u/stilldreaming22

I’m a mother to a sweet darling of a boy who is 4. We’ve been excited about having another one but my pmdd takes over and causes me severe distress and last night my husband said I can’t cope with even one so how will we have another. He wants me to get better, he loves and cares about my wellbeing so I know he’s being rational but it’s heartbreaking. I feel so pathetic and jealous that I have this and other women have multiple children and thrive. Why am I so broken? It all started probably a year after having my son and has gotten progressively worse. I just feel crap and sad and longing for another child and knowing that yes it might not be sustainable. Has anyone managed to go on and have more children and coped or did you choose not to have more? I’m torn..

We have decided that we would like to have another child provided it all works out of course. It will mean a 5+ age gap and I’m wondering what your experience has been as a parent and what you’ve observed your child’s experience is/ has been so far. Thank you!! ☺️

We currently have one child (4 years old) and want another but the cost of living, stress, he still wakes up and comes to our bed and sleeps with me until morning, up and down relationship have made us consider the prospect of one child.

I would love my son to have a sibling, I love my brother dearly and my husband has a brother too who he loves (they aren’t super close). My son has 3 first cousins and heaps of second cousins. He’s got quite a lot of family friends too. He isn’t bothered by a sibling? He is like “ooo I’d love a puppy” and I will say “what about a sibling?” And he’s like “a puppy first though”.. I don’t know if it would change once the baby got here if we do end up having another but yeah.. is that odd? Anyone else’s kid not fussed about a sibling?

My cut off for a second is probably me being 36 and I’m about to turn 35.. I’m wondering how common it is to have two? I sort of regret having such a gap between but I know we wouldn’t of survived mentally and financially. The world is getting so expensive, I don’t want to struggle. Is it still taboo to have one? I also feel guilty not having another one. :(