u/the1975core

i (22f) was dating my ex (21f) ld for 3 months. she lives in eu and i live in na. she was supposed to stay 9 days, but i left on day 7.

that morning, we were walking to the bus stop. i was checking directions and replying to friends/family while she smoked. she stopped walking to see if i'd notice, then told me it bothered her when someone was on her phone while spending time with her.

i said i understood, but we'd been together for a week and i needed to respond to people sometimes. after that, she gave me the silent treatment for essentially the entire day. she repeatedly walked ahead and wouldn't respond when i tried to talk to her. we were in an unfamiliar, extremely crowded part of the city, and i had to weave through crowds to catch up. since she was still angry, i suggested we go back.

on the way, she continued walking far ahead. while trying to catch up after we missed a turn, i was hit by a bike. she didn't ask if i was okay and kept walking. i stopped trying to get her to talk to me.

later, she walked so slowly behind me that we nearly missed our bus, and i had to hold it for her. i became irritated and told her to hurry up. back at the airbnb, i went out to smoke and got mcdonald's because i hadn't eaten all day. she hadn't eaten either, but i was angry and didn't buy her anything. she was upset. we had a argument. she said i'd dismissed her feelings and made her feel crazy. i snapped and said i'd tried to communicate multiple times, she'd repeatedly walked away from me in a crowded unfamiliar city, and she'd turned a five-minute disagreement into a 7+ hour conflict.

i left that night and stayed with a friend.

the next morning, she asked if i wanted to break up. i said yes. i asked whether she wanted me to stay for the remaining two days. she explicitly said she didn't want me there and wanted me to leave. i asked multiple times if she'd be okay alone and offered to stay at the airbnb/with my friend until her flight. she insisted she'd be fine and wanted me to go. so i left her the airbnb i'd paid for, groceries i'd bought, my friend's number, and instructions for getting around and to the airport. i also said i'd help if she needed anything.

afterward, her mother called, saying she was hysterical because i'd left her alone in a foreign country. i explained that my ex had explicitly asked me to leave. today, her mother texted again asking me to find someone to drive her to the airport, saying you don't just leave someone alone in a foreign country. i offered my ex money or an uber to the airport, but she told me to stop texting her, said she didn't need my help, and told me to ignore her mother. my friends think i'm NTB because she's 21, an adult, and explicitly told me multiple times to leave. my mom thinks i'm TB because i shouldn't have left someone visiting from another country alone after a breakup.

tldr; aitb for leaving after she explicitly asked me to, or did i have a responsibility to stay because she was visiting from another country?

i (22f) was dating my ex (21f) ld for 3 months. she lives in eu and i live in na. she was supposed to stay 9 days, but i left on day 7.

that morning, we were walking to the bus stop. i was checking directions and replying to friends/family while she smoked. she stopped walking to see if i'd notice, then told me it bothered her when someone was on her phone while spending time with her.

i said i understood, but we'd been together for a week and i needed to respond to people sometimes. after that, she gave me the silent treatment for essentially the entire day. she repeatedly walked ahead and wouldn't respond when i tried to talk to her. we were in an unfamiliar, extremely crowded part of the city, and i had to weave through crowds to catch up. since she was still angry, i suggested we go back.

on the way, she continued walking far ahead. while trying to catch up after we missed a turn, i was hit by a bike. she didn't ask if i was okay and kept walking. i stopped trying to get her to talk to me.

later, she walked so slowly behind me that we nearly missed our bus, and i had to hold it for her. i became irritated and told her to hurry up. back at the airbnb, i went out to smoke and got mcdonald's because i hadn't eaten all day. she hadn't eaten either, but i was angry and didn't buy her anything. she was upset. we had a argument. she said i'd dismissed her feelings and made her feel crazy. i snapped and said i'd tried to communicate multiple times, she'd repeatedly walked away from me in a crowded unfamiliar city, and she'd turned a five-minute disagreement into a 7+ hour conflict.

i left that night and stayed with a friend.

the next morning, she asked if i wanted to break up. i said yes. i asked whether she wanted me to stay for the remaining two days. she explicitly said she didn't want me there and wanted me to leave. i asked multiple times if she'd be okay alone and offered to stay at the airbnb/with my friend until her flight. she insisted she'd be fine and wanted me to go. so i left her the airbnb i'd paid for, groceries i'd bought, my friend's number, and instructions for getting around and to the airport. i also said i'd help if she needed anything.

afterward, her mother called, saying she was hysterical because i'd left her alone in a foreign country. i explained that my ex had explicitly asked me to leave. today, her mother texted again asking me to find someone to drive her to the airport, saying you don't just leave someone alone in a foreign country. i offered my ex money or an uber to the airport, but she told me to stop texting her, said she didn't need my help, and told me to ignore her mother. my friends think i'm NTJ because she's 21, an adult, and explicitly told me multiple times to leave. my mom thinks i'm TJ because i shouldn't have left someone visiting from another country alone after a breakup.

TLDR; aitj for leaving my ex alone in a foreign after she explicitly asked me to, or did i have a responsibility to stay because she was visiting from another country?