u/sad0ni0n

Ontem, publiquei um post a dizer que todos nós vamos ficar bem. Seja o que for que estejamos a passar. E recebi muito apoio.

Mas, na verdade, estou a começar a perder a vontade de continuar… Acho que não consigo superar isto.

Falando do meu sofrimento desde a separação da minha mulher. A verdade é que esta foi a minha segunda relação séria. Vivíamos juntos. Todos os dias sonho com ela.

Acho que não consigo esquecê-la. É um dos maiores choques da minha vida. Ela foi-se embora de verdade. Tenho momentos em que me sinto bem.

Mas não consegui trabalhar durante toda a semana passada. Não consegui sair da cama.

Estou a perder toda e qualquer motivação para viver. Acho que não consigo recuperar disto. Estou demasiado cansado para pensar em encontrar outra pessoa. Perdi o interesse e a energia para encontrar passatempos. Quase parece uma perda de identidade.

Não me lembro de quem eu era antes de a conhecer

Acredita em mim, as coisas vão melhorar. Só queria partilhar isto com quem precisar de ouvir isto. Eu próprio estou a passar por um momento muito difícil ao lidar com uma separação, depois de ter estado com a minha ex-mulher durante um ano.

Neste momento, pode parecer o fim do mundo. Não importa se, no teu caso, se trata de uma separação ou de outra coisa qualquer. Prometo-te que vamos conseguir superar isto.

Vamos sair mais fortes do outro lado.

Estão todos convidados a dizer olá.

“Please dont worry about it anymore. Especially since youve been better on your own and thinking or talking about it has only brought you more stress.

I am glad that youve been doing things that you like and have been able to find yourself a better life. I love you and thats all that I ever wanted for you.

People say go cold, dont put your guard down, etc, etc. But it doesnt makes sense to me. I believe you should always be honest about your feelings and its a beautiful thing to feel so much love for someone youve cared for a whole-ass year.

I guess I am just gonna try to really distance myself so it hurts me less. Of course it hurts because you were my whole life for one year my princess.

I truly loved you, every bit of you. And I am not gonna suddenly pretend that I didnt for one year

I am now gonna try to change myself, not because I dont love you anymore. Thats just stupid to admit.

But because youre clearly happy, and have found yourself a life where you find yourself better off without me. And I have nothing against it. I guess thats just logical. It makes sense.

It just feels good to be honest about everything. For me, its the only way to truly let go

I will try not to reach out unless its something important. Take care”

I (28M) and Ex-wife (28F) have been broken up for a few weeks now. We had arguments but it was her final decision to end things.

We were together for 1 year.

We have been talking since and it just hurts to see her moving on so fast almost as if I never meant something to her. Last night we texted and I got hit with “I am a bit busy right now, we will talk later” at around 10 at night.

She replied 5 - 6 hours later at around 3 in the morning. I said she seems pretty occupied and apparently she’s already made 3 new friends on some app (including one who lives inside of the country and they have already been talking about meeting up…) and has been talking and doing “stuff” with them she claims playing video games online as well as watching videos together..

We made so many international trips together and made so many memories, and it sucks that she’s already been talking to 3 people on a daily basis for hours past midnight, like we once used to hangout. Not even 4 weeks into the breakup. And making plans to see someone (even tho she claims she was just looking for friends but still).

1 year of love and marriage has been replaced with friends in a few weeks. And she takes hours/days to respond. Been a completely different person.

The discard hurts really bad. I really regret texting her and anyone thinking about doing so should learn from me. Its not worth it.

She used to be so loving in the beginning and seemed so understanding I thought I finally found someone. Slowly she started arguing over small stuff, hanging up the phone, threatening to breakup, resentments and bringing up things i did in the past that she just made up in her head.

To see someone going from so loving to stone cold, my brain just can’t seem to be able to process it.