u/setero10

if i am in a situation where the mother hidden the fact that she gave birth to my daughter who is currently 2 now and only found out about her because she was taken by DSS and by the time i was involved they did not want to give me the option to take custody and decided to give back to her mother for majority of the time while only giving me weekends. The mother who still choose not to work to provide for my daughter decided to apply for assistance which then they forced me into child support where they made the calculation all on me and placed $0 on her portion of what she needs to provide which places me in a impossible amount to pay monthly and still maintain being able to pay my monthly bills and provide for my daughter when she is with me. i just started getting to bond with my daughter since spring this year and get weekends with her. The mom is fighting me on getting more physical custody of my daughter although she doesn’t provide anything for her and I’m providing health insurance and everything else for my daughter. Is there anything i can do make this fair? I do not want to lose my house and car due to the selfishness of the mother. Just to clarify i offered to take full custody of my daughter from the moment i got the dna test and found out she is my daughter while she was still in foster care . I never denied providing for her but the mom is a lazy yet she is being helped and I’m being destroyed by the child support amount they are forcing me to pay including me also having her some of the days and providing health insurance and everything else for her.

So to start out the mother of my kid decided to hide the fact that she got pregnant and gave birth to to my daughter from me knowing i didn’t want to have a child with her and lied that she is unable to birth a child due to a condition. I know i can’t change nothing about that and it is what it is now but i was served a paper to get paternity test done due to her getting in trouble and having my child taken away from her while she was just born a couple weeks and placed into foster care. I was not notified of anything until my daughter was about to turn 2 to take the paternity test. Once it came out that she is my daughter I’ve been doing everything i can to spend time with her and creating bond with her. I tried to get physical custody of her in order to get her out of foster care but i was being treated as if i was a villain and kept being told they are working on reuniting my daughter with the mom while the mom literally did nothing but get assistance from the government to get a place more suitable for living conditions in order to get my daughter back and still deciding not to work at all while i have been living on my own with a room ready and house child proof to support her. The case ended with 50/50 custody but my attorney did not do his job well to help set up an agreement on an even physical custody which ended with me having her only from friday to Sunday but i usually pick her up Thursday afternoon idk if that makes a difference but on the court order it says Friday to Sunday and i was wondering what would be my chances to possibly get the custody modified to have it truly at 50/50 so i can be able to take her into daycare during the week if i do get the custody agreement modified evenly? The mother does not have a car or license to even take her to health check ups or daycare. I don’t know why the system is so messed up that i can even get custody of my daughter while doing everything right and having a consistent income while the mom just seats at home doing nothing yet i am looked at as a villain in this whole messed up situation.