u/reecinator_meow

I don’t know if it’s an option to take my shot in a cooler on a flight to another country with a layover or if I want to deal with the hassle. My kid and I are going on school trip, so I’m a chaperone.

My shot day is Friday, and I also take an autoimmune biological shot then too. I’m wondering if I should take the GLP (same with the other one) 1.5 days late this week (Sunday morning) and then take them 1.5 days late the next week (Monday night). I leave very early in the morning on Tuesday. Then I could take them the following Tuesday when I get back home.

How have any of you navigated this with travel and how did you manage it? How bad is it to take it a little late? It won’t be a huge deal with the biological, but I feel it with this one more overall related to eating.

Today one of my supervisors (also a faculty member) described how they’ve experienced me academically, parlaying that to how I must be showing up with clients. This professor/supervisor knows me mostly through class and group supervision, not through seeing me with clients.

How they described me was literally the definition of ADHD, and they know I have ADHD. They framed it as sort of this mystery, rather than an accepted and known part of who I am.

In other words, they pathologized the way my brain works, assuming how I show up with them in 3 hour lectures is the same way I show up with clients one-on-one. They have a bias against ADHD in particular, at times previously sharing the misinformed belief that it is largely due to trauma. They heavily lean psychoanalytic, which seems to mean neuroscience takes a back seat.

I feel terrible for most clients with ADHD and ASD because I know therapists are largely not trained in or educated about how ADHD and ASD require a whole different therapeutic perspective. Not only are schools not teaching about them, but supervisors, faculty, and educators haven’t even taken the time to understand them, and are sharing disbunked or largely incorrect theories.

This is further compounded by the fact that so many people remain undiagnosed. Not only do they not understand what’s happening with themselves, but it’s likely not on their therapist’s radar either. Yet, it impacts everything about a person’s mental health and physical well being.

It’s been hard enough to make my own personal progress through AuDHD, hormones, dealing with an abusive ex, and chronic illness while in grad school. Then to experience bias and being unnecessarily misunderstood while I try to untangle it all for myself — it makes my growth even slower, lonelier, and more difficult.

To realize that so many “seasoned” but under informed professionals are out there treating people with alternate ways of processing and disabilities like this makes me so angry. We deserve better.

I just want to say this is not ok, and seriously has me questioning the ethics of this field as it stands right now.

I am a single mom with AuDHD and my partner who likely has ADHD has wanted more sex than me over the last few years. It's been a major issue. I had a higher drive before we got together so I never thought there would be a problem and it never has been for me before.

Little did I know, my autoimmune diseases were getting worse and I was starting perimenopause when we started dating. Then I started a consuming grad program.

His fear about only having sex once a week or less is almost obsessive. I've been happy with and able to sustain about once a week, but it's been so stressful to me how much this has caused him to withdraw and struggle to stay connected with me.

Now that some things have shifted for me (including graduating & starting HRT) and my desire has increased, it's not getting that much better. He's still having anticipatory pity parties worrying about us potentially not having sex, which turns me off and angers me. It's like a dark cloud hanging over our time together – a constant elephant in the room.

I'm beginning to wonder if the intensity of his drive and how he expresses it has to do with an ADHD addiction-like or dopamine-seeking/regulation issue.

He doesn't over-indulge, but he's always on something: nicotine, caffeine, alcohol, or weed. I've started thinking of how this feels like an addiction to me, and linking it to his consistent numbing. I get that he's healthy and has a high sex drive but this seems beyond that. I used to have a really high drive and used it for validation, but it was never like this.

Could this be ADHD/OCD related? He's a really hard working person, and is generous and kind. I love our intimacy when it happens – I just wish it weren't so stressful getting there.