My girlfriend with BPD wants to break up with me during a split
(need to specify that my english is not amazing)
Hi everyone ! I usually don’t post on reddit but I do need your help rn. My girlfriend (who also is autistic) is splitting about me asking her to do a few efforts for our last days together before she starts working. The fact that she has autism is important here, because the whole conversation started because she didn’t want us to hang out this week because she wanted to sleep all week as she was overwhelmed. I did understand her needs but I was having an anxiety attack and I needed her support (I have a huge fear of abandonment and felt like I wasn’t worth her trying)
I know that me being so demanding and not being as understanding as other times (I usually try my best not to be as anxious as today and I do my best to acknowledge her needs) was what led to her splitting. I acknowledged that and said that I was sorry. Yet she immediately splited and wanted us to break up.
I really understand how I am at fault here, how I shouldn’t have let my anxiety take as much space while she was struggling as well. She is very suici*** and she has talked about ending her life a few times before. Letting her alone that
much time scares me. I don’t know what to do and I don’t want her to kill herself during that time nor us to break up. She already tried to break up with me during her last split, but we didn’t and had a wonderful time being together.
I really don’t know what to do. I want to give her space but at the same time I’m scared that she commits. I don’t want us to break up but she is focused on it. I don’t know what I should say. I do tell her that I’ll let her have those days on her own but that I was always here for her and not
abandoning her. She keeps telling me she doesn’t want it and wants to break up.
Do you have any advice ?