u/sleepynlost

I (F20) am incredibly close with my dad (M53) and am very aware of his struggles in my life. From work being stressful to bearing 100% of the family’s financial burden (3 kids in private schools), doing all the child rearing, 90% of the housework, and driving my siblings to and from school. He really does it all. My mom (46) is in the picture but also not. She lives at home but doesn’t contribute financially, physically, or emotionally (ive been cooking and caring for my siblings since i was 12 — she has never cooked me a meal). My siblings and I have a very bad relationship with her due to her narcissism. With that being said, my dad does so much and i dont blame him for being resentful against my mom.

I think this resentment against my mom has festered into misogyny. he told me that he thinks “women are entitled as they keep getting everything from men.” He tried to follow it up with some bs statistics about how women get everything. this really disgusted me and the ai chinese stories on facebook and youtube make it worse as he keeps listening to the ones where its from the perspective of a man and the wife is cheating or whatever (my mom, as terrible of a person she is, never cheated to my knowledge).

i think he resents me and my siblings too. since he pays for everything from tuition to bills and food. he thinks we ask for too much (both monetarily and too much of his time). i overheard him tell his coworkers on a zoom call that “my kids keep being wasteful when i turn my back”. i genuinely think that my siblings are relatively low maintenance and its just difficult because my mom doesn’t contribute.

I am not self sufficient. My dad pays for my college tuition but I dont think he would take it away if i were to talk to him about it. I love and respect my dad so much which is why it really hurts to see him act this way.

its really late and im writing this because i cant sleep so please forgive the bad grammar. thanks in advance