r/r4rSA

Hi, as much as I’ve tried the whole finding a partner thing offline, it hasn’t worked out so here we are 😅.

Looking for someone kind, caring, respectful and is great at making conversation.

I can be socially awkward, I talk a lot and my love language is quality time.

Physically, my requirements are being taller than me (I’m really short so this shouldn’t be a problem) and good hygiene.

Based in Cape Town, so ideally you would be based here too so we could actually meet and hang out.

Wishing you all a lovely weekend ahead!

First post: https://www.reddit.com/r/r4rSA/comments/1v1unvc/29m4f_long_term_relationship/

Hi all, just wanted to make this post to reflect on what a wonderful experience it's been looking for love here. I chatted to many amazing women and got loads of compliments, even from men and women who were not interested in dating me!

I favoured one particular lady very early on, which was a bit scary because I was putting all my eggs in one basket, but it turned out wonderfully and we've been on plenty of dates since. I made things official two weekends ago and now cannot wait to see what the future holds for us.

If you've met some cool people on this subreddit, for dating or otherwise, feel free to share some feel-good stories in the comments. I hope this can help give some more hope and confidence to those who are too nervous to reach out, or those who are still searching.

Have a blessed Wednesday everyone, and may love and joy find you in abundance.

just another diva DOWN because the dating apps have humbled me enough. so here's my craigslist ad for a boyfriend.

i'm 22, based in the northern suburbs around tygervalley, currently finishing my honours in genetics and starting my master's next year. very much a STEM girl and genuinely love what i do, so unfortunately you will probably have to listen to me talk about forensic genetics and drilling into bones at some point.

i'm looking for a unit who's christian, around 22–26, based in cape town (preferably the northern suburbs), who could theoretically carry me out of a burning building and is passionate about what he's doing with his life. i really like someone with his own ambitions who actually cares about what he's doing.

i'm the type of person who wants to do anything and everything. i like the gym, coffee, thrifting, making pottery, making silver jewellery, and i'm currently very keen on climbing, hiking, camping, and generally getting outside and touching some grass. i'm partially a homebody against my will, so i'd love someone who gives me a reason to actually leave the house and go experience things.

i'm not really looking for a gamer boy whose ideal saturday is 14 hours in front of a pc, i'd much rather have someone who wants to go do things with me, whether that's a hike, finding a cute coffee shop, trying something new, or just wandering around somewhere and talking for hours.

mostly, i'm just looking for someone kind, curious, emotionally mature, and intentional. someone who knows what he wants, even if he doesn't have his entire life figured out yet.

anyway, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take so maybe i'll meet someone, maybe i'll make a friend, maybe this will be deeply embarrassing and i'll delete it in 48 hours and pretend it never happened.

if you think we'd get along, feel free to send me a message and tell me a little about yourself xx

heyyy
I’m a 21 year-old Muslim girl from SA and I’m looking to make some new Muslim friends. I realised I barely have any Muslim friends around me, and I’d genuinely love to meet more people who share the same faith and can relate to the same things.
If you’re Muslim too and also looking for new friendships, hmu! We can chat, get to know each other and hopefully become good friends 🫶🏽

Hi all! This is awkward and out of my comfort zone, but as I'm sure people my age are well aware, it's tough out here. People talk about one's three places (home, work, and some other third place like church); I live with family, work for myself, and have a church with very few people my age, so I'm testing out online as a way to meet new people.

I'm open to simply making like-minded friendship connections, but in particular I'm looking for a cool gal to share life with.

I'm a 27 year old guy living in Cape Town. As Weird Al put it, I'm "whiter than sour cream." Not terribly tall (about 153cm) and quite slim. I work as a freelance graphic designer. Despite challenges and obstacles in the journey, I'm a committed Christian. I'm also very much a theology nerd.

I'm also a bit of a nerd (Whovian in my username being a reference to Doctor Who). I have a love for very niche tv shows, and I read academic journal articles for fun. I'm also a creativity-nerd, and I fan out about all sorts of art stuff all the time.

Health complications mean I'm not your padel/running/hyrox kind of Capetonian, but I do love slow walks in beautiful places and I try to gym to keep healthy.

There's a whole lot to say, but I'll leave it for anyone who's keen to chat and get to know me. Feel free to drop a message. I can talk about just about anything, so feel free to strike up conversation on any topic.

Hi i'm a 37m wondering where to meet Afrikaans Women in the Gillets/Hillcrest area in Durban? I'm on Koer but that app is more for Free state side and its pretty quiet. I'm on Hinge, Tinder, Boo, Bumble & Coffee Meets Bagel but its pretty much useless. Any recommendations? None of this casual/hook up rubbish, But just trying to meet a good decent afrikaans girl, bonus if she's traditional, ideally nerdy & active but yeah that's pretty scarce in this area lol. And work in the Free State is next to impossible for a fitness instructor. Not much of a bar/pub person so it does make it a bit tougher

Hey y’all :)

As the title says, I’m looking for a walking buddy around the Bromhof area. I’m trying to get out of the house and move around a bit more hehe 😂

If you’re also looking for someone to walk with and have a little chat along the way, feel free to message me!

Halloween is this month and I am planning to go to an event with another couple. I don't want to be the third wheel so I'm looking for a date. We would dress up together. It doesn't have to be a couple's costume, I'm planning on going as Hal Jordan from Lanterns.

The exact event hasn't been decided yet, but it might be The Haunted Forest at Prison Break.

We have some time before then, so I'd like to use it to get to know each other. Ideally I'd like to move to WhatsApp and then in person as soon as possible. So if you're reaching out, please be comfortable with that.

A little about me. I like reading, going for runs, playing tennis. I'm also a Yugioh fan and have quite a card collection. I'm someone who gets very passionate about science and history.

I have posted here before so if this all seems familiar, that's the reason. If you're interested, please DM or leave a comment.

37F. Cis woman. Lesbian (NO MEN please). Chapstick lesbian and can switch to femme. Working remotely. Travelled a lot in my life and now living in Western Cape. I have been told that I look younger than I am.

After overworking for the last 6 years, I attended a retreat overseas earlier this year and I’m now taking it easy this year living close to the beach where I’m focusing on my health, doing what I want and leaving all worries for next year.

A lover of markets, the sun, beach, slow living and staying healthy so I don’t fall and can’t get back up.

I consider myself grounded, funny and do not take myself too seriously. I have put in a lot of work to create a safe and secure environment for myself and you can be soft with me. While I like to lead, I am a complete golden retriever outside of the bedroom and anyone would be able to see my devotion to you. Inside of it, I’m dominant.

Communication, consistency and consideration are foundational to me. I value openness, intelligence as well as emotional intelligence, empathy, loyalty and effort.

I melt for brunettes and blondes who are able to navigate through tough conversations, have self-awareness and are willing to repair after conflict or a miscommunication.

Child free by choice so I’m looking for same.

I don’t smoke nor drink - simply a preference as I don’t like the taste so these are not dealbreakers.

I work at a start up (not AI). You should be financially stable as well.

I have a small loyal circle of friends and I think the world of them.

Ideally, you are more femme and submissive and share the same values as I do.

Please be out - I won’t date someone who is in the closet.

At the end of the day, I’d love to knock off and have you in my arms where we check-in with each other, ask how we are both doing and have that sigh that the life I have built is one of peace with you.

To prevent scammers, men pretending to be women and catfish, please send a photo of yourself in your DM and we can verify (I have Discord as well).

I look forward to hearing from you.