u/swedish_meatballs26

my girlfriend (18) and i (19) have been together for almost a year now. i honestly have no idea what to do anymore. to keep things short, back in april we had an argument and broke up, the argument was my fault & i broke up with her for no reason really other than my own unresolved abandonment issues. we didn’t text for a couple hours after but later that night we were texting again & hung out the next day. that day though she was on her phone and got a snapchat notification that someone added her back, the person who added her back was someone she has slept with before me. she tried to make excuses that he just randomly added her back & he didn’t add him the night we broke up. but her whole argument was “we were broken up” so it’s not like she cheated. we were broken up for less than 5 hours. she doesn’t see the fact that it was so quick for her to want somebody else.
about 2 months go by and obviously i don’t trust her like i did because of that. she blocked him & we were starting to move past it. but in the end of may we get into a little argument again, we didn’t break up but we agreed to take a couple hours away from texting each other.
last night i looked at her recently added on snapchat because i had some weird intuition & what do you know, she unblocked him when we had that little hiccup in the end of may.
i can’t believe im still talking to her right now & honestly im disgusted in her behavior. she says that she adds him when times get rough for “validation” and because he’s “easy” and will give her validation instantly. i have a strong feeling that she wants him but is with me for whatever reason, i also don’t want to be with someone that runs to someone else when things get hard. i honestly can’t believe im still in contact with her but she begged and begged for me not to leave. like i said i dont want a girlfriend who wants someone else but i dont know what to do anymore. any tips?

me (20) and my girlfriend (19) have been together for almost a year now. recently she’s been super unappreciative of things i do for her. i’m not the type of boyfriend to take her out to a fancy restaurant or buy her jewelry & pay for her nails. but i do take her on dates, buy her flowers, buy her mom flowers & spend quality time with her. this past weekend i missed a family party that she wanted me at because i had some anxiety about meeting everyone & once i was finally ready to come the party was coming to an end. i obviously didn’t feel good about it but she looks at it as i don’t want a relationship with her parents or family & she tears me apart on how i need to step up and she says she deserves better. for the most part i think our relationship has been pretty 50/50. i could go over to her house more but i work 40 hour weeks & she works under 30. most days im exhausted after my commute to and from work, i just don’t want to drive another 20 minutes to her, the driving part was also never an issue for her but now it is. she doesn’t want to break up and neither do i but when all she does is keep tabs on what i FAIL to do instead of looking at what i do do for her it just makes me feel really under appreciated & shitty because i really do try my hardest to keep her happy. i hope this makes sense & someone can give me a lick of advice, not sure what else i can do or even when i tell her i do things for her she asks me to list them. even when i list them she finds something to complain about. we went out with only HER friends on st patrick’s day because my friend i was going to bring canceled, so naturally i was a little bummed. but instead of her looking at the fact that i still went to make her happy she looks at it as i was “rude” to her friends because i was in a bad mood (i didn’t take it out on her or them i was just more quiet than usual). again i hope this makes sense and if anyone can give me help lmk. thank you