u/skyeln69

hi i’m f19 and my sister is f13 turning 14 next month, she is currently in a courting stage with her courtship partner (m16). i fully support their courtship no matter what happens to them, they’re literally just teenagers who love themselves.

however, our parents disapprove their relationship and they’ve been caught for lets say five or six times. they wanted to let my sister to cut ties or break up with her courtship, then it gets escalated to the point they got even more paranoid about their courtship.

recently, nakita ng tita namin ung instagram niya kasi naka public ung main account ng sis ko and she was kind of curious talaga on what’s up with us tapos there was a ig highlight dedicated for her and her courtship only tapos my aunt decided to expose her to my mom and dad then later on the other aunt joined in to add more evidence.

last friday my mom said along the lines of “my sister’s name balitaan ko kay tita mo may boyfriend ka na raw.” and she kinda got disappointed when she said it, of course me being the ate here i saidd “secrets are meant to be kept not meant to be shared.” eh totoo naman e, i don’t literally like people who would share evidence and wrongfully accuse someone like that.

ayun nga kinabukasan, there was a full escalated fight about her and her courtship with the guy. there was a lot of slut shamming and assuming that she prioritizes the boy over studying (i know she prioritizes both of these naman and she is a very smart person), basta the argument lasted for four hours until they stopped talking to my sister the entire time. then my mom started to talk to her friend’s and the guy stating how disappointed she was when she saw these photos.

then today, they caught her using my phone (for context: i let her to use my phone whenever she’s grounded) and they went on to check her instagram account to check if him and her are still chatting not knowing that they are talking on my fb account. they were slut shaming her (mind you thats a 14 year old that they are talking to) because they saw a hickey on my sister, they lectured everything basta its related to relationships, teenage pregnancy (even though they haven’t done anything yet), and now they are going to stop her from studying for a year or so.

now, i’m worried that my sister’s mental health might worsen because of what my parents and relatives did to her and her privacy was even broken down by these people who we trusted so much. she’s overthinking that she might got insulted and belittled by my relatives at our province. this situation has gone through far beyond and i would question myself whether or not if they were right about slut shamming or stopping my sister from going to school, they right about on some of these but they’ve gone PRETTTYYY far with this one to the point that my sister would be replacing our maid who will be moving out this july.

she’s begging my mom for her not to halt her studies because she fears to be left behind by her classmates or to be homeschooled instead of this. she doesn’t know what or how to feel about this situation cause they destroyed her mental state and she’s keep on blaming herself. alam ko naman may mali dito but she’s just broken on how they treated her after what happened yesterday and today, i just wish they can hear her out once again for them to understand and view on the situation.

do you think kami ba yung gago dito sa situation na to?