My wife has a close “work husband” relationship with a coworker and I’m torn about how to handle it
Hi everyone,
My wife (K) and I have been together a long time. Over the past year or so, she developed a very close friendship with a former coworker (J). It started as a “work husband” thing but went beyond that even after he left the job.
Some of the things that stand out:
• They text daily
• She helps him with things like furniture for his new apartment
• They’ve had long private lunches, store runs, and family holiday gatherings where they’re very chatty and affectionate with each other
• She’s brought him food, given him rides, etc.
I’ve talked to her about it openly. I told her I noticed it felt like an emotional affair and encouraged her to be discreet if she wanted more.
This past Monday, she helped J move furniture to his apartment. They spent several hours together alone (I was home with the dog). She came home tired and we haven’t really talked about the day.
Any advice on how to navigate this?
Thanks.