u/sunflowercee07

My stepsons mom recently stopped working because she now has 2 more kids now that she doesn’t have childcare for/cant afford childcare for.

My husband has gotten in to his head that he now has to be more financially responsible for their two sons just because she herself is not working. I told him that wasn’t right because it’s not his fault that she’s not working because she chose to have more kids. She does have a husband that works and I feel like she wouldn’t have quit her job if her now husband couldn’t help take care of her two sons too. And from what I can tell she hasn’t straight up asked him to provide more, but my husband is choosing to but I just don’t like that he feels like he has to because she’s not working. I feel like she should still be financially responsible for them regardless of personal circumstances that have nothing to do with us.

Plus she has always been on my husbands ass about how he doesn’t help out as much as he should be, but she only says that because my husbands does make way more money than she did and feels like she can take advantage of that. I will not stop my husband from getting his sons what they need, especially right now for back to school stuff but I just don’t think it’s fair. Especially with past accusations of him not helping enough before.

Whenever my stepsons need anything at our home like for example more socks because I don’t know how they manage to get holes in them or they just lose socks then I will buy them more with no problem.

But what do you guys when they need more jeans or shorts after just buying them a whole bunch? Like right now they have like literally one pair of basketball shorts here at home, but I’ve bought them so many in the past couple of months. Like I know they are all at their moms house and before I would just buy them more, but it’s getting a little excessive now to continue to buy more when I know they have some but they’re just at their moms house.

Their mom has asked my husband before if we had jeans or something here because they were all out and I would happily packed them a bag of the extras we had to send back to her. But my husband is so bad sometimes at communicating with her that if I told him to ask for clothes back that he would just tell his sons to bring some back and theyd come back with like one extra pair only. Maybe I should be more stern with my husband and make sure she tells her directly so we can make sure they bring some back?

Or is all this weird and make us look cheap and I should just continue to buy more? I’m 4 years in to coparenting and still learning what is and isn’t acceptable for me to do as the stepmom.

If you were send to do your glucose test early around 12-14 weeks and you partially failed your 3 hour test and then were asked to monitor your sugars for x amount of time. But you were cleared of GDM at that point, were you tested again at a later time? Like around the normal 24-26 weeks timeline?

This is exactly what I am going through and my numbers have been within range and I’m wondering if they will still make me retest. I have my appointment on July 7th but just curious of what they will tell me since we will be going over my numbers from the past 2 weeks

Edit to my post: please read!

I am going to be vulnerable here and hope to not get any judgment but advice instead.

My fasting numbers started good between 85-90, but for the past week I haven’t been able to get it down from 93-100 even after trying different bedtime snacks. So I have lied on a few of my numbers because I really didn’t want to be diagnosed this early on. I started monitoring at about 14 weeks and I’m 20 weeks now.

My plan was to lie on a few days. Get a few weeks of “freedom” and eating whatever I wanted then would retest later in my pregnancy and I would most likely be diagnosed at that point because something tells me I would fail my test again. But now I’m getting in my head and I don’t know if a few weeks of freedom is worth it. What would you do if you were in my shoes? Again please no judgement. I still have time to edit my numbers on my sheet before my next appointment and show them my real numbers.

Also, only numbers I’m struggling with are my fasting numbers. My post meal numbers are great!

My doctor had me take my glucose test at I think 13 weeks. Honestly this one is on me because I didn’t ask why but I just went with it. I think it’s because I’m considered to be “obese” well barely failed my 1 hour then took the 3 hour and failed the 1st hour only so she had me monitor my sugars for 2 weeks

First 2 weeks I had a few meals of 135-145 and that was with making changes to my diet.

At my last appointment I saw a different OB because mine wasn’t available and wanted me to test for another 2 weeks because of those higher numbers.

I’m on day 7 of my monitoring and only issues I’ve had so far was a few days of fasting highs and highest I got was 100 and should be under 95. Thankfully this time I am not struggling as much, but it is still taking a mental toll on me

I’m currently 19w6d and I really hope they see good numbers and make me stop monitoring. I couldn’t imagine having to deal with this for 20 more weeks.

Was anyone else told to monitor or actually diagnosed with GD from that early like I was?