Looking for advice-cosleeping with toddler and expecting a second
Hi everyone, I’ve seen a couple posts on this but still don’t know what’s the right answer or what to do.
I’ve been cosleeping with my toddler since he was about one. It wasn’t my intention but after months of unsuccessful sleep training and constant wake-ups it just evolved into this to get somewhat decent sleep. My husband would sleep with him, but toddler really just wants me, especially for the going to sleep part. Sometimes he’s okay to wake up w my husband next to him but most of the time, no.
He starts school in September (pre k3 in nyc) so I was already hoping he’d sleep better then and have a better schedule and this could be the resolution.
I’m due with my second in October, right before my toddler turns 3.
Do I try to transition him to sleep alone before then? How does that work at this age, if so?
Should I try to continue cosleeping with him and newborn? Or do I get him used to sleeping with my husband? My main fear is my toddler resenting the newborn bc of this if it means us not sleeping tighter or always waking him up.
Or do I just roll the dice and see what happens in the fall? Any thoughts/advice/personal anecdotes welcome. Thanks!