Can a pwBPD be a good parent?
My 32 year old sister was diagnosed with BPD few years ago, shortly after experiencing health related trauma. We've been walking on eggshells around her ever since.
She made the decision to get married to a man she barely met, and decided to have a baby immediately. He also suffered with BPD and tragically took his own life because she was horrible to him. She will now be raising her child alone with my mom's support.
She cannot keep a relationship with anybody. She can't keep a job. She spends her entire paycheck immediately. She lacks critical thinking. She stonewalls when we try to have discussions with her regarding finance. She is mentally a 15 year old.
I am not sure how she is going to raise a child. My worry is for the baby, and mostly for my mom who will be putting the burden on herself. My mom is undergoing cancer treatment and does not have the strength for this. I just hate that my sister made this reckless decision to get married only to abuse her husband, and get pregnant so now we all have to deal with it.