Hello everyone ✌🏻

I am looking for new friends I can chat with and maybe go on a few adventures with.

I love concerts, festivals and trying new restaurants.
I am always down for a good jol however I am newly sober.

Also down for hiking, camping, padel, swimming and anything outdoors and that can keep me active.

I love a good intellectual conversation and I am well read, however you don’t need to be. Just have some brains lol.

Basically, as long as you are a vibe and a decent person, send me a DM.

Hi there guys.

I’m from Cape Town and 31 F.

I’m here seeking a casual someone who is able to hold and maintain good conversation, open minded and an intellect who may teach me something new since I love learning new things.

I’m consider myself a good conversationalist so if you are too and up for intellectual banter, don’t hesitate to hit me up.

Figured let me try this;

The interests:
- Marvel (Comics, MCU, X-Men)
- Football (culers por favor 🥹🤲🏾 - not strictly)
- Formula 1 (Forza Ferrari!)
- Love Island USA (My fav brainrot content)

About Me:
- Employed and stuff
- Gym 4-5 times a week. I try to run a 10km once a week.
- Prefer day events & festivals to nights out but do enjoy an occasional good night out
- Certified yapper
- Disclaimer: my social battery does run out a bit too regularly and I get a bit quiet. (Sometimes life just needs you to be quiet.)

Looking for holistic friendships with people (preferably women) who have shared interests and not just people to discuss the interests with.

Race and all of those things don’t really matter to me as long as you’re a good person but please be in the same age range and DON’T have a cat. I don’t like cats. If it matters to you; I’m black. ✨

Hi there guys.

I’m a 31 F from Cape Town.

I’m here seeking a casual someone who is able to hold and maintain good conversation, open minded, has good banter and an intellect who may teach me something new since I love learning new things.

I’m consider myself a good conversationalist so if you are too and up for it, don’t hesitate to hit me up.

Hey

I’m F25 looking for other female friends in Joburg. I’m based in the Northen suburbs. Looking for someone to go out with (coffee, restaurants, activities etc) and just a close girl friendship. I’m not super into parties anymore or drinking, although I don’t mind if the other person indulges.

I enjoy going to markets, being outdoors and trying new places. I’m extroverted and love wholesome, easy going vibes

Hi, I’m looking for people who are going to comic con on Saturday, who would like to:

1. do the Sailor Guardian cosplay
2. Wear kimonos 👘
3. A girl bestie who’s gonna teach me how to apply makeup. I’ll obviously buy my own makeup kit.

I’m more set on wearing a kimono, no specific character but just to look kawaii 🤭
But let’s chat and see :)

Hi everyone,

F26 here.

Originally from Joburg, currently living and working in Pretoria East. In Joburg over weekends sometimes. Also open to just chatting online or calling if you live elsewhere.

My first language is English, I understand Afrikaans (I speak a bit but you would be able to tell it's not my first language). Trying to learn IsiZulu as well.

My main interest is music. I've been playing guitar since I was a kid and am slightly obsessed with it. My tastes lean pretty old school. '60s, '70s and '80s music mostly. I also love roots music (the blues, alt-country etc).

A handful of my fave artists are The Beatles, Aretha Franklin, Jimi Hendrix, Stevie Ray Vaughn, Led Zeppelin etc. Some modern artists I love include Sam Fender, Tedeschi-Trucks band, Madison Cunningham, Nothing but thieves and The 1975.

I went into a lot of detail about this because it's the thing that really makes me tick. I'm an introvert and can be quite reserved and music is the one topic that brings me out of my shell :)

My other hobbies are collecting vinyl records and going to live music shows. I love a documentary. I'm a bit of a gym rat. Also enjoy the outdoors, specifically hiking and birding.

So if you want to chat guitars/gear, learn some random music related trivia or if any of this is of interest to you, shoot me a dm and tell me a little about yourself. Would prefer people around my age range (22-30) but everyone's welcome :)

Hi there

I work from home and feeling a bit isolated.

Not sure how this works lol but my interests are

Horse riding

Reading ( bit of a bookworm)

Music ( love all types )

Movies and series

Love the outdoors such as fishing , hiking etc

Just need someone to chat with and get to know

Status: CLOSED

I have never been in a relationship. The only times I was in "relationships" was twice but they were both online and lasted less than a month. So I have never dated anyone in real life.

I am looking for a potential bf

About me:

• 20F

• 160cm

• Uni student

• living around Johannesburg/Centurion

Preferences:

• Any race

• Male

• Be 20 - 25

• Be taller than me

I want to experience dating before I start working. That's on my bucket list. I've been online long enough to say no to creeps.

Be ready to provide a verification picture for safety and to know you're real and I'll do the same. 🫶

Hey everyone I'm looking to meet new people who actually have things to say. Whether it's music, swapping travel stories, breaking down the latest tech/current events, or just unpacking the chaos of Joburg living. I'm here for it💯🙌🏾

Heyy you guys! I Hope everyone is doing good and having a great week. I absolutely can not wait for the summer months. It's been so cold! Almost there haha. Sorry I'm not the best at small talk. Lol. I'm ridiculously shy but I'm also a real vibe once you get to know me. So I'm making this post today hopefully to find some really cool peeps to call my friends!

