I need ur advices please!!!!
Me (26 Enfp female) and my istp (27yo male) male friend have been friends since august 2015
We have feelings for each other that grew with time and we deeply trust one another and learning to communicate in a way we would both be comfortable (it's shown mutual effort qe put together.... nothing agreed verbally)
We dont meet much irl cause he lives in another city Last time i met him was on 28 january 2026 Yestetday his father died (he wad diagnosed with intestine cancer) he told me around 11pm and i consoled him and he replied back on 2am Since then hasnt spoke and i'm not double texting and idont even kniw what to say cause i cant imagine how he feels and the questions like hyd or checking on him feels overwhelming
I thought to go meet him on monday but i'm afraid that will be a bad timing for him
So i'm seeking ur advices guys
I will just go to.him walk abit and talk and then come back (30min in total or less if he feels overwhelmed or uncomfortable)
I wanna help him, be with him but in this situation i feel like i'm useless and cand ease him