u/Epsilon497

Halloween is this month and I am planning to go to an event with another couple. I don't want to be the third wheel so I'm looking for a date. We would dress up together. It doesn't have to be a couple's costume, I'm planning on going as Hal Jordan from Lanterns.

The exact event hasn't been decided yet, but it might be The Haunted Forest at Prison Break.

We have some time before then, so I'd like to use it to get to know each other. Ideally I'd like to move to WhatsApp and then in person as soon as possible. So if you're reaching out, please be comfortable with that.

A little about me. I like reading, going for runs, playing tennis. I'm also a Yugioh fan and have quite a card collection. I'm someone who gets very passionate about science and history.

I have posted here before so if this all seems familiar, that's the reason. If you're interested, please DM or leave a comment.

I decided to go to another singles event after failing at a previous one. This one was just awful and it makes me feel really shitty about myself.

I dressed up nicely, tried approaching. The ladies would say hi back and then just turn around and talk to their friends. Others just turned their noses up. It felt so crap to see how they just went up to all the other guys when I had to put in the work.

The ratio was also horrible, with about 3 women to 1 guy and many women were 40 plus. I'm 29.

I think I just need to give up now. It's humiliating. I wish I could just give up all my success and intelligence to be good looking.

Edit: I meant 3 men to 1 woman ratio

I noticed that most of the people at my current company, which is a software consultancy, and another software company I worked at went to private schools. Places like Michaelhouse, Crawford, Waverly etc. I went to a public school in KZN where my highest fees were R1500 for the year back in 2014. And it was a good school.

Is it more common for people in corporate, especially here in Joburg to have attended private schools?

I had a follow up checkup today and told my doctor I had been depressed recently and had a history of it. She recommended some medication and said "this one won't affect your libido", and I said "it's not like I have ever needed it anyway". And when she asked why, I told her I had only had sex twice in my life at 29 and it was 10 years ago. And that I had never been in a relationship. She seemed baffled and it made me feel kind of weird to say it out loud. Surely it can't be that uncommon. I mentioned it was because I was ugly to which she disagreed. But I have never had anyone want to be in a relationship with me while everyone else gets into them easily. So that must be the only reason. As I am successful in every other way. It just feels really crappy.

I'm taking a break from dating but I also feel lonely so I'm looking for someone I can talk to and potentially cuddle with. And listen to music, and eat and talk about books.

Ideally we'll chat a bit on here, then meetup somewhere public and go from there if you're not a psycho.

I'm not looking for a hookup.

I'm looking for someone a bit more intelligent and sensitive. I'm very caring and just looking for someone exclusive to not be lonely with but not necessarily a relationship. If we have a lot of chemistry, it may progress to one.

If you're interested, please send a DM with a small intro. One word, bad grammar and overly sexual messages will not be entertained.

If you're looking for someone super fit and hot, that's not me. But I have been told I'm somewhat cute.

Open to anyone 26 and up. No junkies or alcoholics please.

I'm single, well-educated, have a good career, and all around fairly decent.

I like:

• Anime
• Tennis
• Fantasy and Romance Novels
• Going for walks and hikes
• Taking drives to explore new places

I'm looking for someone who isn't afraid to message and chat a lot. I don't like to not hear from you for too long. And we can do things like go to events together, talk about our favourite things and topics, and just not feel lonely together.

Due to being a late bloomer, and seriously (almost comical) bad luck, I've never been in a relationship before and would like to experience it. So even if you're up for something short term, hit me up. I promise I am respectful, honest and loyal and have all the qualities of a great partner.

Stats: Indian, Chubby (but actively working to get fit), 1.64 m tall.

I don't do well on dating apps, they're just not for me. And I'm a bit unconventional. I'm also not Christian, have no intention to convert, but I am fine with you having a different religion or none at all. I'm open to any race or culture.

Not looking for anything long distance. Want to meet in person fairly soon.

Hey there 😁. I'm a 29 year old man who is bisexual and looking for a female romantic companion and potential partner aged 23 and up.

I'm South African Indian, average looking, on the shorter side, fairly successful and well-educated. I enjoy going out to eat, hikes, markets and exploring bookshops. I also like having deep conversations about weird topics and general geeky stuff. I'm a little clingy so if you can go for days without messaging someone, I'm not for you.

I'm looking for someone based in Johannesburg because I'd like to be able to meet up after talking for a bit and I'm against distance things because of bad experiences.

If you're open to someone who is fairly unconventional but has a lot of love to give, please send a DM with a short intro.

Any race group or culture is welcome. I'm open to any religion or no religion as well but have no intention to convert.

So most people would describe me as quite intelligent, possibly genius but I disagree. I'm doing my PhD in Computer Science while working in tech and earning a high salary. I learn things really easily and can solve problems and come up with ideas quickly. Many people seem quite impressed with my capabilities. Of course, I still think I'm just slightly above average and have a lot to learn.

But I would trade all of it to be good looking enough for someone to want. So I can know what it's like to feel loved and be someone's first choice. I can get some matches, but it's usually single mums, people without jobs or those looking to be taken care off.

I'm 29 and have never been in a relationship. I wish I could attract someone of quality. They don't have to look amazing, just look like they take care of themselves.

I'm currently overweight with some muscle, but massively thinner than I was before. And I plan to get fit. But I wish I could just trade my intelligence for good looks. I think I would be much happier.

Successful, well-rounded and educated guy seeks a wonderful woman aged 24 to 31 who would like to try and experience movie/book level romance.