So I'm not gonna make this post too long, this isn't a paper 3 exam lol. Remember those? Anyways lol I'll let you know a little about myself but I'm hoping my energy speaks for itself. I'm a huge music lover. Music continues to save my life. I listen & vibe to almost all genres but my favorite is hip hop! I absolutely love hip hop, especially old school hip hop. Music from yester-year is great isn't it. If we become good friends I'll make you the best paylist ever. Imagine you and I vibing to some Wu-Tang clan?! Absolutely dreamy, am I right?!

I love movies as well. The last good movie I watched was The Irishman. I'm a 90s kid so I love a lot of movies from back then. " GET TO THE CHOPPER!! " If you know, you know lol. I can talk about gaming topics forever so if you're a gamer we will probably will have that in common too! Y'all excited to see the GTA 6 gameplay on Netflix soon? I know I am.

Yikes I'm making this long aren't I? Sigh! Uhm what else?! I'm a really really kind and humble human being who loves and adores animals. I'll be pointing and screaming COW!! When I see cows lol. I also love human interaction. I'm consistently smiling at everyone! I'm always up for a conversation no matter what. I also get sad too. Yeah that happens lol. I've been through a lot but I try and never let it get me down or break my spirit.

I'll forever be a happy and gentle soul.

I think it's best I leave it there. Otherwise I'll talk forever, haha. Okay I hope you guys enjoyed my little introduction to me! I look forward to chatting with you guys. Sending peace and love your way!<3

Not sure if it's allowed - there is a Big Bang Theory Quiz Night in Rietfontein Die Sinkhuis Restaurant, so far we are about 3 maybe 4 people who are attending, is there anyone else maybe in the Rietondale/Rietfontein area who will also be going?

Hi there.

I've noticed R4RSA has recently become a lot more active.

I tried to post a long time ago but back then not much seemed to be going on.

So I've just turned 41. I'm a single father ( widowed 6 years ago ) so most of my time tends to be spent on kids and a bit on some of my nerdy/geek hobbies.

I'm open to chat to anyone, but I guess my ideal would be to talk to women roughly my age or slightly younger, kinda hard to meet potential romantic relationships in the normal course of my life, but I'm open to friendship/ online chat from anyone. I'm from Durban so if you are close to Durban that's a plus.

In general I enjoyed giving advise or listening to people's problems. ( But I find that is better done anonymously as a once off chat ), so feel free to message if you want an anonymous opinion on something.

***Edit Update: I've been at work and have received quite a few responses from people. Apologies if I haven't responded yet. ( I intend to when I get a chance )

Sorry for the paragraphs but I wrote this to vent

I'm a 23M from Polokwane who finds himself almost always at home unless I have to go to campus.

I'm usually at home learning IT stuff or gaming. I'm into games like Valorant, Battlefield, Counter-Strike, etc., but I spend a lot of my gaming time playing benchmarks on Kovaak's. I also love learning about and testing hardware and gaming peripherals like mice, mousepads and keyboards.

Music is another thing I feel isolated over. I don't really listen to what most people around me listen to. I'm into atmospheric wave phonk like LXST CXNTURY, SVDNESSMANE, iGRES and FLONEX, as well as darker rap like $uicideboy$, Bones, Night Lovell, Ghostemane and R€SENTVUL. People have called my music taste weird for years, so it's been difficult finding people with similar interests.

I've tried socialising at school, but I often feel like people aren't interested in me. I've had situations where people would ditch me to go with their other friends. I understand that people have their own friends, but it still hurts when you're left alone and asking to come along starts feeling like you're begging to be included.

I've also hung out with people I've known since primary school, but sometimes I can feel from their energy that they don't really want me around. Maybe some of it is just my anxiety, but it's difficult not to think about it.

Going out can actually make this worse. I recently went to the movies on a Saturday and seeing everyone outside with their friends, dressed up and having fun made my anxiety kick in and I just wanted to go home. I'm also pretty simple with how I dress. I like streetwear, but I'm not really into following fashion trends or buying loads of clothes. I'd rather spend that money on a new mouse or keyboard.

At campus I'm usually alone. Sometimes I'll literally sit in the bathroom for an hour just to avoid people because I feel like I'm being a nuisance.

One thing that genuinely hurts me is that most of the people I've met who actually understand me tend to be from other provinces, or even overseas. I've connected with people from Europe, Australia, North America, etc., and sometimes I can have a much easier conversation with someone thousands of kilometres away than someone who lives near me.

It makes me wonder why I struggle so much to find people around my own area who I genuinely click with.

Even when I'm in Johannesburg, it somehow feels like everything I've described gets multiplied by 10. There are so many people around, but I somehow feel even more disconnected and out of place. Seeing people everywhere with their own groups can make me feel even more alone.

