u/taintedgat0rade

Pretty much as the title says. My boyfriend smokes Marlboro Lights and has for as long as I’ve known him. Maybe a week or so ago I noticed a half-full pack of American Spirits in a dish on the kitchen counter that serves as a “junk drawer”. It hasn’t been sitting right with me ever since, and this morning, I asked him where they came from. He gave me some non-answer about “they’ve been in my car for a long time” (presumably implying that they’ve been there since before we started dating, and maybe he ran out and just went out and grabbed them in a pinch?) commented that he didn’t like the taste, and changed the subject. This answer still didn’t sit right with me, but I’m not sure why.

For context, one reason I might be overreacting is because this man literally never throws things away, ever. He has La Croix’s in his fridge that have been sitting untouched since the ex-girlfriend who bought them moved out 5 years ago. We’ve joked about it before, him saying that every time he considers throwing them away, it just feels wasteful and he convinces himself he’ll drink them. So if a girl had left half a pack of smokes in his car before we became exclusive, (January 2025) it is entirely plausible that he would’ve left them there indefinitely.

The problem is, I feel like if that were the case, then he would’ve said that more clearly. So, after he left for work a few hours ago, I searched google and reddit for how to read date codes on cigarettes. I’m 99% sure based on what I read that this pack of American Spirits is from November of 2025. However, there is that chance that I’m wrong, and if I am, I’m worried about how damaging it could potentially be to the relationship if I press the issue further, and he hasn’t done anything wrong.

My gut is screaming at me that him having these cigarettes is a result of cheating, specifically another girl leaving them his car/house, but I don’t really have any evidence. I just feel like if the reason for him having them were innocent, I would’ve gotten a more complete answer on where they came from. I’m not sure what to do. I’ve packed up most of the clothes/toiletries that I keep here and put them in my car. Part of me wants to take all my stuff and disappear, but I know that isn’t the way to handle this.

I also feel like I must be overreacting because it seems like an insult to his intelligence to think that if he had cheated, he would leave the evidence right there on the kitchen counter. Or maybe he really has that much audacity. Idk. My head is spinning and I don’t know what to do. Sorry for rambling, and I’ll appreciate any advice that comes my way :)

i’m not sure if this is the right sub to post this, but here goes. i’ve been paying for the more expensive version of my gym membership for over a year now because it includes tanning, which, in theory, i really want to do, but i’ve never tried any kind of tanning before. i know this is such a “ugh you people can’t do anything” type of post, but i do have pretty bad agoraphobia and anxiety, and im too afraid to ask my questions at the gym. but i have no idea how to go about tanning and i feel like when i try to google it, i get a lot of opinions/advertisements that aren’t particularly helpful.

i just want to know from a very basic standpoint, what do i need to do/bring? do i wear a thong in the tanning bed? is it okay to go nude if i don’t want tan lines? what do i need to put on my skin? i am very very pale and don’t want to use the wrong products and end up looking crazy and/or damaging my skin.

i’ve been paying for this service for so long and not using it out of fear and im really trying to break out of that, just a little guidance to start out would be majorly appreciated. tia!