Need Advise: Finally leaving my wife…
I’ve been married for 24 years, but honestly, close to 18 of those years
have been miserable. There’s been repeated cheating, drug abuse, ER visits tied to addiction issues, constant undermining, emotional manipulation, and a relationship dynamic that’s left me drained for a very long time. I’ve
stayed far longer than I probably should have because I kept hoping things
would change, or because I felt guilty leaving.
At this point, I’m
seriously ready to leave, but I know if I announce it beforehand I’ll get sucked back in emotionally and talked out of it again. I’m not trying to be cruel or abandon someone without explanation, I just think I need enough distance and clarity to finally follow through and stop repeating
the cycle.
One issue is that she tracks my location constantly through Life360, so even trying to look at rooms for rent or apartments privately
feels almost impossible. I’m trying to avoid a major confrontation before I
have a plan in place.
For anyone who’s been through something similar, how did you discreetly look for a place to stay without immediately setting off
alarms? Did you pause location sharing, leave your phone somewhere, use
another device, or have some other practical solution? If I shut off 360 shell immediately notice and start sending me nasty messages and cause a fight, which I’m trying to avoid.
I’d appreciate advice from people who’ve actually navigated this kind of situation. Thanks in advance