(19F) feeling emotionally exhausted from constantly reassuring my boyfriend (22M) over social media fights. Am I being insensitive or is this becoming unhealthy?
Me (19F) and my (22M) boyfriend have been having recurring fights over social media boundaries and I genuinely can’t tell anymore if I’m being insensitive or if I’m getting tired of constantly managing his emotions.
The most recent issue happened because I made a somewhat thirsty/jokey comment under a random influencer’s post. To me it was unserious internet humor not actual flirting (obv) cuz i post quirky shi ALL THE TIME!! but he screenshotted it and sent it to me clearly upset. I deleted it immediately.
He also gets jealous over things that feel really normal to me. A few days ago we had a huge fight because I posted a completely normal picture with one of my guy friends on my Instagram story. There was nothing flirty about it at all but he accused me of posting it intentionally to make him jealous or upset. I apologized anyway because I didn’t want the fight to escalate. After that fight I got him flowers, cheesecake, and a stuffed toy because I felt guilty and wanted to make things better. Meanwhile now he’s ignoring my calls/texts over this influencer comment situation and honestly I’m starting to feel emotionally drained.
I understand that repeated behavior can hurt someone even if I don’t mean it seriously. At the same time, I’m getting frustrated because I feel like I’m constantly reassuring him apologizing, overexplaining and trying to calm his insecurities down. It’s starting to feel like I have to monitor every small thing I do so he doesn’t get upset.