I can't stand my brother's gf and I'm worried about him
Burner account obviously. Any advice or thoughts welcome.
My brother has been going out with this girl on and off for a couple of years but now it's starting to seem serious and I gather they're talking about moving in together. He broke it off a couple of years ago because she basically faked a pregnancy, apparently to test his loyalty, but they kept hanging out 'as friends' which I gather progressed to friends with benefits and now they're full on dating again.
As a woman the fake pregnancy thing is just unforgivable in my view and I cannot stomach the idea of this woman becoming part of our family unit. My own partner and I are starting to talk about marriage and although it's still a few years down the line I hate the idea of her being in the family photos and being at the top table and having to spend every Christmas etc with her.
I know it sounds like I have a massive internalised misogyny problem and maybe there's an element of that. But she really is just holding my brother back when he's actually done a lot of work on himself in the last while. He used to be really really immature but he's just gotten a good job out of college and could do quite well for himself. She on the other hand still acts like a moody teenager. Talking to her is like talking to a child: all one-word answers, no engagement. She has no personality, no hobbies. She's clinging onto him but also seems to have him wrapped around her finger. It's just a bad dynamic and they bring out the worst in each other.
I just think he would be so much better off without her and she's going to totally rupture our family unit. I know they might break up but like...they might not.
I know we all make jokes about the parents-in-law but have ye ever had to deal with a totally awful brother or sister in law? Did it get better over time?
I realise I'm just stewing in my own ire here which isn't really healthy. AIBU?