right now i have hair at about my shoulders with curtain bangs and i still have a desire to grow it out more. i’ve been looking at guys with really long dark hair and i want to look like that so badly.
my question, how do i look more masculine with longer hair? right now even when wearing more masculine clothes i just look like a girl still. anyone have any tips?
honestly just need someone to share this with as i can’t with any of my friends or anything. but oh my god the absolute gender envy this pic of timothee chalamet gives me. his hair here is so masc but so fem in the best way. AND THE NOSE ughhhh i want to look like that so bad
carrying on from some of my previous posts (you can go read them if you want to but you don’t have to!) i’m leaning more towards being gender fluid or non binary currently. i think it’s the label that suits me the most as i think my confusion with my gender is due to the fact i constantly go from one extreme to the other, sometime feeling intensely like i want to be a boy and some times intensely wanting to be a girl and then just neither. after doing my own research this sounds like genderfuild to me but im still not 100% on it yet!
one question i have, can i still identify as a lesbian while being gender fluid or should i use sapphic or queer? for me im definitely only attracted to women so the lesbian label feels right and thats what ive used for the past two years.
(TW: mention of internalised homophobia!)
anyone have any tips for dealing with gender envy? i’m slowly coming to terms with being non binary or maybe possibly trans ftm but im still very veryyyy unsure about it all.
i’m hella struggling with my gender envy, to the point where it’s all im thinking about. it’s so exhausting and confusing, i’m also struggling with having a few internalised transphobia thoughts which is making it all so much worse. i get very fixated on certain looks in others i see and it’s so all consuming.
any advice would be greatly appreciated!!
Hi there! i’ve decided to turn to reddit for some advice cause i have no idea who to turn to for this.
i’ve identified as a lesbian for about two years now, previously identified as bisexual (used to say with a big preference for women and i literally never dated men) for most my life. i’ve partly explored my gender a few years back, seeing if i was possibly trans ftm or non binary, but none ever felt right. so i’ve stuck with she/her and lesbian for these two years and it partly feels right but also deep down a part of me feels it’s wrong?
i’ve noticed with men, i often feel some sort of admiration(?) for them, which is the best way i can describe it. this is typically for celebrities and characters but is also with men i meet in real life. i find myself appreciating the way they look and liking certain features/ dress styles. i can’t tell if this is attraction or more gender envy. in my head i want to look like a man, but i don’t want to be a trans man or a masc lesbian(if that makes sense?) but i also enjoy being a woman and using the lesbian label. i dress mostly feminine and feel comfortable with it mostly.
something a few weeks ago stuck out to me which i feel is relevant, i got called sir and mate by a woman at the shop. i dress feminine but do have quite short hair, but i still feel its hard to mistake me for a man. this made me uncomfortable the fact she thought i was a man, so part of me thinks even though i have desire to be a man, im definitely not trans? is how i feel about my gender and men attraction which im in some sort of denial about? i’m very unsure.
if anyone has any advice or gone through a similar thing it’d be greatly appreciated!!