u/stupid_society_bitch

So I have been dating this guy for 2 months and he’s in the army and currently stationed about an hour and a half away from where I live. About a month into dating he was sent off for a month overseas and he just came back. Before he had to be shipped out he told me of his plans for taking leave to go see his family back in his home state about a week or so after he gets back (depending on when he got back).

While he was gone for the month we didn’t have a ton of communication because of the time difference and he and I just both being busy with work (obviously him with the army stuff and me being in the funeral service industry). When we were able to talk everything was great and we click really well together.

Yes I had some insecurities with him being gone but I never was upset with him and we always were able to talk through them when we did get to talk. And it was mostly just worries about his safety which is valid. I genuinely started falling and I’m still falling for him hard now even with the current news that I need advice on.

So months before we met and started talking/dating he had applied for an MOS change that is his dream job while being in the army. The job has him going all over, internationally to embassies for months at a time and with him being able to speak multiple languages he was pretty much a shoe in to get it but he didn’t hear anything back for a while and kinda forgot he put in the application for it.

Well he got the offer for the job he applied for the day after he got back from this last ship-out and he agreed with no hesitation. I don’t feel entitled by any means that he needed to talk with me about the decision seeing as it’s his life and his career (dream job at that). And I’ve never been the type to try and hold anyone back from what they want to do for the betterment of themselves or be like “oh well maybe you shouldn’t because what about us”. Again 2 months of dating.

Also I want to point out that Im insanely proud of him and really excited for him to have this opportunity. Genuinely I’m happy he’s being recognized for his merit and abilities and I couldn’t be more excited for him to get to do his dream job.

The job he accepted (which basically went: applied, was sent offer, said hell yes) is starting immediately after he gets back from leave after seeing his family and he will be sent to shadow the person he is taking the position over from for about a year and while shadowing he won’t be available to be on his phone for “security reasons” for most days of the week and will be exhausted on the days he does have free.

With my job in the funeral home I’m on call almost 24/7 and I’m not able to be on my phone all that often either but for different reasons obviously. I don’t feel the need to text or call every single day because I also just need to relax when I get done and am at home. Plus when he was gone this past month I had started keeping a journal that let me talk about my day and “ask him questions” when we weren’t actually able to call or text. And this helped a lot with feeling connected to him even when we couldn’t text/call.

So I feel like I could be alright doing the long distance thing. But when we talked about it he had said he hasn’t seen it work out for anyone but is willing to try long distance with me because he does genuinely like me and wants me to be happy.

I’ve also asked my mom about it (because she is the most logical level headed person I know) and reminded me that with my job always keeping me busy and him always being busy as well it could work if we can still manage to talk even if it’s just for a few sentences a week. Plus she reminded me that I could always try to plan a vacation out to where he would be since I have a passport and go sightseeing and try to at least grab dinner or something with him to see him in person if I absolutely needed to.

I just need advice on how to go about it and with the limited contact we would be having for months how do we continue to reassure each other that we are still trying and can make it work. Yes I’m going to miss him being here when we had planned all of these things to do with him being back in the state but I’m not naive enough to expect him to still try to spend as much time with me as possible when he’s getting everything ready for his move. Especially since he is talking with me as much as possible still and we act as though nothing has changed.

So if anyone has any advice I would really really appreciate it!

So I have been dating this guy for 2 months and he’s in the army and currently stationed about an hour and a half away from where I live. About a month into dating he was sent off for a month overseas and he just came back. Before he had to be shipped out he told me of his plans for taking leave to go see his family back in his home state about a week or so after he gets back (depending on when he got back).

While he was gone for the month we didn’t have a ton of communication because of the time difference and he and I just both being busy with work (obviously him with the army stuff and me being in the funeral service industry). When we were able to talk everything was great and we click really well together.

Yes I had some insecurities with him being gone but I never was upset with him and we always were able to talk through them when we did get to talk. And it was mostly just worries about his safety which is valid. I genuinely started falling and I’m still falling for him hard now even with the current news that I need advice on.

So months before we met and started talking/dating he had applied for an MOS change that is his dream job while being in the army. The job has him going all over, internationally to embassies for months at a time and with him being able to speak multiple languages he was pretty much a shoe in to get it but he didn’t hear anything back for a while and kinda forgot he put in the application for it.

Well he got the offer for the job he applied for the day after he got back from this last ship-out and he agreed with no hesitation. I don’t feel entitled by any means that he needed to talk with me about the decision seeing as it’s his life and his career (dream job at that). And I’ve never been the type to try and hold anyone back from what they want to do for the betterment of themselves or be like “oh well maybe you shouldn’t because what about us”. Again 2 months of dating.

Also I want to point out that Im insanely proud of him and really excited for him to have this opportunity. Genuinely I’m happy he’s being recognized for his merit and abilities and I couldn’t be more excited for him to get to do his dream job.

