Am I in the wrong for wearing a shirt with an inside joke to meet my girlfriend’s parents?
For context, I (27 male) have been dating my girlfriend Reyna (22 female) for six months now and recently we have decided to take things to the next level by meeting each other’s family. Reyna came by my parent’s house for dinner last weekend and things went great. My family loved her and she had a good time. This weekend I went to meet Reyna’s family and I can’t say I things went so well.
Me and Reyna are very secure in our relationship, the type of secure where you can see an objectively attractive girl on the street and turn to her and say “damn she’s hot” and not make eachother feel threatened. Well when we first agreed to meet each others family Reyna was showing me family photos on her mothers Facebook account. I’m not trying to be a jerk when I say this but Reyna’s mom is smoking, like seriously a fire hazard. She looks more like she could be Reyna’s sister than her mom, and recently returned from a trip to Mexico for a sick boob job. So obviously I joke to Reyna “Holy crap your mom is such a MILF!” When I tell you Reyna might have passed out from laughing so hard I wouldn’t be exaggerating. It become a sort of inside joke between us like we went to get Reyna a new sports bra from Lululemon (or whatever overpriced store she dragged me to) and said “Wow I’d like to see your mom in that”, or when we went to watch a 18+ movie she suggested I would prefer to see her mother as the female lead. You get the picture. So anyway, I saw this ad on Instagram for funny graphic tee’s and when I saw a shirt for sale that said “I heart MILF’s”, well the purchase was guaranteed. This weekend, before we left, I put the shirt on and pulled a sweater over top before Reyna couldn’t see. Then when we arrived at the house as soon as she knocked on the door I pretended that I forgot something in the truck and ripped off my hoodie then run back just as her mom opened the door. See, Reyna’s mom is a fifty something year old woman, what person so old would know what that acronym meant, just a funny inside joke between me and my girl right? Wrong, because apparently this fifty something year olds husband knew what it ment and was livid. He started yelling at me, and this guy was a BIG guy, so I was too afraid to even remember the things he said all I knew was that I needed to get the hell out of there before Reyna’s dad beat the crap out of me. I sprinted to truck and called out for Reyna to fallow but she stayed put and even called me some seriously hurtful stuff. I really thought it would just be a funny joke we could laugh over later I never expected it to go so badly. I drove home without her and now she’s sleeping at her parents and I don’t know what to do. I honestly don’t think I’m in the wrong, she thought the joke was funny too, and I feel like it’s pretty dramatic to be jealous of the sexual attention your own mother receives. I thought I would take it Reddit to see if I should apologize because she did seem hella pissed. So Reddit am I the a-hole