u/shanushaik_76

So I’m feeling embarrassed to ask this. I never had a proper career path, and I’m already 26 with many wrong career decisions behind me. I spent years preparing for government jobs without real interest in them, and recently shifted to an online sales job in edtech. I’ve been working here from the last 4 months, and honestly, I feel exhausted and no energy .

I keep having this doubt if I get an onsite job, how do people actually plan everything? Where do they stay until they find a PG? How do they manage expenses and survive in a completely new city?

Right now, I’m looking for marketing intern roles. The maximum stipend I’m getting offered is around 10k, probably because I don’t have an MBA and only have an arts degree along with current sales experience. Recently, I got a call from an interior design company for an onsite marketing intern role Bengaluru.

I also feel very naive about how the real working world functions since I don’t have much exposure yet.

Earlier, my dad didn’t agree to me taking an onsite job, so I converted my current role to remote since that option was available. But I’m still applying for onsite opportunities in cities like Bangalore, Hyderabad, and Chennai.

I genuinely want to understand how people practically manage these transitions and build their lives from scratch

So, help me understand this. I live in a tier-3 city in a small town. Here, we have a big grocery shop, and people who come there often share stories in shop with my mom who also helps in our shop so while I sit with her and my four younger siblings inhall she shared this this

One old uncle was saying, “In our days, we used to take the cows out, feed them grass, and bring them back home. Our wives used to work very hard to clean and maintain those cows. But my daughter-in-law is different. I asked her to open the tap and fill water for the cow, and she said she forgot. Times have changed. These days, daughters-in-law do nothing.”

Then my mom commented, “These days, women don’t do anything. They go and have after 4 or 5 husbands.

And guys, listen the pity I used to feel for my mom for tolerating physical and mental abuse is slowly disappearing. She constantly blames women, slut-shames them, and degrades them in the worst possible ways. She is also okay with husbands hitting their wives. She says it happens between husband and wife and that it’s normal.

I’m so done with the people in my family. I feel like I’m going insane every single day. I can’t escape because I still don’t have a stable onsite job, and I’m terrified of marrying someone chosen by these two people when their mindset itself feels so unhealthy and extreme.

So, help me understand this. I live in a tier-3 city in a small town. Here, we have a big grocery shop, and people who come there often share stories in shop with my mom who also helps in our shop so while I sit with her and my four younger siblings inhall she shared this this

One old uncle was saying, “In our days, we used to take the cows out, feed them grass, and bring them back home. Our wives used to work very hard to clean and maintain those cows. But my daughter-in-law is different. I asked her to open the tap and fill water for the cow, and she said she forgot. Times have changed. These days, daughters-in-law do nothing.”

Then my mom commented, “These days, women don’t do anything. They go and have after 4 or 5 husbands.

And guys, listen the pity I used to feel for my mom for tolerating physical and mental abuse is slowly disappearing. She constantly blames women, slut-shames them, and degrades them in the worst possible ways. She is also okay with husbands hitting their wives. She says it happens between husband and wife and that it’s normal.

I’m so done with the people in my family. I feel like I’m going insane every single day. I can’t escape because I still don’t have a stable onsite job, and I’m terrified of marrying someone chosen by these two people when their mindset itself feels so unhealthy and extreme.

Yes, please help me. My mother has lived through abuse after her marriage. Physical violence was normalized in my family. My dad is a “mama’s boy.” He did provide money for our education, and for that I acknowledge him, but at the same time he has also behaved terribly toward my mother.

My mother’s family also normalized domestic violence and emotional abuse. Constant fights were treated as normal. Even my teenage brothers say things like, “Mom is strong, but women these days break marriages for silly reasons like a slap.” They believe if a woman does not obey her husband, then it is acceptable to hit her.

When I point out that this thinking is wrong, I am treated like the villain or called “mental.” or Weak Women

One day my grandfather shouted at my mother, tried to hit her, and used slurs against her. I held his hands and pushed him away to stop him. After that, the entire family drama started, and now my name has been shamed on both sides of the family.