The job he accepted (which basically went: applied, was sent offer, said hell yes) is starting immediately after he gets back from leave after seeing his family and he will be sent to shadow the person he is taking the position over from for about a year and while shadowing he won’t be available to be on his phone for “security reasons” for most days of the week and will be exhausted on the days he does have free.

With my job in the funeral home I’m on call almost 24/7 and I’m not able to be on my phone all that often either but for different reasons obviously. I don’t feel the need to text or call every single day because I also just need to relax when I get done and am at home. Plus when he was gone this past month I had started keeping a journal that let me talk about my day and “ask him questions” when we weren’t actually able to call or text. And this helped a lot with feeling connected to him even when we couldn’t text/call.

So I feel like I could be alright doing the long distance thing. But when we talked about it he had said he hasn’t seen it work out for anyone but is willing to try long distance with me because he does genuinely like me and wants me to be happy.

I’ve also asked my mom about it (because she is the most logical level headed person I know) and reminded me that with my job always keeping me busy and him always being busy as well it could work if we can still manage to talk even if it’s just for a few sentences a week. Plus she reminded me that I could always try to plan a vacation out to where he would be since I have a passport and go sightseeing and try to at least grab dinner or something with him to see him in person if I absolutely needed to.

I just need advice on how to go about it and with the limited contact we would be having for months how do we continue to reassure each other that we are still trying and can make it work. Yes I’m going to miss him being here when we had planned all of these things to do with him being back in the state but I’m not naive enough to expect him to still try to spend as much time with me as possible when he’s getting everything ready for his move. Especially since he is talking with me as much as possible still and we act as though nothing has changed.

So if anyone has any advice I would really really appreciate it!

So I have been dating this guy for 2 months and he’s in the army and currently stationed about an hour and a half away from where I live. About a month into dating he was sent off for a month overseas and he just came back. Before he had to be shipped out he told me of his plans for taking leave to go see his family back in his home state about a week or so after he gets back (depending on when he got back).

While he was gone for the month we didn’t have a ton of communication because of the time difference and he and I just both being busy with work (obviously him with the army stuff and me being in the funeral service industry). When we were able to talk everything was great and we click really well together.

Yes I had some insecurities with him being gone but I never was upset with him and we always were able to talk through them when we did get to talk. And it was mostly just worries about his safety which is valid. I genuinely started falling and I’m still falling for him hard now even with the current news that I need advice on.

So months before we met and started talking/dating he had applied for an MOS change that is his dream job while being in the army. The job has him going all over, internationally to embassies for months at a time and with him being able to speak multiple languages he was pretty much a shoe in to get it but he didn’t hear anything back for a while and kinda forgot he put in the application for it.

Well he got the offer for the job he applied for the day after he got back from this last ship-out and he agreed with no hesitation. I don’t feel entitled by any means that he needed to talk with me about the decision seeing as it’s his life and his career (dream job at that). And I’ve never been the type to try and hold anyone back from what they want to do for the betterment of themselves or be like “oh well maybe you shouldn’t because what about us”. Again 2 months of dating.

Also I want to point out that Im insanely proud of him and really excited for him to have this opportunity. Genuinely I’m happy he’s being recognized for his merit and abilities and I couldn’t be more excited for him to get to do his dream job.

The job he accepted (which basically went: applied, was sent offer, said hell yes) is starting immediately after he gets back from leave after seeing his family and he will be sent to shadow the person he is taking the position over from for about a year and while shadowing he won’t be available to be on his phone for “security reasons” for most days of the week and will be exhausted on the days he does have free.

With my job in the funeral home I’m on call almost 24/7 and I’m not able to be on my phone all that often either but for different reasons obviously. I don’t feel the need to text or call every single day because I also just need to relax when I get done and am at home. Plus when he was gone this past month I had started keeping a journal that let me talk about my day and “ask him questions” when we weren’t actually able to call or text. And this helped a lot with feeling connected to him even when we couldn’t text/call.

So I feel like I could be alright doing the long distance thing. But when we talked about it he had said he hasn’t seen it work out for anyone but is willing to try long distance with me because he does genuinely like me and wants me to be happy.

I’ve also asked my mom about it (because she is the most logical level headed person I know) and reminded me that with my job always keeping me busy and him always being busy as well it could work if we can still manage to talk even if it’s just for a few sentences a week. Plus she reminded me that I could always try to plan a vacation out to where he would be since I have a passport and go sightseeing and try to at least grab dinner or something with him to see him in person if I absolutely needed to.

I just need advice on how to go about it and with the limited contact we would be having for months how do we continue to reassure each other that we are still trying and can make it work. Yes I’m going to miss him being here when we had planned all of these things to do with him being back in the state but I’m not naive enough to expect him to still try to spend as much time with me as possible when he’s getting everything ready for his move. Especially since he is talking with me as much as possible still and we act as though nothing has changed.

So if anyone has any advice I would really really appreciate it!