u/thecrabrangooner

i 20F, met up with my ex boyfriend 22M to give back his sweatshirt from a long time ago, and found out my boyfriend was outside the restaurant watching us, and didn’t tell me about it even after i gave him multiple chances to (i saw his location after my ex left to see if i could come over and hangout).

me and my ex broke up in 2023 - 2024, and had a really bad falling out. after, i met my now 20M, boyfriend who has treated me pretty well for the most part for around 2 and a half years. i met up with my ex once after our breakup just to apologize and get closure over coffee. it went well and nothing weird happened, and i was glad to have finally wrapped it up.

months ago i found my exes old hoodie in a pile of clothes that i had no idea i still had, it used to be his favorite & since we were on good terms now, i let him know i had it and would be giving it back. outside of these occasions, we don’t talk out of respect for my partner, and i truly think we ended for a reason and have zero intentions or feelings of getting back together with him—that’s true even if i wasn’t in a relationship.

my boyfriend now isn’t a jealous person, in fact sometimes i think it’s odd he never feels that way, and it makes me feel a little uncared for. now, i’d never want him to be jealous on purpose, but there are even times his friends have flirted with me and he says nothing and tells me he really doesn’t care. i don’t want him to be upset, but i feel like it’s only natural to have feelings about that stuff.

back to the main story, i met up with my ex at a coffee place and had pleasant conversation about life and how his education was going, we ended up sitting in the car afterwards for air conditioning since it’s summertime, and super hot out. i guess my boyfriend saw i was in the parking lot for 20 minutes and came over to spy on me. he has my location and knew we’d be meeting up, and he also is allowed to read every dm exchanged between me and my ex. since there’s no real reason to see my ex again, this would be the last time id meet with him just to give his final thing back and wish him luck.

i asked my bf if i could come over and watched his location race back home. i didnt say anything thinking he’d tell me what he did and could maybe have a laugh about it. i told him about our conversations and everything we did, and asked him if he had anything to tell me and he said no. i pressed him on this multiple times and asked him what he had been doing while i was out & he lied and said he was playing video games.

at the end of our hangout i told him i saw his location and asked why he was lying to me. none of this was an argument and was a really calm talk. he said if he didn’t see me in the parking lot he wouldn’t have come to spy on me, but it rubs me the wrong way that he lied to me. he also did it so incredibly easily that it made me super worried about what else he could be lying about?

he apologized for it & i understand what his concern was, but i also feel gross about the fact he was lying to me & that it was so convincing. neither of us have ever been unfaithful, and both of us have only lied slightly once about valid things a long time ago. he knows i dislike lying, and i had told him never to lie to me again the one time he did slightly lie about something, and i obviously do the same for him. im a really open and honest person in relationships and i don’t get why he wouldn’t just tell me. he said it’s embarrassing but i feel like i’ve told him lots of embarrassing moments i’ve had. i don’t know how to feel about this.

hello! i’m a 20 year old female who has been on birth control for about 7 years now (was on a couple diff pills for 4ish years, patch for 2ish years, and iud for 6 months).

I’ve always weighed about 125 - 127 pounds, and because i’m 5’2, this weight isn’t low for me and has always been seen as healthy by my physicians. i decided to try the iud for 6 months and ended up gaining some water weight, totaling at about 135 pounds. i got sick of being on birth control after that just because of the other symptoms it was causing me—not the smal amount of water weight gain.

after i got off of the iud, i didn’t go back on birth control & i dropped 3 pounds almost immediately. but then i started gaining weight a month later with honestly no differences in my amount of exercise, or eating habits. i gained 10 pounds within maybe a week and was up at 145-147 for a while. at the same time, i was getting two very light periods since my body wasn’t properly recalibrating yet. i was also having extreme breast soreness and swelling, acne, moodiness, etc. it was genuinely hell for me.