I'm a hopeless romantic who will be completely (healthily) obsessed with you and treat you better than any guy before. Think Gomez Addams. We'll go on cute dates, have long conversations and try to find the kind of love they write stories about.

Ideally looking for someone moderately attractive. A bit curvy is fine as well. Blonde, brunette, or multicolored hair. And with a few tattoos. I have been called handsome, but I'm a bit chubby. But in a few months I will look a lot better. I'm aiming for long term and hopefully marriage. So no hookups or chancers please.

I love books, the outdoors and exploring new places. Let's go on the adventure of a lifetime.

Edit: Please be based in JHB. Not looking for long distance. And if you fall outside these requirements, go ahead and shoot. It's really fine. I just put down ranges for what I thought would be realistic. And yes, any race group is fine. Even if you are from Mars. Also, I am not Christian and will not convert. I am fine with you having a different faith or no faith at all.

Hi. I'm a successful, well-rounded guy who is quite attracted to older women. Unfortunately, the ones I have met in real life have been too shy to date someone younger.

I'm looking for a woman who is 40-60+ in age to spend time with. Which would include going on dates, intellectual or casual conversations and just enjoying each other's company.

I am serious about my attraction and you will never feel like I am just using you or wasting your time. I am also not after money as I have plenty of my own.

Please also be comfortable with meeting in real life. I don't want to chat online for more than a few days.

If you're on the curvier side, it does not bother me at all. So if you're an older woman who wouldn't mind the company of a younger man, please DM me.

I was at a low point and called the SADAG suicide line. A young woman spoke to me and helped me feel a lot better. They listened to what was making me feel suicidal and helped talk me into continuing to live.

I was concerned that they would just make fun of me but they were really helpful. So if anyone else is struggling, don't be afraid to call.

I don't feel 100% but I think I'm going to give life another shot for now.

I'm a 29 year old guy who has a successful tech career and I'm finishing up my PhD in Computer Science. Most people think I'm really smart and can do anything. I have friends, more women than men and I go to the gym and go running. I'm chubby and short but I'm losing weight. Down 40lb so far.

I have never been in a relationship and tried so hard to meet people. I have gone to dating events and no one seems genuinine. Last week I went to one where I met 3 women and it seemed to go great. But 2 didn't reply after and one gave a fake number. I just want someone to care for and care for me and go on dates, vacations and roadtrips and do all the lovey dovey stuff.

I have had women interested before but they just wanted money and all the interested I ever received was in the last 3 years.

I feel ugly and that I'm not good enough. My female friends think I'm great and encourage me but reality seems different. I called the suicide hotline today because I felt like jumping. I got talked out of it but I still feel down. I just want to be enough for someone to want

I'm not a bad person and I'm not a creep. I would be such an amazing partner if I just got the chance.

Hi. I'm a 29 year old guy with a successful career in tech. I'm looking for someone who enjoys going on hikes, visiting markets, museums and taking drives to explore.

I enjoy reading, playing tennis and baking. I'm also hitting the gym a lot and working towards getting fit.

I'm looking for someone to date, leading to a long term relationship. The kind you find in romance stories. They should be between 25 and 35 and not have any hangups about meeting up in real life.

I am open to marriage and children in the next 3 - 5 years so they should have a similar mindset.

If you have a lot of tattoos or are alternative, that would be a plus as well. But not a requirement.

I'm a guy who is 29. I'm not the best looking. I'm on the shorter side and chubby. But I am really well-educated (part-time PhD in progress), and I have a really well paying job.

I occasionally encounter women who want to have sex. But I hesitate and don't go through with it. These aren't women who are my type. They are attractive but I prefer someone cute, educated and able to have interesting conversations. With the last woman I actually really wanted, it didn't work out and I had my heart broken.

I'm afraid of STDs or the condom breaking and getting them pregnant. But also, I just want to feel safe and comfortable. Is it weird to regularly turn down sex while waiting for that connection?

The last time I had real sex was 10 years ago.

I'm also bi and a bit soft so maybe I view things differently. And I'm in South Africa, not the US or Europe.

I met a woman at a book shop and we enjoyed the same books. I told her I was in a book club and we exchanged details and I gave her the join link. After some days, she messages about a screening for the new Mortal Kombat movie and says she has no one to go with.

So I suggest we go and we do. She gets the tickets and I get the snacks. We sit in one of the conjoined sofas since it was a prestige cinema. And it was a great time. After the movie, we talked for 2 hours and went to a cafe.

We became aware of an age gap. She was 37 and I was 29. But the conversation was really great.

Afterwards we hugged and said bye and she said I should let her know if I wanted to do something again. I would message occasionally but then she began leaving all my messages on read.

I thought we were friends. Did she think it was something more?

Hey there I'm a single guy looking to meet someone to date and ultimately lead into a long-term relationship.

I work in tech and I am currently completing my PhD part-time. So I'm someone who loves to read and talk about science.

I also enjoy Fantasy and Mystery books and my other hobbies include going for jogs, hikes, visiting cafés and bookshops. I also love baking and playing tennis on weekends.

My ideal type is someone who I can spend quality time with, go on drives, picnics and have deep convos with. If you're into nerdy stuff, we can also go to comicon together. I really love tattoos so if you're goth or alternative and covered in them, please hit me up 😊. I'm also LGBT friendly.

While I am open to seeing how things go, I would ideally like to get married in the next couple years. So if you're looking for a smart, kind, relatively stable and successful potential future husband, please DM me.