u/Fly-Becca

I'm an African woman who is 36 currently residing in South Africa, looking to connect with a white male. Who knows what he is looking for, relationship wise, honest, fun & curious. I work, I am currently studying as well, running a part-time events coordinating business, and doing research online for extra income. I am beautiful, sexy, witty, alluring & attracted to intellectuals. I want someone whose words match their actions, be ready to travel open to exploring & living in the moment. Maturity is important, I tend to attract younger men, but this is non-negotiable for me. I am feminine, well groomed, and I smell divine & I want a man that appreciates me & makes me his Queen and trust me I will give you my all.

This is an update on my previous post 3 months ago, as we were looking at options. Thank you to everyone who took the time to give me feedback, their experiences,advice & just send recommendations. All the love & concern could be felt. I'm humbled but so hopeful for the world 🌎 we explored all options, took the time & at the end we went for surgery. Previously, we wanted the non surgical option, so we consulted an othotist & an orthopedic surgeon. My son had an S curve with 54 degrees top & 51 degrees bottom, so the orthopedic surgeon suggested surgery immediately. The othotist suggested bracing as he feels my son could still correct it as his in a growth sprout.He was 1.83cm tall, I know this has changed because I can see after surgery that he is taller now. We also tried a physiotherapist who specializes in the scroth method, then decided to also do a second opinion on the orthopedic to make sure we had the same prognosis. The orthopedic confirmed the same solution was surgery & also wanted to fuse T4 to L1. He is a very good surgeon, calmed our fears, answered our unnecessary questions, gave us as much information, & in that consultation room, my son committed to surgery. Not by my prompting or my asking, but because he believed,trusted the surgery & most importantly, the Dr. As I have said previously, this was what I wanted: he has free will, his old enough to understand, but also he is the one that will bring his body out of recovery. The physio session was intense, I saw my son look at me & I knew he couldn't put his body through so much work and all the time it would take from his childhood. So we decided on surgery, the events that followed supported this, his surgery was approved by my medical aid, no motivation required & as he is under age so we would have had to in general. I was able to upgrade to the right plan on time to avoid waiting periods & we received full authorization. We arrived here on Tuesday for the surgery & the hospital staff were amazing. Each Dr. who is part of the process took time to introduce themselves, answer questions, and reassure us. From the othotist who is making the support brace, the anesthesiologist & the physiotherapist, they all made their way to our room. The Dr met us before theater and he placed his hand on my sons face and asked if he remembers him & is he ready, my sons face lit up he was so happy and the walk through to the last door I can enter was so easy. I knew the man going in before him would make sure he corrected and the surgery was successful. After three hours, I received a voice note from the doctor himself, saying my son's surgery was successful and his happy with the outcome. I am elated & I know we made the right choice for us. He chose his weapon. This is our fight. It's been made easy as we have had so many people on the frontline. Including prayers, messages, and calls all that love has brought us out of that operating room. His a bit tired, little to no pain and is ready to walk, his excited and I see the smile I had when he was born ❤️ this is full circle believe,trust be relentless, ask questions be daring and most importantly take the life you deserve & make it your dream life we won!