u/sophia_biston

I’m looking to connect with and learn from some of the more experienced men on here.

As a guy trying to navigate life, career, and relationships, I often feel like modern advice is missing something. I’d love to hear some real, unfiltered wisdom from the older generation.

• What did you worry about in your 20s/30s that turned out to be completely irrelevant?
• What are the things that actually matter in the long run?

Would love to hear your stories, even the small everyday lessons. Cheers!

I’m in my late 20s and feeling completely burnt out trying to live up to the "scripts" I was given about what it means to be a man and be successful.

• What was the biggest myth you bought into regarding masculinity or success?
• How did you realize it was a lie, and what did you replace it with?
• What does true fulfillment and manhood look like to you today
• I’d love to hear some perspective from the guys who have already walked the path. What can I safely stop stressing about?

We always hear the big, sweeping advice like "save for retirement" or "wear sunscreen," but I’m curious about the smaller, everyday things.

Whether it’s a specific stretching routine, a rule you made for how you handle arguments, a tech habit, or just a quirky daily ritual—what minor routine felt insignificant at the time but completely changed the trajectory of your health, wealth, or happiness decades later?

I’m currently at a bit of a crossroads and trying to filter out the 'noise' of what society says I should care about versus what actually leads to a fulfilling life. What are the things you stopped stressing about, and what are the things you wish you had started taking seriously sooner...?