u/taporizer

My fiance , 36m n dx, and I have been on thin ice for 5 months. I initially broke up with him near the turn of the year, then researched adhd and we agreed this is his issue and he needs diagnosis, so i put him on "probation " and applied for some apartments just in case this was an empty promise of forward movement.He kicked the can down the road guy for a while, and ive had to deal with his disregulation in the meantime. Tonight was the end. Id slept in our sunroom for a week because I was disgusted by his outbursts, and we had been living as roommates. He did something disrespectful, and i asked would he be ok if a man did that to his daughter. He stood there for a bit, thought about it, and said " actually yea, id be ok with that ." Idc WHAT neurodivergence he has, teaching your daughter tolerance of disrespect from men is a hard pass for me. So I let him know aint no reconciliation possible, confirmed and accepted one of those apartments, removed him from my credit cards authorization,let his family AND babymomma know we are done-zo, and will ride this out til move-in. His reaction?

He took a bikeride, came in to watch sports, smoked a joint by the pool, drank some wine, and is now watching sci-fi loudly. He isn't phased at all.

I know they get stubborn, but this is remarkable to me. Blow-up-your-life stubborn.

For those of you who have left an ADHD partner, how did they react?

Hey Phoenicians! I've been going tubing for years , and want to host a big group float this summer, with a "rest camp" at the halfway mark for folks to hop out, grab a bite and beer, then get back floating. I've seen families post up on the banks of the river and grill and set up a canopy and wish to do the same. Realistically, how early do i need to be there before the float to secure a spot on a busy weekend? Are we talking sunrise?

Edit: Let me clarify a few things. Everyone won't be starting and ending at the same time, so we will not all be tied together with tubes. Its an all day event. Some will arrive to the park later than others. And some will only want to socialize at the camp and splash in the water, without floating the river. The setup will be available 9am-4pm. We have several cars parked at either ends, not everyone is using the SRT shuttle&equipment service, so when its time to pack up, well just put everything in the car, float down the river, and drive back to get that packed up car.