u/rooplstilskin

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Completely made up hypothetical:

Me: have hard internal boundaries for my personal actions and self sanity.

Eg. If a long time partner, who knows I am deathly allergic to cats, shoves a cat in my face, I would question if they were my friend. Since they should have known I was deathly allergic to cats.

I would be mad. But given the scenario, maybe they forgot or something.

Then it happens again. I, personally, am done with that friend. I might get over the mad part, but I wouldn't put any energy into being their friend.

Now, what are some good strategies for keeping that boundry to myself?

Eg a potential partner, would allow their friend to keep having energy and time, even after their friend shoved a cat in their face after knowing theyre deathly allergic. Multiple times.

The only way its affecting me is:

A slight jealousy of time spent: "why would someone give time to someone like that? Am I, or any other friend, not be better time spent?"

But mostly, Deep discomfort in thinking she might be being used.

A surprisingly deep...disappointed(?) feeling, that we dont have similar boundaries for ourselves.

If it matters, I am 10 years ENM, a lot of dynamic experience.

Bike Maintenance is key to a bike's longevity. I have owned a few bikes, haha, and bought my very first ebike last year.

So it's time for the first year's maintenance.

Specialized Tero 4.0x
First Year
I have no idea how many miles. between 500 and 1000. Tahoe, Colorado, Kansas (yes, there are cool spots), Arizona, NM, Moab

• Weekly chain lube, Muc-off liquid based dry weather lube

• Cleaned gears and chain twice during the year

• Fixed 3 flats

• a few dings on the back wheel, don't ask. I'll replace soon enough.

• Mix of fire roads, city, and light mostly flat BC trails

Here's what's on my list:

• Realign derailleur, clean gears/chain, relube system
• Taking wheels in for a balance (the only thing on this list I can't do at home)
• Clean, check, and readjust brakes
• Replace both tubes with new ones (I got a free pair of the current set, so I'll burn through those before upping them to a heavier type)
• Take out battery (I haven't removed it at all yet), clean bike
• Apply new grip mod

Do you folks do anything else on the yearly schedule? Even if it's specific to your bike, might be worth it, so when people search (ha) they'll find stuff!