u/thedatamafia

So one of my cousin bros is currently searching for alliance (typical arranged marriage setup), and while discussing matches, I heard some rules/preferences from elders which honestly felt a bit strange to me.

Like:

• They don’t want a girl who is a single child because according to them “single children don’t know sharing” and will be too attached to parents.
• They also avoid families where both siblings are girls. Reason they gave is later the groom may be treated like their own son and expected to take care of everything because there’s no brother in the family.

This was said very casually like it’s a normal thing in matchmaking discussions.

I’m not even trying to start a fight or anything, just genuinely curious — how common is this mindset in Indian arranged marriages? Have you people also heard similar “filters” from families?