Suddenly fearing that I masked in my assessment
As the title says... just had my (31F) assessment via RTC, and was told to 'keep it short' and not to give long answers to questions, as I'd have time to elaborate later.
I gave short answers (sometimes just a yes or no as that was what was asked of me, with the understanding that I can say more later on in the call) but the promised elaboration time never came and my assessment was over in 45 mins, no further questions, I don't meet the criteria for ADHD.
Immediately burst into tears, shocked, confused, tried to say but there's a whole list of things that I noted beforehand but never got a chance to speak about in the way the questions were asked, can we not talk about them now? "Sorry, I can only go based on what you've said"
However, I never got to mention anything I struggle with in any detail, such as: impulsive spending, lack of object permanence with things and with people (I constantly forget to check in on friends and family if they're not physically there), mental barriers for basic tasks like washing my face, showering, leaving the flat as it involves going down 3 flights of stairs (which was laughed off as normal?) losing things every single day when I try to pack my bag and having breakdowns about it (which my bf has witnessed first hand), constantly making mistakes at work, missing deadlines, task overwhelm that leads to complete shutdown and doomscrolling or playing a game instead, failing to do simple tasks because they're not written down therefore gone out of my brain entirely, not being able to focus on anything, even things I enjoy, and no consistency in maintaining anything whatsoever including housework, reading, hobbies, even keeping up with to do lists and bullet journals... the list goes on.
I didn't get a chance to mention any of this, bar maybe one or two things as I was told to 'keep it short', and the advice after being told I didn't meet the criteria was to ask for a second opinion and start the process again.
Is this a normal experience? Am I likely to be able to get a second opinion?