u/scarlettwraith25

We have an opportunity to subdivide a lot around 5-10 acres from our in-laws. We would have to put in power and a road, but we have connections to get that done extremely cheap. Our only hesitation is that we like our space. We live about 14 minutes away from them right now and it's been perfect. We see them once or twice a week but usually we go see them. Usually once a month or so they stop into our house. Usually we like our evenings to ourselves and if they come they call ahead of time. My concern is that my wife's father is great but hes very social and they might show up way more then we are okay with. They both love spending time with our children and we love that but with that gift they may not respect our boundaries abs that might cause tension. My wife mentioned her concern to her mother and her mother's response was we would change our mind over time and want more visits. And that we could visit them any time. I will preface and say her mother is one of the sweetest women I know so I dont think she meant anything bad by it but it does raise concerns. Any advice?

When I was in my 20s I was in an abusive marriage. He ended up cheating on me with a woman over 20 years younger then him. She was a terrible person but ended up being the one who actually confirmed they were cheating together. They ended up having a child together while we were still married. She was 19 at the time. She kind of saved me by showing me proof of what was happening, because of her I was able to leave. I just found out she died in a car accident a couple days ago. Half of me hates her for who she was ei. Drug addict, abused her kids, cheater. And half of me (probably more then half) is so thankful for her in how it got me out of that into the life I have now. The part I feel a little bad about is that I see all these sympathy messages about her online and I honestly don't have any for her at all. I could care less that she's dead. I more feel bad for the kids she left behind and Im hoping they somehow escape the hell that is the environment they are growing up in. Seeing all these messages (small town) about how wonderful of a sister and mother she was make me want to laugh out loud when I see them. I may be terrible for thinking this.