u/theflyingpiggies

There were a few things I wasn’t entirely obsessed with but that’s natural. No show is going to be perfect for everyone. All around I enjoyed the show.

The one big thing I started to get really bothered by was the fact that Hannah is giggling 24/7. Unless it’s an incredibly serious moment (such as in the car after the meal with Garrett’s dad), that girl is giggling non stop through every line she says, even when there’s literally nothing funny happening. It felt natural at first, as she came off as nervous, maybe a bit socially awkward, and out of her depth, but by the Thanksgiving episode it was really grating on me. Why does every single line need to be said while laughing and giggling.

This is absolutely no hate towards the actress. I thought she made a lot of great acting choices in other regards, not to mention she is stunning and a great singer. It was just this one particular acting choice that really wasn’t doing it for me. And criticizing one acting choice does not mean you’re hating on an actor themselves.

I think part of the problem is the binge model. If I had been watching the episodes week to week, I don’t think I would’ve noticed it that much. But spending hours on end every day watching one character… it started to just get to a point where I couldn’t not notice how much of each episode is spent with Hannah laughing at things that are not worth being laughed at.

A few weeks ago I was on a 6-hour plane ride, sat in front of a three year old child.

I try to be very patient with kids on planes, as I know their parents are (usually) doing the best they can and are probably way more stressed and panicked about their child misbehaving than I am.

That being said, the child I was sitting in front of was kicking my seat non-stop for hours on end. Purposely, and pretty hard. However, mom was asking her to stop, so I just leaned forward and let it slide for the majority of the ride. I’ve had a lot of pretty egregious plane experiences where the parent isn’t even trying, so at this point even a modicum of effort is appreciated. But as we got into the last hour of the flight, I started to get pretty annoyed. While I initially appreciated that the mom was asking her kid to stop, I was getting pretty frustrated by the fact that that clearly wasn’t working, and there were no further attempts beyond just saying stop. Never took her kid for a walk up and down the aisle, never put her hand on the kids legs to keep her from kicking. I was also slightly grumpy as I had tried to get some sleep but everytime I was close to falling asleep, I’d be jolted awake by a hard kick.

Finally, as we’re entering into the last hour of the ride, the kid starts kicking as hard as she can. Mom isn’t saying anything. So I turn to the back, don’t really make eye contact with the kid or anything, just turn in the general direction so I can be heard, and said in a very nice tone “please stop kicking my seat”.

Bad move.

Mom flips her shit.

Mom: “You do not speak to my child. She is three.”

I respond, again as politely as I can “I understand that, but I did pay for this seat-“

Mom: “No, you do not ever speak to my child. I have asked her to stop-“

Me: “-I’ve heard and I really do appreciate that-“

Mom: “She is three years old. You speak to me, you don’t get to tell my child not to kick your seat”

Me: “I said please, I was trying to be polite.”

She just keeps repeatedly telling me that I don’t get to speak to her child, and I’m just repeating “Okay, I’m sorry, I was trying to be polite”

Keep in mind, I didn’t really even speak to her kid, just said it in their general direction. Not like I got up from my seat and made eye contact with the child or anything.

Finally I just turn around to get the interaction to end. Cried a little bit lmao. But was comforted by the thought that I was polite throughout the entire interaction, and I don’t think there was anything I could’ve done that wouldn’t have resulted in the mom being an asshole. I’m sure if I asked her, instead of the child, I would’ve received a similar response.

Personally, I truly don’t see what I did as wrong. I was incredibly patient for 5+ hours. I was very polite with my request. And, I’m sorry but if your child is old enough to be negatively impacting another person, then they’re old enough to be told to stop by that person. Especially if they’re refusing to listen to their parents. Gentle parenting can be a good tool, but when it’s not working, time to open the toolbox back up and find something else.

It seems like a recent trend that parents refuse to let their kids be corrected or told off by anyone but themselves and that’s just odd to me. I understand that kids will be kids, but I don’t really see why that means I’m required to allow your kid to kick me for 5 hours and never once ask her to stop. And what happens when that kid then enters school, and goes out into the real world? How is your child going to learn to take correction from someone who isn’t their parents if their parents won’t even allow them to be spoken to? And who do you think your child will grow up to be if nobody but you is allowed to correct them on their poor behavior?