u/seobies-cheeks

For context: I’m a woman from Belgium and he’s a Colombian guy. We met online like a week ago and since then we’ve been texting every day + having long calls almost daily.

The thing is: by text he’s dry af 😭 I’m very much a “yapper” and he replies like a military NPC sometimes. BUT on calls he’s genuinely sooo sweet, affectionate and emotionally present. We have this constant “we’re just friends 👀” banter while also acting emotionally attached at the same time.

I honestly don’t want a serious relationship with him. I like the dynamic exactly because it feels light, playful and emotionally exciting without the pressure of something official.

But recently he was less attentive with me during the day and I noticed he followed a bunch of new girls on Instagram… and I got lowkey jealous 😭 Not because I want him to be my boyfriend, but because I still want to feel special to him.

So now I’m confused about myself.

Am I contradicting myself? Do you think I’m lying to myself and I actually like him more seriously than I admit?

Also, what do you talk about with your situationship?

Hii, I need advice 😭

I met a guy on OMETV (yeah yeah I know LMAO) and we ended up talking for like an hour. The conversation was super fluid, he was cute, respectful, not weird at all, zero sexual comments (I hate when people do that when they literally just met you) and in the end he asked for my Instagram.

He’s one year younger than me and he’s in the military, although more on the security side. And well… I also know Colombians kinda have a reputation lol.

The thing is, I don’t want anything serious. Like no relationship, no fwb, none of that. But I do like talking to him. We call each other almost every day even though I’ve literally known him for one week, so relax, I already know I’ll probably get bored at some point lol.

But he confuses me because sometimes he calls me “friend” and then says I’m “special” to him. Or he asks why I get dressed up to go out with my friends and if it’s really just to see my friends and not a boyfriend.

So now I don’t really know what he wants.

How do you keep this kind of thing light? Because I don’t mind a little harmless flirting, but I also don’t want him thinking I’m planning our wedding tomorrow.

And another question: are the boyfriend jokes something common with Colombians or am I seeing signs where there are none?

And while we’re at it, I have already ask this in Reddit and men were telling me that I was leading him on but I’ve been pretty clear with him that I dont have or want a bf and that I just enjoy chatting with him.

Hii, I need advice 😭

I met a guy on OMETV (yeah yeah I know LMAO) and we ended up talking for like an hour. The conversation was super fluid, he was cute, respectful, not weird at all, zero sexual comments (I hate when people do that when they literally just met you) and in the end he asked for my Instagram.

He’s one year younger than me and he’s in the military, although more on the security side. And well… I also know Colombians kinda have a reputation lol.

The thing is, I don’t want anything serious. Like no relationship, no fwb, none of that. But I do like talking to him. We call each other almost every day even though I’ve literally known him for one week, so relax, I already know I’ll probably get bored at some point lol.

But he confuses me because sometimes he calls me “friend” and then says I’m “special” to him. Or he asks why I get dressed up to go out with my friends and if it’s really just to see my friends and not a boyfriend.

So now I don’t really know what he wants.

How do you keep this kind of thing light? Because I don’t mind a little harmless flirting, but I also don’t want him thinking I’m planning our wedding tomorrow.

And another question: are the boyfriend jokes something common with Colombians or am I seeing signs where there are none?

And while we’re at it… what kind of reputation do military guys have in Colombia?

Edit : Guysss I already told him that I didn’t have a bf and i didn’t want one. I’ve been clear that I just enjoy chatting with him.