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Bedoel zo moeilijk is het verdomme niet he om als man je vrouwelijke collega zeker op bepaalde plekken niet aan te raken. Dit is dus gebeurd op mijn nieuwe werk. Ik sta met 2 collega's normaal te praten en een 3e loopt zomaar voorbij en vond het grappig om even snel in mijn zij te knijpen terwijl hij doorliep.

Ik als zowel mijn andere 2 collega's waren even stil en ik was te flabbergasted om er op dat moment iets van te zeggen en kort erna was de werkdag voorbij, dus kon er niet op terug komen. Overigens zeiden mijn andere 2 collega's ook niets erover, terwijl 1 ervan mijn werkchef is en ik had idee dat hij het ook wel bijzonder gedrag vond, maar sprak dit niet uit.

Hoe zouden jullie dit aanpakken? Als het weer gebeurd gelijk aanspreken natuurlijk, maar ik ben echt van binnen woest dat deze situatie überhaupt is gebeurd en ik er nu weer iets mee moet, omdat een ander geen normen en waarden kent op de werkvloer. Als ik dit niet de kop indruk zal het zich herhalen, leer mij dit soort mannen kennen.

Wat zouden jullie zeggen/doen?

I'm not sure if this belongs here, so apologies if this is not the right place.

I’m done with online shopping after today.

The only exception will be requested gifts for others that genuinely can’t be found in a physical store nearby my home.

Honestly, I feel a bit stupid about this situation. And yes, the truly anti-consumption approach would be to stop ordering online completely.

From now on, if I can’t see, touch, test, or try something in person first, I simply won’t buy it, specially if I'm not 100% sure I keep it.

What happened is that after 5+ years of happily, heavily using my yoga mat, I decided to buy yoga blocks from the same brand. I assumed it would be a safe purchase or that in worst case it would only cost me €12 total for the shipping- and return cost. I understand these things aren't free so I took the chance.

The blocks arrived and were way bigger than expected, so I returned them. The plastic wrapping was still intact, but the cardboard labels on the outside accidentally tore while removing them to inspect the product better.

What I missed on the website was that damaged packaging (even the card board) means another €10 deduction.

So this entire experience cost me €22, and I ended up with nothing. So yes, I learned my lesson. From now on I will challenge myself to only try to buy physical from stores. Because if I could have felt and seen the blocks in a store first, I could have immediately know that this wasn't for me.

Anyone else experience this, and if so what was your moment or reason to quit buying online at all? Because lately this isn't the only dissapointed online purchase I had.

And are there people who never order online and how do you deal with this? Since more stores dissapear and are selling online more.

Today I packed up my Nintendo Switch 2 and sent it back together with the game I bought for it. I also deleted my Nintendo account. For me, this feels like giving myself freedom again.

Gaming is simply too fun for me. Too immersive. Too time consuming. I can’t be someone who “just plays a little.” Once I start, it completely takes over my mind and my free time. After an entire day of gaming, I don’t feel relaxed or happy, I feel anxious, guilty, drained, and honestly kind of miserable.

I’m an adult now, and I want to actually do something with my life instead of feeling mentally trapped by games on a screen.

We still have a PS5 and a PC in the house. The PC isn’t a problem for me because I only use it for work-related stuff, which isn't often. The PS5 unfortunately can’t go because my partner uses it a lot. But we did agree that after this no new consoles will enter the house anymore. So eventually that chapter will close too even if it will take years.

At the moment I have zero interest in PS5 games, and I want to keep it that way by avoiding gaming news, trailers, reviews, hype cycles, and by not spending another cent on games.

Once I receive the full refund from the return of the switch and game, I’m actually going to buy some puzzle books. Recently I came across something called Murdoku and I want to give that a try. Besides that, I want to focus again on yoga, walking, and cooking good food. Going to the sauna and going out with friends and family.

I’m not really a (creative) hobby type of person, so I’ll probably end up watching more TV sometimes. But strangely enough, TV is much easier for me to turn off and walk away from than games are.

The desire to game will probably stay with me for awhile. I don’t think that magically disappears. But I want to build the kind of life I keep imagining in my head and deep down I know gaming is standing in the way of that for me.

So sending you all love and keep strong!

Lately I’ve been thinking more about consumption habits and where my money actually goes. Curious to hear from others here: what’s something you’ve spent a lot on that, in hindsight, just wasn’t worth it?

For me, a big one is eating out too often. I’m trying to cut back so that when I do go out, it actually feels special again instead of routine.

But the biggest one by far: games. Games, and more games.

I’ve bought so many over the years, tons of them barely played, many never finished. Always chasing the next release, the newest console, even though I already had more than enough to keep me busy, this is Classic FOMO.

Recently I’ve started setting rules for myself. Only buying physical copies Only buying a new game if I’ve finished or sold one

But honestly, I could go years without buying new games. So I’ve decided no more games for now. It’s been too much money and too much time for what I actually get out of it.

I guess I’m slowly quitting gaming.

What about you?

Mijn vorige functie op kantoor werd wegbezuinigd en ik was kantoorwerk sowieso helemaal even zat. Dus ik dacht fuck it ga interieurverzorger worden. Eigenlijk gewoon schoonmaakwerk.

En omdat nu eenmaal de rekeningen betaald moeten worden werk ik nu 24 uur in de schoonmaak. Werk 3 dagen van 8 uur en ik merk dat ik me er best in vergist heb.

Voorheen ook fysiek werk in magazijn gedaan, maar kan me niet herinneren dat dit zo zwaar was toen.

Nu eerste week zit erop en heb last van rug, buik, voel me zwakjes en door de spierpijn in de buik ook beetje last van maag.

Is dit normaal en moet mijn lichaam gewoon wennen?

In het ergste geval kan ik de uren verspreiden over 4 of 5 dagen, maar ik hoop dat mijn lichaam gewoon even moet wennen.