bestfriend (m, in a relationship) of 4 years confessed his love to me (f, lesbian, in a relationship) drunk
i feel so incredibly disappointed, sad and shocked. for context: me and said guy have been bestfriends for 4 years since i visited the us for the first time, as you can tell from first screenshot im from europe. meaning we’re in a long distance friendship. this has never been a problem though since we’ve always had a great connection, as seen in screenshot 1 he knows i’m a lesbian, not attracted to men!! and am in a 2 year relationship with my girlfriend. he is in a relationship with his girlfriend for 5 years (since 1,5 years long distance because he left for military).
we shared everything with each other and supported us in every way possible he truly is my bestfriend and means a lot to me. i never doubted any of that until today.
he never drinks but he’s not doing well rn since his now long distance relationship isn’t going well and they both really struggle with it, we’ve had multiple conversations about it too in which he told me how much he loves her and will keep trying etc. ( even this morning !!!!)
then 3 hours ago these texts from him reached me. i’m devasted. he is now asleep since in his timezone it’s very late, i will as soon as i get up confront him on what the fuck this was.
part of me hopes there’s any valid explanation even though i already know there isn’t anything: if you’re drunk you’re just saying things you’re scared to sober otherwise
still, i wanna hear what he says and im planning on giving him the option to either tell his girlfriend himself or i will. i guess either way i can’t be friends with him anymore after this and this is so sad to me since we were super close.
i feel terrible for his girlfriend, she is the sweetest :(
i just hope for her that she leaves cause she deserves so much better, even though i know it’s gonna be so so hard on them.
edit: i also sent a message i just realized was cut off saying „you have a girlfriend“
do you think it is possible to get over this and be friends again at some point or no? i really do not wanna lose him forever.
if you have any advice please let me know!!