u/strained-noodle

Edit 1:
leave it to redditors to take something meant to be helpful and wholesome and try to turn it negative. For those of you in that camp, THIS is exactly why your SP doesn’t want you. You’re miserable. Completely and utterly miserable.

For the rest of you who got something out of this post feel free to DM me! Happy to answer any questions I can :)

Edit 2:
Me and the other girl obviously broke up. Use your brains.

"I'm excited to be dating you again:)"

- My SP

For context: I'm 38M, she's 36F. We had a really healthy relationship, honestly. We dated from January to June 2025, and I broke up with her — not because anything was wrong, but because I was just being stupid. We got back together in July 2025, and she left me in August. But my actions prior to her leaving — breaking up with her in June when things were genuinely good — are what led us here. She ultimately gave me a dose of my own medicine and left me for someone else she'd known for a while during our break. I take full responsibility. She never would have engaged with her 3P had I not broken up with her to begin with. Served me right, actually.

Now, my post:

Man... I legitimately envisioned writing this post 8 months ago - although I was very broken and didn't think it would actually happen. I'm happy to say with absolutely certainty, my ex GF and I are back together, and happier than ever.

This is after:

Blind sided me with the breakup (however, I blame more myself than her - long story)
She told me "We aren't the right people for each other"
Told me "when my mind is made up, it's made up and I'm always sure of my decision"
months of no contact.

What I did:

I moved on completely. I accepted whole-heartedly that she would never come back, and that I would have to make peace with that (I think this part was actually CRITICAL. Do NOT underestimate the power of LETTING GO Whole-heartedly and completely. It's scary, I get it, but it's necessary)
I invested fully into my new GF, gave this new relationship my best. Gave HER my best.
To my surprise, she responded with a ton of smiley faces and excited energy. I was confused. I genuinely thought she would tell me to kick rocks or not respond. She did the opposite.

We met up to talk, and the craziest thing she told me was that I'd reached out at exactly the right moment. She'd just ended things with her 3P TWO weeks prior (mentally, she'd been done for two months). She said that if I'd messaged her any earlier, she said she either wouldn't have replied or would've just told me she was in a relationship. This is important, because like I said, I reached out through pure inspiration - not from desperation. Had I reached out through desperation, I would have reached out waaaay sooner when she was involved with her 3p. Because I was fully detached, I was able to reach out from a place of 'source' and 'truth' - if that makes sense.

Current:

We are a month strong, and things have been phenomenal. We agreed to approach this with intentionality, and a lot of it. Weekly, we will be checking in and answering a recurring set of questions to check in and see how the other are doing and feeling. We have identified the ways in which we want to show up for each other this time compared to last time, and have steadily been working towards that.

We've had SEVERAL dates and date nights doing the things we both love. Lots of smiles, giggles.. I'm genuinely nervous and filled with butterflies when I'm around her. You have to understand that this is my dream woman. When I came back to her in July 2025, I was ready. I had fully and wholly chosen her, but unfortunately paid for my past actions when she left me. Karma has no deadline. So to be back with her is literally a dream come true.

Advice:

I don't have much advice to give other than to let go. I know it's scary. And this is the exact advice I would have hated to hear, but it's true. Do SATS, visualize etc.. as you see fit, but if those things are coupled with negative emotion and/or desperation, stop. It's better to NOT do that stuff at all than it is to do so with bad vibes/energy present. Let go. Move on. Deepen your friendships, delve DEEP into your hobbies and passions, when ready - get into a new relationship even. But do not dwell in a negative space regarding your SP. Go through the pain, yes, but after a while - let it all go, trust the process and move on.

One final piece I want to clarify....I moved on and let go KNOWING she and I would get back together. It's hard to explain it, but I knew in my heart that this would be the outcome. I only let go, because I knew that from a manifestation standpoint, letting go is the primary ingredient. I've done it before. Hundreds of times. This WAS the toughest, but that didn't change the fact that the principle of letting go is TRUE.

You don't plat a seed and watch a flower grow 24/7, do you? No. Things need time and space to grow. Plants. Manifestations etc.

Understanding this on a deeper level allowed me to eventually let go, knowing that she and I would arrive here. This was the biggest test of the LAW for me (truly) and as always, it didn't fail.

❤️

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