u/thatmoonbitch

Both Todd and Toni were completely delusional! First, about finances. There is no Fucking Way, Toni would have been dumb enough to assume that just because someone is a doctor that they are wealthy. People working in positions like that deal with lifestyle inflation all the time. Todd should’ve told her that he had financial issues and had a large debt to pay off before he even thought about marrying her. That debt should’ve been paid down at least a quarter or 50% before he even thought about proposing to Toni. They should’ve sat down with a financial advisor, and Toni seems like she would’ve been the one to initiate that with her background in real estate. Sometimes I think these writers forget that they introduce these characters to us and give us so much information already.

When Todd and Toni got married, Todd, pointed out the fact that Toni chose a venue that doubled as a resort and was $10,000 a day. He also pointed it out in a furious manner. He knew he couldn’t afford that shit! And he knew he probably couldn’t afford Toni long-term. I will never understand how much desperation exists in our community surrounding marriage and children. Across the diaspora as well! I am Nigerian and I have seen credit cards maxed out for these weddings! Just to say you have a man, and for what?! Mind you this is coming from somebody who also wants a large wedding lmao! And it won’t be happening if I can’t afford it.

I don’t appreciate jealousy being spewed at l a friend, even though it is natural to be jealous at times, bringing that out into the world and actually putting that emotion out there Is very unhealthy. I believe it’s something that you should work through internally and there were many times with Joan failed to do that. I think that there were also many times where Joan was made into a joke by people who should’ve cared about her, supported her and not constantly laughed at the horrible things that happened to her. She has really gone through some SHIT in this show with these girls. First time I watched this show I was 19. I’m watching it again at 27 and I’m absolutely disgusted with all of them. They’re all terrible friends to each other, but there’s something consistently wrong with the way that they interact with Joan and I feel that behavior is a seed for jealousy. I have had friends that were vastly successful, much more than I was, and I still never felt jealous of them or at least never put it out there because they treated me so well that I didn’t even care! I barely noticed. I didn’t even have the time to compare their lives to mine. They also never allowed other people, even if we were friends or not to say things that would breed an emotion like jealousy.

Yes, Joan absolutely did have a problem when it came to weddings and pregnancies and other experiences for women that are deemed to be milestones. I do think that she definitely should’ve worked through that but I also don’t think that your best friend should invite somebody who participated in an affair with one of your partners (that’s a nice way of saying it, but Reese was a side bitch turned main. Yes we know that it’s a man’s choice to do that but those choices are still harmful for women who were in Joans position, especially dealing with something like that so young….I wouldn’t forget it either! That lady would have gotten a hello from me and that’s it). That is such a vile thing to do. Toni did that shit before she knew anything about her diagnosis or what Brian had done. I don’t even think my worst enemy would do that. I knew from that point on that this was gonna be some bullshit because nobody had any respect for anyone during Toni’s wedding planning.

Oh baby I am PISSED. I got braids frequently and left my hair out and my edges aren’t as full as they used to be. I wanted to try a high end hair growth serum and put this on the Christmas list. I got it!

I should have asked for the f*cking sacred drops. This serum is great other than the gross flakes/beads that don’t actually melt in your hands or on your hair. I have tried using it right after a shampoo with no product, I have tried using it after rubbing my hands together like an idiot trying to melt or pop the beads, and I tried massaging my hair for like 5 mins straight after already massaging it when applied. I am exhausted. Has anyone else used this? Is this an “under the wig” serum?

I used the ordinary and had the same flaking issue but with weekly washing it wasn’t as bad. I’d have to wash my hair every 3 days with this shit. I’m over it. 4/10 rating for me