When it comes to dating, my last serious relationship was in 2019. For a while I compared every girl to my ex, but eventually I accepted that she had moved on. Since then I've had basically no luck with relationships or dating apps.

I'm not particularly tall or confident, I'm not naturally funny, I don't party or drink/smoke, and I'm not really into the whole "goofy" internet/social scene either. I dress clean and simple but I'm not someone who cares much about fashion. I've tried going outside my interests just to meet people, including parties and grooves, but it never really worked.

I've basically been an indoors person since I was a kid. I'd rather be on the internet, watching something, learning about technology or playing games.

I'm in my last year of college now, and I know I'm still young, but I'm worried that if I keep isolating myself, solitude is eventually going to consume me.

How do I actually meet people and make genuine friends when I've become so used to being alone? And how do I eventually meet someone romantically when I don't really have a social circle?

Are there any inclusive online (discord, forums, anything) communities for South African WLW online?

Apps like Her and Zoe don't really leave much space for interaction, and getting to know each other, etc. and tend to focus on hookups or at least that's all everyone that matches me tends to want.

There's also very little room for community or friends on those apps.

Any info from other sapphics / WLW would be appreciated 🖤

Hello there!

I used to be a lurker just like you, but then I took boredom to the mind. So how about we chat about the things that really excite you?

I'm a man with many interests, but nothing quite as interesting as listening to other people talk about their passions.

So come at me with whatever you got and I'll match your vibes. Deal?

Im a 29 year old male from KZN. I trade forex full time and its a pretty lonely profession 😅 im looking for mates to chat with and have a good laugh with! I like to think of myself as funny. I can be very sarcastic at times 👀 I enjoy board games and the occasional series binge! Im also an extreme book worm. (I read everything in sight lol) gender doesnt matter to me. Just have a personality!

Welcome to the F4F Friendship megathread!

As r/r4rSA grows, we want to ensure there is a dedicated, low-pressure space for the women in our community to connect platonically. Whether you are looking for a fitness accountability partner, someone to try out new coffee shops with, a book club member, or just a friend to send memes to, this is the place to do it.

How It Works

Instead of making a full standalone post, simply drop a comment below introducing yourself. To make it easier for people to reach out, try to include the following:

• Your Location: (e.g., Southern Suburbs, Cape Town - or just your province if you prefer).
• Your Age:
• Your Interests: (e.g., hiking, gaming, movies, trying new restaurants, reading).
• What You Are Looking For: (e.g., someone to do weekend parkruns with, go on hikes, or just casual texting).

Example:

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The Rules of the Thread

To keep this space functional and safe, please adhere to the following:

1. Strictly Platonic: This specific thread is for making friends.
2. Women Only: Top-level comments and replies in this thread are reserved exclusively for female and non-binary members looking for friendship. Men commenting in this thread will have their comments removed.
3. Safety First: Do not post your phone number or exact address in the public comments. Take things to Direct Messages once you find someone you click with.

Put yourself out there and drop a comment below - you never know who is looking for exactly the same kind of friend.

Hi all 👋🏽
This is quite a vulnerable post but looking to make some friends 😆 possibly a romantic connection even. Born and bred in Port Elizabeth, I’m a 29 year old teacher and recently became a mom to a 4 paw baby 🐾. My work keeps me quite busy but when I do have the time I love going on long walks and listening to music. I don’t get out much as well - I don’t have any friends lol but I’d honestly love to. I’m quite simple , funny sense of humour and honestly just looking for something genuine. Im not too set on just making friends in PE but I’d ideally like to meet up with someone so we can do things together so long distance is quite difficult ^^.

Im 21f and I’m kinda shy to walk up to people at make friends hence why I’m in the predicament of being a loner , i do have friends but not that girlhood vibe of friends yk . Im looking for a best friend and i don’t really mind age as i would consider myself a early bird since Im actually married 😭

It’s super hard to find girls my age that is in the stage of life where guys don’t take up a major part of what is considered fun. So id want a friend that is in a relationship or prefer to date seriously rather than for fun .I don’t mind if you have kids or anything.

Im a super versatile friend , i can be there through the good and the bad , i can lend a shoulder to cry on and i can also give you the stern talking to you need . I will go clubbing with you on a Tuesday but ill also help you study for exams /help you with work issues ,i can be a dork and play video games with you but i can also gossip about dumb stuff too. Im super spontaneous and I love an adventure as long as i don’t gotta walk too much lmao. I want a genuine girl friend where we build each other up and laugh at everyone else

Im super sarcastic and will be honest with you , I’m the type friend to tell you if your breathe smells but obv in a nice way lol so if you’re sensitive i dunno how it will work but yess btw ill actually respond as soon as i see your chat ,i wont wait a while in case you think Im desperate 😭😂😂😂

I do want irl friends so if you’re in the jhb area hmu 🤪🤪K Byeee