after three months i went to a doctor and she completely belittled me and said to go on ozempic…? i’m a 20 year old who doesn’t drink, smoke, party, etc. and i eat pretty decently, nothing crazy healthy but nothing crazy unhealthy. she drew some blood and it came back that my liver enzymes were pretty high—but that was all. immediately after that appointment i caved and went back on birth control because i had been suffering the last 3 months.

because of my liver enzymes, they called me back to speak to a different doctor. she believed me and said she’d run some tests on my blood they already took to check on my hormones. they then mishandled it or didn’t put the order in on time & i had to go in a week later to get it drawn again. i have my results back which i can include. she kept reassuring me that we were gonna figure it out and said she’d have an answer for me in a day or two. she then proceeds to send me this very long and vague message admitting she doesn’t know what’s wrong. after that, i stopped replying because i just felt so exhausted and hopeless.

however, its been about a month since then. i finally got a normal period about a week ago (really heavy and painful but that’s normal for me), and i still feel so bloated and im still at 147 to 150 now. im really concerned, and ive been super self conscious about my body as well. i just want to go back to normal. i cant see my usual person because shes booked months in advance & it’s impossible to see her.

i’ll include my lab results if anybody has had anything similar, i know most will not be qualified medical specialists but maybe something similar has happened. will i go back to normal?

results:
Estradiol: 10.2 pg/mL
FSH (Follicle Stimulating Hormone): 3.63 mIU/mL
Progesterone: 0.612 ng/mL
Prolactin: 29.1 ng/mL

time of testing was right before ovulation or just starting if my app was correct, which it generally almost always is

hello! i’m a 20 year old female who has been on birth control for about 7 years now (was on a couple diff pills for 4ish years, patch for 2ish years, and iud for 6 months).

I’ve always weighed about 125 - 127 pounds, and because i’m 5’2, this weight isn’t low for me and has always been seen as healthy by my physicians. i decided to try the iud for 6 months and ended up gaining some water weight, totaling at about 135 pounds. i got sick of being on birth control after that just because of the other symptoms it was causing me—not the smal amount of water weight gain.

after i got off of the iud, i didn’t go back on birth control & i dropped 3 pounds almost immediately. but then i started gaining weight a month later with honestly no differences in my amount of exercise, or eating habits. i gained 10 pounds within maybe a week and was up at 145-147 for a while. at the same time, i was getting two very light periods since my body wasn’t properly recalibrating yet. i was also having extreme breast soreness and swelling, acne, moodiness, etc. it was genuinely hell for me.

after three months i went to a doctor and she completely belittled me and said to go on ozempic…? i’m a 20 year old who doesn’t drink, smoke, party, etc. and i eat pretty decently, nothing crazy healthy but nothing crazy unhealthy. she drew some blood and it came back that my liver enzymes were pretty high—but that was all. immediately after that appointment i caved and went back on birth control because i had been suffering the last 3 months.

because of my liver enzymes, they called me back to speak to a different doctor. she believed me and said she’d run some tests on my blood they already took to check on my hormones. they then mishandled it or didn’t put the order in on time & i had to go in a week later to get it drawn again. i have my results back which i can include. she kept reassuring me that we were gonna figure it out and said she’d have an answer for me in a day or two. she then proceeds to send me this very long and vague message admitting she doesn’t know what’s wrong. after that, i stopped replying because i just felt so exhausted and hopeless.

however, its been about a month since then. i finally got a normal period about a week ago (really heavy and painful but that’s normal for me), and i still feel so bloated and im still at 147 to 150 now. im really concerned, and ive been super self conscious about my body as well. i just want to go back to normal. i cant see my usual person because shes booked months in advance & it’s impossible to see her.

i’ll include my lab results if anybody has had anything similar, i know most will not be qualified medical specialists but maybe something similar has happened. will i go back to normal?

results:
Estradiol: 10.2 pg/mL
FSH (Follicle Stimulating Hormone): 3.63 mIU/mL
Progesterone: 0.612 ng/mL
Prolactin: 29.1 ng/mL

time of testing was right before ovulation or just starting if my app was correct, and it basically always is.