u/ruacoporsomething

Anyone here have insights on the day to day? Is there a take home car? Overtime/callout?

Ive pretty much finished the process but would love to hear from anyone with direct experience on how it is, it would be a bit of a paycut from what im doing now but would get me back into LE and thats the main thing that's important to me, I have other stuff in the pipeline but at least this is certain

It would also be a move across the country and they arent giving relocation unfortunately but

Hey all!

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Quick question, im in the hiring process for conductor but my ultimate goal is to work on the LE side, is there an internal process that makes it easier for current employees to switch to an LE position? Does being a conductor look good when applying?

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I have LE experience but not quite the 18 months that they are requiring and no open job postings in the state where im certified. I am planning on also doing some coast guard reserves as Maritime Enforcement in the near future regardless, would that be helpful?

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Thank you in advance for your help!

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I, 28M, have been with my girlfriend 24F, for about the last 3 and a half years, and for about the last 2, I've been miserable.

To make an extremely long story as short as I can, we found out she was pregnant after only about 2 months together, she told me she had one of the birth control implants and was very surprised when she told me. But I wanted to do the right thing for our kid and helped her leave a shitty living situation with her family along with getting her a brand new car, new phone, pretty much everything.

She then lost her job right before our first was born and hasn't worked at all since then. Our daughter was also born during the middle of a training period with my new job and she was less than helpful and supportive and ultimately I did not pass the training, in large part due to this lack of support and no willingness to compromise or to let me sleep after working nights. It was around this time too that any and all affection pretty much ceased. I know child birth has an affect on things and totally understand, but i figured it would return, it ultimately hasnt. Around this time she also hit me on an occasion or 2 when we would argue with about chores. She also has continued her practice of calling me "dumb shit" "asshole" "prick" "dick" and numerous other phrases multiple times a day every day for doing anything at all that she does not like or annoys her in the slightest.

A little over a year after our daughter was born and 0 sex or affection that entire time (the most affection there has been, is holding hands maybe once every 3-5 weeks) but we ended up having sex like 2 times within a 4 day period, it then went back to 0, we then found out she was pregnant with our second kid.

Since then, things have not gotten better, I handle 95 percent of the housework and the children except when Im working, and all she does is play games and screw around on her phone all day. Frankly I am kind of glad there is no affection because I have no desire for any sort of affection from her, I have vowed to never have sex with her again or kiss her and for the last while ive noticed myself almost recoil whenever we even bump up against each other.

All that to say, I know I should break up with her, I really want too, I want to be with someone who actually loves and respects me and doesnt treat me like shit, and shows at least a crumb of appreciation when I work my butt off to pay for all the fancy things she wants and stuff for her family for birthdays and holidays. But I struggle with guilt really, I know if we break up, she'll end up moving back in with her dad and brother and uncle and grandma, which wouldn't be a great solution, and outside of the uncle, I dunno if I really want my kids around them 100 percent, or even 50 percent of the time. I know having a healthy relationship is crucial for kids to see how a relationship should be, but I also dont want my kids to grow up without a father, because I have a strong suspicion she'll try to get all the custody she can get. Additionally, all my job opportunities are going to be in a different state which further complicates things. I love my kids more than anything so I'll sacrifice whatever I have too to make sure they have the best life possible. The whole thing just is miserable. How do you suggest I overcome my guilt about her and the situation? Or do I stop being a bitch and live with it?