early to begin." (Ch. 58)

>“And your defect is a propensity to hate everybody.”
“And yours,” he replied, with a smile, “is wilfully to misunderstand them.” (Ch. 11)

This is perhaps his first 'flirtatious' (for lack of a better word) smile. While he probably did not intend to explicitly flirt with her, by smiling as he delivers his retort, he signals that he understands her (or shall I say, their) 'game,' and is indulging her by participating in it. He is basically telling Elizabeth that they are equals in this verbal fencing match.

2. The Conscious Efforts to Please

Okay, we're now at the Netherfield Ball. By this point, Mr. Darcy is far gone; he is extremely attracted to her, but has no plans of taking their relationship to the next level; yet, he cannot help himself and cannot stay away from her.

>“It is your turn to say something now, Mr. Darcy. I talked about the dance, and you ought to make some kind of remark on the size of the room, or the number of couples.”
He smiled, and assured her that whatever she wished him to say should be said. (Ch. 18)

This is a rare moment of submission. Usually, he is the type of person, who prefers to dictate the tone of a conversation. Here, he smiles and allows Elizabeth to take the lead, showing a growing (if unconscious) desire to please her.

>“What think you of books?” said he, smiling. (Ch. 18)

During their dance, after having awkwardly discussed Mr. Wickham (a subject that irritates him as we all know), he tries to switch to a more neutral topic—one, which he perceives as interesting to both himself and Elizabeth, something that would perhaps yield a more amiable conversation. The smile here is a betrayal of his true feelings; and of the conflict between judgement and passion.

3. The Shared Language

At Kent, the smiles become more intimate. They are no longer just about wit or having a pleasant time; they are about a shared understanding of the world.

>“I am not afraid of you,” said he, smilingly. (Ch. 31)

This is Mr. Darcy at his most relaxed. Away from the prying eyes of the people from Meryton, he allows himself to be more playful. Having been unexpectedly reunited with Elizabeth (which any person, who is in love, would interpret as a sign), and having witnessed her animated talks with his cousin (which certainly alarmed him, or at least made him realize that if he does not take action soon, he might lose her; not just to the Colonel, but in general), he cannot just stand on the sidelines anymore. He approaches her; and actively tries to interact with her in a more transparent manner (that is, showing his interest).

>Darcy smiled and said, “You are perfectly right. You have employed your time much better. No one admitted to the privilege of hearing you can think anything wanting. We neither of us perform to strangers.” (Ch. 31)

This is a very, very significant shift. His smile here validates Elizabeth's observation. He openly admits his social 'defect' and frames it as a trait they share. It is an invitation into his inner world; and at the same time a declaration of how perfectly matched they are.

>“It is a proof of your own attachment to Hertfordshire. Anything beyond the very neighbourhood of Longbourn, I suppose, would appear far.”
As he spoke there was a sort of smile, which Elizabeth fancied she understood; he must be supposing her to be thinking of Jane and Netherfield, and she blushed [...]. (Ch. 32)

And, perhaps, the biggest example of how much the two misunderstand each other!!! This is a 'knowing smile.' He thinks they have a sort of unspoken understanding; she thinks he is (once again) judging her. It is, indeed, a bit smug of him to assume so much without her explicit confirmation, but it does show how far gone he actually is. His admiration and love are so strong that he has lost his common sense; and, of course, there is his pride in the mix, which additionally blinds him. (This is the man, who was 100% sure he had deciphered Jane, btw! That's why Austen is brilliant; she gives everyone what they had coming to them; no one is blissfully left to their delusions... apart from, well, maybe Mr. Collins, but even that is debatable.)

4. The Shock

>She paused, and saw with no slight indignation that he was listening with an air which proved him wholly unmoved by any feeling of remorse. He even looked at her with a smile of affected incredulity. (Ch. 34)

This is arguably Mr. Darcy’s 'worst' smile. During the disastrous proposal at the Parsonage, he smiles because he cannot believe she is rejecting him (an instinctive reaction) and that she has harbored secret resentment towards him for so long when he was falling for her. He also lacks any regret for interfering with Mr. Bingley and Jane as he believes he was 100% in the right and that Elizabeth is being rather unreasonable. This is not a smile of positive emotions; but one that shows us, for the last time, a man who thought he was superior to everyone around him.

5. The Heartfelt Transformation

>In the gallery there were many family portraits, but they could have little to fix the attention of a stranger. Elizabeth walked on in quest of the only face whose features would be known to her. At last it arrested her—and she beheld a striking resemblance of Mr. Darcy, with such a smile over the face, as she remembered to have sometimes seen, when he looked at her. (Ch. 43)

This is Elizabeth reflecting on her understanding of Mr. Darcy and what she is currently seeing and hearing at Pemberley; she is finally opening her eyes to another side of him. And finally starting to realize that he has always shown signs of interest towards her, but she failed to interpret them correctly. Austen reveals that, in spite of his flaws, Mr. Darcy is a good person deep down, who has the potential to become even better with some guidance. After his transformation over the summer, even Mrs. Gardiner is inclined to observe so despite all of the negative accounts she had heard of him prior to meeting him: "he wants nothing but a little more liveliness, and that, if he marry prudently, his wife may teach him" (Ch. 52).

>The happiness which this reply produced was such as he had probably never felt before; and he expressed himself on the occasion as sensibly and as warmly as a man violently in love can be supposed to do. Had Elizabeth been able to encounter his eyes, she might have seen how well the expression of heartfelt delight diffused over his face became him: but though she could not look she could listen; and he told her of feelings which, in proving of what importance she was to him, made his affection every moment more valuable. (Ch. 58)

By the time Elizabeth consents to be his wife, his smiles are no longer a defensive tool or prompted by intellectual amusement or desire to please; they are an expression of genuine joy; they show the happiness of a changed man, who has gone through various trials before finally arriving at his desired destination. In this passage, the word 'smile' is not mentioned, but it does not take much to deduce that he is smiling.

>In the evening, soon after Mr. Bennet withdrew to the library, she saw Mr. Darcy rise also and follow him, and her agitation on seeing it was extreme. She did not fear her father’s opposition, but he was going to be made unhappy, and that it should be through her means; that she, his favourite child, should be distressing him by her choice, should be filling him with fears and regrets in disposing of her, was a wretched reflection, and she sat in misery till Mr. Darcy appeared again, when, looking at him, she was a little relieved by his smile. (Ch. 61)

This final smile is one of partnership. He probably notices Elizabeth’s anxiety regarding her father's answer and uses his expression to comfort her. He has moved from being a man who is observed to a man who observes his partner's needs and reacts with kindness.

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* Early days (phrase) — An expression used to assert that a romantic endeavor has only just begun. Love Island contestants—primarily the male ones—who get in way too deep with a partner love to say (read: lie) that they are not in too deep because “it’s early days.”

u/raysmia — 2 months ago