u/singieta

Hi everyone,

I (30F) have been married to my husband (34M) for 4 months, and I’m already dealing with something I never expected this early on.

The first time I found out he was searching for other women online was in February 2026. It hurt me deeply, and we had a serious conversation about it. I made it clear how much it affected my trust. It actually turned into a big fight, to the point where I called my mom at around 2am to come pick me up (I didn’t tell her what it was about at the time).

Now I’m starting to feel like I need to tell her the truth, because this is becoming too much for me to carry alone.

Fast forward to April, and I’ve discovered that he’s still doing it. He’s been searching for escorts/sex workers and even looking at hotels in our area. That part really shook me, because it feels like it could go beyond just online behavior.

On top of that, I just started a new job, I’m currently doing my master’s degree, and we have a son. I’m under a lot of pressure already, and this situation is making everything feel overwhelming.

I feel disrespected, hurt, and honestly exhausted. It’s only been a few months of marriage, and I already feel like I’m dealing with repeated betrayal. I don’t feel secure or valued.

Part of me feels like it’s too soon to walk away from a marriage, but another part of me feels like ignoring this now will only lead to more pain later. I am also starting to resent him and I feel like it’s now becoming toxic.

Would you consider this a valid reason to leave this early in a marriage? And would you tell your family in a situation like this?

I’d really appreciate honest advice.