u/teetony09

Hi everyone and thanks for taking the time out to read this and please go easy on me, I’m nervous writing this..

Let me give some context. I’m 35 year old black man that reside in Georgia and I’m not fully out yet.. so I label myself as DL. Everything is so complex these days until i don’t know how to label myself 🤣. Let me break it down a little. I tried coming out to my brother, he cursed me out and said I better be joking. I tried telling one of my best friends, he stopped talking to me for two years. I was in a relationship for 5 years with a guy and he cheated on me repeatedly. So of course I went into a deep depression. Also, I’m a bigger guy, big and tall..so I already had it in my mind no one wants me.. so I just wanted no one..

After some time, I started therapy and I told my mama that I was gay. She was open and accepting, she wanted me to tell all my family right away.. HELL NO! I’m apart of a big family and I hear them talk… I would rather tell my family when I have a reason. I thought I would’ve come out by now, but I have no reason. (More to that) I’m not getting any interest.. and when I do have a guy(s) interested in me, it’s just for sex or they’re so damaged until It goes nowhere. I’ve tried apps(both dating and for friends), and because I’m a bottom I’ve been told the following: I’m too masculine, I’m not gay forreal, I’m trying to be tough and need to tap into my feminine side.. 😒🙃 I’m just being me. I love masculinity and I’m just masculine with a touch of sumn🤣.

I’ve healed, I’ve learned accountability, I’ve gained acceptance I may just be alone. 😮‍💨😔 and yes, I do want to find love again. I’m okay dating someone and coming out after a year or two of dating to the people that matters. I’ve never dated or even attempted to date a girl since middle school. I refuse to play with someone heart and emotions for my own personal gain or image. However, I just wanted my homeboy in the streets and my daddy in the sheets🫣😂

What do I label myself? Discreet? Closeted Gay?

Hi everyone and thanks for taking the time out to read this and please go easy on me, I’m nervous writing this..

Let me give some context. I’m 35 year old man that reside in Georgia and I’m not fully out yet.. so I label myself as DL. Everything is so complex these days until i don’t know how to label myself 🤣. Let me break it down a little. I tried coming out to my brother, he cursed me out and said I better be joking. I tried telling one of my best friends, he stopped talking to me for two years. I was in a relationship for 5 years with a guy and he cheated on me repeatedly. So of course I went into a deep depression. Also, I’m a bigger guy, big and tall..so I already had it in my mind no one wants me.. so I just wanted no one..

After some time, I started therapy and I told my mama that I was gay. She was open and accepting, she wanted me to tell all my family right away.. HELL NO! I’m apart of a big family and I hear them talk… I would rather tell my family when I have a reason. I thought I would’ve come out by now, but I have no reason. (More to that) I’m not getting any interest.. and when I do have a guy(s) interested in me, it’s just for sex or they’re so damaged until It goes nowhere. I’ve tried apps(both dating and for friends), and because I’m a bottom I’ve been told the following: I’m too masculine, I’m not gay forreal, I’m trying to be tough and need to tap into my feminine side.. 😒🙃 I’m just being me. I love masculinity and I’m just masculine with a touch of sumn🤣.

I’ve healed, I’ve learned accountability, I’ve gained acceptance I may just be alone. 😮‍💨😔 and yes, I do want to find love again. I’m okay dating someone and coming out after a year or two of dating to the people that matters. I’ve never dated or even attempted to date a girl since middle school. I refuse to play with someone heart and emotions for my own personal gain or image. However, I just wanted my homeboy in the streets and my daddy in the sheets🫣😂

What do I label myself? Discreet? DL adjacent?

Hey, I’m a 35 years old living in Georgia just putting myself out there to see what’s possible. I’m kinda tall. 6’3 🙈. I’m really looking for something genuine. I’m not in a rush, but I do have intention when it comes to building something real. I believe the best relationships start off as a solid friendship and grow naturally into something deeper over time.

I’d describe myself as more masculine and I’m attracted to the same. I’m also a bigger, thicker guy, and I’m comfortable in that while still working on becoming a better version of myself. I’m a bottom as well, but recently wanting to try new things. I could be a little clingy at times. I’ve been single going on 10 years, so I’ve had time to really understand myself and what I want. I love to travel and try new restaurants, but I’m not really into the club scene. I might go to a bar here and there, but I’m more of a stay in, watch a movie or get into a good series type.

I’ve got dogs, so if you’re an animal person that’s definitely a plus. I’ll also be upfront and say I’m not fully out to family and friends yet, so I value discretion, honesty, and mutual respect when it comes to that.

I’m looking to connect with someone between 29 and 45 who’s open, communicative, and knows how to show up consistently. If you’re Bi, please don’t be shy lol. You don’t have to have everything figured out, just be real and intentional. I just want something that feels right and effortless. Someone who is understanding and wants to protect me, my heart and my peace.

If that sounds like you, feel free to reach out and let’s see where it goes.