My Mom Won’t Accept The Person I Want to Marry
I (28F) have been with my partner (28M) for almost six years now, we dated for five and last September he proposed to me and I accepted. I knew my mom wasn’t going to accept him but I still had hope. I told her in November and her reaction was unlike anything I could’ve ever imagined. She was absolutely hysterical. Screaming, crying, begging, praying, threatening physical harm to herself and my partner’s family, desperate for me to change my mind. It was a very traumatic experience for me and my dad who was overseas ended up coming home early to resolve the situation. It’s been 7 months now since I’ve told my mom. She is fine and normal and pretends like everything is ok and she’s delusional in the sense that she feels like there’s still a chance we wont get married. My dad told me he supports me and will do anything I need him to do and that has included having conversations with my mom but he isn’t really getting anywhere with her. I’m getting really frustrated at how much time has passed and it feels like nothing is moving in any kind of direction. We are Muslim so the next step would be for my partner‘s parents to come formally ask for my hand but I don’t even know if we can get to that point right now. I’m just so lost and I really don’t know how to navigate this. I’m thinking my next step is to just talk to my mom one more time to tell her that my feelings about my partner haven’t changed and I would like his parents to come ask for my hand. If she won’t participate then that’s her choice but I will continue to move forward with the process.