anybody got information about this? on my way to a concert and this bullshit happens. fuck me, i should have dropped $30+ on an uber.
hi! i realize that there's two completely different questions in the title but both relate to my current situation lol.
i went on two dates with this guy, both were really fun and we had a ton of chemistry. we did end up sleeping together on the second date (i'm super sexually open now i have no shame about this) and it was a blast. i ended up sleeping over and he took me out to a breakfast date. we both went on separate trips the following weekend, so i haven't seen him since the second date. i accidentally (i swear to god it was an accident) left a pair of earrings at his place, and both of us joked about him wanting to keep it as his place so i would just haaave to see him again.
we were texting sporadically but daily since then, but he hasn't texted since monday evening, and i was the one who sent the most recent text. i'm slightly bummed that he hasn't texted to set up another date, especially for this weekend. part of me (which has been egged on by my friends) thinks "he's not into you anymore, just forget it" and another part of me says "he's probably busy, he had 5 shows back to back last week (he's a freelance musician), so he's probably exhausted too." i feel like our modern expectations of texting has really warped how we perceive someone's interest, because we expect everyone to be online and willing to text all the time. hell, i'm a bad texter too, even to the people i love dearly. which goes to the first question--before texting, what was the acceptable distance between a date and hearing from them? how much time does it take for the silence to ring alarm bells?
additionally, would it be weird if i sent a follow-up text to see if he's free, or does that come across as clingy or attached? i'm not even looking for a relationship (i don't think he is either so it works out), so maybe it would be best if i just let it be? i haven't dated in two years so all of this is confusing, lol.
any advice/insights would be appreciated! (please be kind though)